**💋 Hey all! Best to read this or.... Don’t Bother**
Warning: this is long. Like, “grab a snack” long. But if you actually read it, congrats — you’ve already separated yourself from half the lazy crowd. This is my roadmap. My vibe, my brain, my rules. You’ll know exactly what kind of energy I bring and what kind of energy I expect back. I hate repeating myself to explain things to every new Dom i chat with, and I don't enjoy small talk that goes nowhere. I'm a very fun eager sub but I believe the best experience comes from knowing parameters so buckle up, buttercup — this is the shortcut to figuring out whether we’re going to have fun. (Please read the whole thing, I'll know if you didn't.)
Looking to get Spanked, Spoiled, and to try out a LOT of different new kinks with a new Dom. () , but my current search is to find a consistent FWB Dom whom I can build trust with so I can really stretch my kink legs and see what I'm capable of. Open to casual fun, str or ltr. def looking to be physical.)
**About Me (a.k.a. your favorite distraction)**
I’m 41, a 5'9", biological natural Latina (Chilean-born, raised in the U.S.) woman. At 306lbs so im BBW — think soft curves, a warm smile, and a little too much sass for my own good. My body is a pear-shaped build with a belly (which I'm rather self conscious about), 40D breasts, a bit of an ass and some "wiggly bits". I do have some movement issues from having had injuries/ surgeries in my past but its more like "cant run or sprint and may need to change positions often". I've been told I have "sexy eyes", a great laugh, and enough confidence to know I’m worth the effort. I understand quite a bit about kink lifestyles so I wouldn't call myself vanilla; but I'm new to physically experiencing certain things such as what I'm listing myself for. I’m friendly, funny, and way too ADHD for anything that feels ***d or boring. My energy swings between “chaotic goofball” and “flirty menace,” and honestly? Both are pretty fun.
I’m the kind of person who’ll belt out a song in the car, get the lyrics wrong, and still act like I’m headlining a concert. I love elephants, water sports, kayaking, and just about anything that lets me feel alive.
Regarding me sexually:
I enjoy giving and receiving oral, don't lick ass but love a guy who does, can handle and generally enjoy anal and anal play, can also sometimes squirt and get multiple orgasms. RN Kissing is a case by case basis or and I don't offer my pussy for penile penetration. i have quite a list of interests and "curious abouts" and Im generally open minded if we have agreed to something beforehand, I'm happy to reevaluate in a session and will always throw your interests in the mix, but I don't like being surprised by something I wasn't or didn't know if I'd be keen to do or have done to me.
Important!:
I like getting spanked. I can be a bossy, loud, strong willed person outside of the bedroom and having to submit to a man to be chastised and disciplined REALLY gets my gears going. I like it as foreplay but I also like the idea of finding someone who can discipline me in sessions if he becomes a steady Dom. I have a relatively decent tolerance to ***, impact play - if paced correctly - takes a bit of effort because it can be tough for me to break into tears and, as a masochist, I like to sink into the ***. You'll have to have a sadist side and understand that important balance of teasing and punishment. if you're one of the naturals I'll be full sub putty in your hands or across your lap
⚡ What I’m Looking For
**I do play with women and couples( always feel free to msg!) but currently am mostly looking for a Biological Male**
Someone local-ish (DC, Annapolis, Baltimore area) **Drama and Disease free** who’s confident, kind, and not afraid of a little back-and-forth. Someone who can flirt, tease, and laugh without being weird about it. I like people who *show up*, mean what they say, and don’t disappear after a few messages. I will entertain visiting Doms from further away, but finances are crazy tight and my car is a POS so its on you to make it happen.
I love playfulness/ humor, someone with dominance in personality (not ego), and someone who can match energy without trying to “one-up” me. Confidence > arrogance, always. I prefer a Dom but if that Dom wanted to switch once in a while I have the ability but would want to discuss boundaries ahead of time and i dont switch in the same play setting. Bit of a sadist? Yes please. Got patience? Even better. Bonus points if you can make me laugh so hard I forget what I was talking about.
Open to ages 21-55 for sexual play and 21-70 for nonsexual impact play. Taller than me is a plus (I love feeling small next to someone) but I'm also open to meeting with a sexy short King. I have also been with different types of guys with different abilities so I don't judge. I just ask that you please have some strength or muscle- I'm a bigger woman who needs to know you're in charge! (Now that can be hot athletic gym muscle or a BIT of a beer belly farm muscle, it really depends on your manners and charm. My fav body type are Ruggers. 😍😍) Also I know beards are all the rage as is the shagged out hair look but I have a *** issue (hair tickles give me the jibblies) so if its past the short soft phase, you need wax or ties to style/ braid/ tie it up, or its not trimmed or kept clean/neat-- not the biggest fan. And lastly, I prefer lighter skin tones, not into BBC. (Happy to know and accept everyone as people, but generally not interested as sexual partners.)
