35–55 only. If you require "discretion," keep moving; I don't share, and I have no room for dishonesty. I am a BBW, a witchy soul, and a Middle with 30 years in the lifestyle.Currently, I am healING, not healED. My journey with Lupus and other autoimmune issues is my priority, and I am seeking a real-life Protector and Provider strong enough to carry that weight with me. I crave the safety of a military man’s leadership—someone who understands that 24/7 TPE is a sacred responsibility built on consistency and care.At my core, I thrive when I am "under the thumb" of a capable leader. While I have a bratty streak and will test your stamina during a "takedown," my deepest desire is to be led, protected, and provided for. I am unapologetically myself—a lover of Poe, Dickinson, and the Blues—and I seek a dynamic where my submission is a gift given only to one who has earned my total trust.The Vetting (Non-Negotiable):No MAGA. This is not your space.No "No Limits." Safety is paramount.No Hookups/Cyber. I am seeking a life-long anchor, not a distraction.
I have uploaded vetting questions. If you are interested read them and answer them. Below is some information about me and I will absolutely answer the questions I posted as well. They are not from me (I borrowed them from MadamSatan on fetlife because they are excellent questions for vetting ❤️)
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UPDATE: if you believe D/s is about sex you have read too many smut books. thats absolutely NOT the foundation of a dynamic nor is it truly a dynamic-it’s kinky sex swept under the label of BDSM. While sex is fun, a dynamic it doesn’t make. If you’re only seeking sex don’t bother reaching out to me. This is NOT a hookup site. This site was designed and created for those in the lifestyle seeking actual long term relationships with partners who know and understand the lifestyle. If your profile doesn’t tell me anything about you we have nothing to connect with and I am 100% not going to be interested in interacting with you. I’m not a people collector nor does popularity draw me in. I’m not here to collect people. I’m here for actual connections-friends and potentially a partner who knows, understands and values the depth of real submission, not the physical expression that occurs naturally when power is responsibly expressed. This means if you don’t know yourself and lack control over your own life you cannot lead another. Dynamics take work, effort, transparency, communication and honesty, but most of all TIME to develop. I’m not going to rush into anything with anyone. Vetting takes time for both sides. Consent 👏 matters 👏! I’m happy to chat with almost anyone who is respectful and honest whether friendship or a potential dynamic is the goal. If my first impression of you is a “wyd” DM or something lacking thought or effort you’re not likely going to get a response from me beyond not interested or no thanks pass on this kinkster. I have numerous interests but books and music or blues and theater are always interesting topics. I am a little/middle depending on who you ask although diapers/sippy cups are hard limits which *should* exclude me from the little label some still use the term as a general label. I enjoy intelligent conversation with emotionally intelligent and available people. I’m NOT interested in hookup culture and scene play because I attach easily emotionally and I’m not willing to give to others what is not reciprocal. I don’t shame/judge those that works for but simultaneously it’s not my thing. My boundaries are firm and I stand on business regarding my boundaries. Thanks for reading and if you’re still here I have some information about myself below.Happy hunting to those seeking connection.
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I’m a middle (physically 48 🤣 but mentally closer to 9-12ish when I regress).
I can be playful and silly/goofy and I often communicate via memes, music and writing. I will slowly add new writings and such again and rebuild. It will never be the same however and I know this.
While I’m not new to the lifestyle I’m taking a new-ish approach so if you want to be added I’m returning to the basics and vetting (if I don’t already actually know you) is a REQUIREMENT. I’m protecting my peace and my sanity in doing it this way ❤.
I seek a 24/7 TPE DDlg dynamic and no I don’t expect it to go 0-wedding bells BUT this is the end goal-I date for marriage not just a placeholder until better comes along. My friends on here have seen me endure some rough shit over the years but they’ve also seen me learn, grow and rise. I am 100% demisexual and sapiosexual-for those unfamiliar that means I have ZERO interest in the physical expression of BDSM if it lacks the mental and emotional connection FIRST. Aka if you’re just in it for sex you’re barking up the wrong tree.
