DISCLAIMER: if you message me with something crude, like wanting to bend me over or eat me out before you even say hi, I’m not going to respond. Yes, we both know we’re in the kink, yes it’s important to me but honestly a stranger talking about having sex with me before even saying hello is not attractive. There are plenty other things on my profile to talk about or if you want to talk about kink that that’s fine, but have some class. “ what type of things are you into?” “what got you into kink”, “what makes you want a dom or what do you look for in one?”. You don’t have to jump straight into graphically, telling me what you want to do to me.
I’m a curious brat who loves to push limits and test boundaries, so if you’re looking for someone who’ll just behave…well, bye . I’m new to BDSM, and honestly, I can’t wait to explore it all. Expect lots of questions, about everything.
I’m up for almost anything once (or twice), but here are my firm nope zones: anything involving vomit, ***, feces, pet play, race play or age play. Otherwise? Let’s see what happens. I can be a switch, but honestly, I want to be the submissive at least 80% of the time. I crave ***, nipple play, teasing, being bitten especially if you’re going to leave a mark as a souvenir (I also enjoy leaving my own marks), losing control, and being thoroughly dominated. Make me squirm.
I’m looking for an actual relationship, not just a sexual relationship. I can’t see myself doing a one night stand. Either way, I expect my boundaries to be respected. if we start something intentional and for some reason it doesn’t work out but we’re still compatible in a a lot of ways I would consider a FWB situation.
Communication is huge for me. Fair warning: I ramble and send long messages (case point, this description). Not because I’m mad, because I always want to be understood. I need someone who can handle honest conversations, give and take criticism without turning it into a competition or argument, and actually engage. Please don’t make me carry every single conversation or ask all the questions. If you’re interested, show me.
Outside the bedroom, I’m a total nerd who loves learning new things, wandering around small music festivals, and listening to everything from rock and Broadway to hip-hop and jazz. I can be a homebody, so I’d love someone who’ll gently drag me out to try new adventures but, who also enjoys cozy nights in. I can cook us a nice meal, we can cuddle in bed or on the couch while watching a TV show.
I will add I am 5”10 so no offense but I’m not really interested in anyone under 6 feet. A very interesting 5”11 man may get my attention. Also, I am specifically looking for black or men of color.