** Some Rules of Engagement **
Let’s make this easy:
- Respect, manners and consent are the minimum, not optional.
- ** I am NOT a fan of dick pics. ** Mystery is sexy — oversharing is not.
It's one thing if I asked for it, but y'all are sending these too often unsolicited. Let there remain some mystery.... through clothing is fine-- IF I ask for it! Otherwise, I'm more of a strong/fit body, piercings, tattoos, EYES and smile gal. (Happy to reciprocate and take pics for a Dom as well, but i do have limits and will not share my face with anything xrated)
- Flaking is a dealbreaker. My time and effort is valuable, and I treat yours the same way. If we plan to meet, show up. I’ll do the same. I promise I look like my photos, and I expect the same courtesy. If the vibe’s not there, cool — we’re adults, we can be honest without being rude, wish each other the best, and move forward.
- Be honest, clean, and upfront. It’s not complicated — it’s just being decent. If you sleep around (no judgement) or are poly I don't play unless I can see recent PROOF of clean STI test. I don't mess with health stuff and take hygiene and that stuff seriously. Always happy to reciprocate (my lasts test series was clean/negative and in Early Oct '25)
-I need to see your face or at least your eyes. If your genitals are all you have on your profile or all you can think to send me, you've immediately irritated me and turned me OFF. I have been with different types of guys with looks and different abilities so I don't judge. I just ask that I get to see a face and body pic. Full truth, I'm out here to get physical. I am attracted to many types and sizes of people, but if I'm not attracted to you A. I can't help it, it is what it is, and B. I will choose no to engage at all or try to be respectful and do my best to gently let you know we may not be meant to cross paths in that way. Please respect that and move forward appropriately.
✨ The Fun Side (a little tease, no spoilers)
I have a high-energy, flirty personality that thrives on chemistry. I’m curious, affectionate, and love a good mental spar. I’m a natural brat — playful, mouthy, but always with a wink. I like someone who can take the teasing and toss it right back at me.
I’m big on communication and clarity — I like knowing boundaries, likes, dislikes, and how someone’s wired. That’s how the best kind of spark happens.
🌊 Random Things You’ll Learn About Me
- I laugh loud, talk fast, and probably interrupt myself mid-sentence because my brain is running three tabs at once.
- I love ***s (dogs and elephants are my favorite and i will always stop to say hi and pet a pupper).
- My happy place is anywhere near water — swimming, kayaking, sailing, floating — doesn’t matter.
- I like adventure, connection, and people who know how to be kind *and* a little mischievous.
- If you can’t handle sarcasm, we’re doomed.
👑 Honesty Corner
I’m married and in an ENM relationship — open, honest, safe, and with full transparency. My partner’s not involved in my personal life, but safety matters, so I verify anyone I meet. That’s a non-negotiable.
I don’t host (sorry, not sorry), but I’m happy to meet somewhere neutral first — coffee, drinks, something easy and fun. If the vibe’s good, you’ll know.
In vanilla life we are drowning in debt and everything i make currently is paying for my ***, my dying car, or bills. I date those who are comfortable to provide. How much they choose to do so is up to them. I will absolutely melt into my princess side and want to be spoiled with any form of gifts, attention, and praise and will ask for it, even, but i accept when i hear no and am just blunt in the fact that my way of paying back is more fun ;)
I’m 420 friendly, enjoy a drink sometimes, and prefer people who take care of themselves — hygiene, health, and a touch of self-awareness go a *long* way.
🪄 Bonus Round: How to Keep My Attention
Be consistent.
Flirt with intent.
Have a sense of humor.
Make me laugh *and* think.
Respect my time, and I’ll match your effort tenfold.
I like people who can playfully challenge me but also make me feel safe being soft. I like to feel wanted, not chased; desired, not demanded. And yes, I can be a handful — but a fun one.
💫 The Wrap-Up
If you’ve made it this far, congrats — you’re already more attentive than most. I’m a mix of chaos, charm, and curiosity wrapped in confidence and a big laugh. I’m not here for games or empty words. I want connection, chemistry, and fun — wherever that leads.
If you can handle a smart mouth, a big heart, and a brat who gives as good as she gets… well, you might just survive me.
