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What Am I looking for?
Seems like a simple enough question, right?

Well, a little over 3 yrs ago, when the hubs passed, my whole world changed. When we met I was 12 yrs old.

The first time someone posed that particular inquiry; it literally took my breath away.

I'd known, planed, and looked forward to our plans.

THEN
IT
ALL
CHANGED

Im 56 and starting over in the partner part of my life.
Im ready now... but just recently.

So... what i is......
Someone that knows when to reel me in and when to let me fly.
A partner in crime to go play with
To travel with
to laugh, sing, and carry on with
someone to go exploring with
To go to concerts and festivals
cruises
beaches

Someone that I truly feel safe with and enjoy their company.

I've no desire to bullshit anyone.

I've nothing against fucking for fucks sake
I'm just not there at this point in my world.
I need a more basic connection before i feel comfortable enough to let go and let my freak flag fly.
AND
I'll tell you what....
If there's a connection
Keeping in mind that
if and when...
Say, a kiss happens.
If I'm not moaning in your mouth by the time that first kissing session ends.
It's not going to wor..

I've come to the realization that while being bound sets me free
I'm once bitten twice shy
no pun intended

I deserve it

So...that's my answer