Fair warning, this is a little long. I’m trying to be both clear and honest about what I’m looking for, so if you actually read all the way through, I appreciate you.
I’m 25 and generally very independent, but with someone I trust, I’m actually very happy to put some of that down. I like someone confident who takes initiative, makes plans, checks in on me, and is comfortable taking the lead. I can absolutely handle myself, I just really enjoy not always having to.
I’m pretty heavily submissive. I haven’t been in a formal dynamic before, so I don’t have experience there, but I do know what I’m drawn to. I like light bondage, biting, collars and praise, and I really like being taken care of and managed a little. Check in on me, keep me on track, notice when something is off, give me some structure. With the right person, I’m very comfortable being accountable to them and letting them have some say in what I’m doing.
I am looking for a relationship more than just a dynamic though. I want someone I genuinely like being around, can be comfortable with, go places with, cuddle on the couch with, annoy regularly, and generally do normal girlfriend things with. I want the relationship and the dynamic, not one as a substitute for the other.
Outside of this, I work with kids and horses, have a dog I adore and two cats who . . . live with me. I almost always have an audiobook or music playing, love good food and traveling when I can, and will take a speakeasy/lounge over a club every time.
I’m pretty reserved at first, but very affectionate once I’m comfortable. I like feeling wanted and I really like someone who takes the initiative to show me that. Reach for me first, pull me closer, make the plan.