Kinky Date BDSM contacts in Indiana

Being honest and upfront : One first and foremost I am Married. Which means if anything goes beyond talking/chatting. My wife will be made aware of. If it goes beyond a couple of dates. I would ask that you meet her. You don't have to become friends. But I'd at least want you to be comfortable talking to her.
Two, I have an OSO (Other Significant Other , poly term). We have been together over 10 years. There may come a time where I ask you to meet her.
Three, I have.... idk what to call her. A friend at the very least. But someone who wants to play around. It's just the timing never seems to be right. ... lol
Four, I am NOT trying to build a Harem. But I am poly so...I would NOT, will NOT ask you to limit who you talk to, see, possibly even date. All I would ask is that I am made aware of.
What I am looking for is a mature submissive/slave like woman. One who has attitude ,passion, fire, spirit. Both Brats and SAMs are welcome !!! And yes in my opinion a slave can be all of those things !!! She should be very masochist !!! As well as exhibitionist !!! And not afraid to explore her fantasies both in play and sex. Someone who is not only willing to look into the darkness ( both around us and inside each of us)but wants to walk into it and explore. I would prefer she be bisexual. And really big bonus points if she not only has a foot fetish. But also knows how to take care of someone's feet. Yes I love to have my feet taken care of( hot foot baths, massages, and pedicures. I'll even let you ***t my toenails. Though I get final say on color.
I also like for a woman I am involved with. To not be afraid to take the initiative. Something like surprising me on my lunch break. Hot summer night, you show up with a cold milk shake or something. Dressed inskimpy clothing.... or none at all....lol
I'm a bigger guy ... ie. FAT. I have a big beard hair all over, glasses, tattoos, and I smoke cigars. I work full time in a fairly dangerous job( I work in an aluminum foundry). And I work 3rd shift. So taking you out for breakfast is a better idea than dinner. But not opposed to going to dinner. Especially if I don't have to work that night. And I am a simple guy food wise. Meat and potatoes....lol pizza, burgers. I am not hard to please food wize. And prefer jeans and Tshirts. But doesn't mean I can't dress up if the need arises.

Other than that. Just ask me