BDSM Dating in Powder Springs

I've recently switched to dating separately and honestly it has me wondering, am I actually attractive enough to pull this off lol, ive never had high self confidence, mostly because I grew up being shot down, but I used to be a real thicc boi and im not any longer. I know this sounds compliment fishy, and it kinda is but at the same time a confidence boost is much needed right now. I feel completely undesirable and if there is something I can do to change that id love and appreciate the advice.