My Daddy becomes my entire universe (hence the slave label). I’m submissive by nature but I will only submit to one. I REQUIRE rules, ritual and consistency. If you’re not in a position to provide the structure that’s alright but you’re not going to be a good fit for me. I NEED this. The structure provides connection and consistency.
What I am NOT:
Your fuckdoll/toy to pick up when you’re bored/horny
Do NOT use honorifics with me. Those are earned on both sides of the slash with the exception of me referring to an actual D type as Sir and that is out of respect-unless we already know each other and are on familiar terms at which point it’ll be how we’ve always referred to each other 🤭🤭🤭
Boundaries/hard limits:
(Don’t cross these I will absolutely block you)
Lie to me, ever FULL STOP I have zero patience or tolerance for liars
Claim me unless you’re vetted and a dynamic has been established
Try to get me to participate in hookup culture/scene play
Casual/one and done-that’s a giant nope not gonna happen
Use honorifics with me (unless we’re in a dynamic, obvs 🤣) or demand my instant submission-I will hurt your feelings and then block you
Use silent treatment or any other form of coercive control/***.
I will add as needed for more.
As for hard limits for playtime:
Lies to me. I don’t care if you lie to others but NEVER to me. I will instantly lose trust and confidence in you and every single bit of trust. No trust = nothing to continue on any level.
Should go without saying but no minors!
Actual incest of any kind! That’s a hard NO.
*** play, scarification, breath play, *** or simulated drowning type play. I don’t judge those into it, but it’s not my kink.
No emotional sadism! Sexual sadism is an affirmative full green light but emotional is 100% off limits!
If you have questions, ask.
What I seek:
Actual connection, real and raw. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Protector/provider types that are able to calm my chaos gremlin brain and nervous system by providing safety-no I don’t care if you have a penny or millions in the bank. I love getting spoiled but my idea of being spoiled is time, attention and effort. I will 100% test your patience AND your stamina 😈 but only the one who earns the title Daddy gets that from me because that holds a special place in my heart and my mind. I’ll do a long list of dirty, sick twisted and depraved things, but only for Daddy.
A little more about me since I’m feeling more comfortable with my new account:
Born and raised in the south. I’m a true southern woman and I can dress out a buck in 15 minutes, bait my own hook-unless it’s stink bait 😂 Daddy can do that, love real camping ⛺ yes in a tent on the ground 😂, and I will absolutely holler “let’s go get stuck” to go mudding. I’m more comfortable hanging with the guys than I am other women mainly because I grew up in the country on a small farm and I don’t do the drama and chaos that many (not all) women come with nor do I partake in the gossip or fashion drama 🙄. I prefer ***s to most other humans.
I value friendships as much as romantic relationships and I am the person they call when they need emotional support or a chaos gremlin to throw hands with them as backup for a fight. I know places to hide the pieces they’d never look. I work hard and I play hard. I love music, art, poetry and literature. Poe and Dickinson are my favorite poets and have been since childhood. I LOVE the theatre 🎭 and my dad has done Shakespearean theatre since before I was born! I love renaissance fairs, fairytales, and the mythical. I’m an eclectic pagan practitioner and I will never alter that because it’s who I am. I’m a “gray witch” which means I walk between the light and the shadows, each has its purpose. It boils down to I’m not seeking to harm, but I don’t take any shit either.
As for critters I love horses, chickens-don’t EVER walk in the coop with flip flops because they WILL peck your toes off and they’re mean af, ducks, Pygmy goats, cows, iguanas, dogs, cats, mice, rats and snakes and ravens/crows are my favorite birds followed closely by owls, bats and African greys. Crows have been a favorite since childhood and they’re extremely intelligent creatures. I’m also a FT college student majoring in psychology currently on top of the 96 hour work week so if I don’t respond to a DM right away I likely haven’t seen it yet. I am also a gamer geek and will rock your shit with my half elf Druid Fizgignoduel on WoW. I also play tennis when I can although it’s been years so don’t get judgey if it takes me a hot minute to get back into it if we play 😂. Horseback riding is a favorite thing to do because riding in a wide open field at full gallop is freedom ❤. I should really go do that again soon ☺.
