BDSM Dating in Commerce

Sounds weird - I know.

I care less about satisfying my own specific kinks and tendencies than I do finding someone who's committed to a loving lifestyle, is already a happy person, who doesn't NEED all the high intensity to deal and get by, but desires it. And just candidly someone who knows how to have a conversation. We ALL have a need to be seen and heard. Me included. And I know how to listen and be present.

I"m more interested in who you are as a person...if you truly need a true dom, I don't have a high enough sadistic drive for that...but would thoroughly enjoy turning your ass whatever shade , color or pattern you like.

I believe that when we're *** and intimate, we form attachments and share energy. I've done a lot of work to get more whole, content and happy, and don't want to be exposed to random strangers' energy.

If you're aware you still have healing to do, we can do it together. I'm not looking for perfect, just someone who's at a similar level of progress and commitment.