First off, the big stuff. I am currently married. We have an open marriage. He dates independently of me, and I date independently of him. We have ***, and I'm not open to having more. He expects a companion to treat me respectfully, and otherwise, is chill. Being as direct as possible, it's easier for us than divorce right now.
Secondly, and for most a deal breaker, I don't currently drive. I've never needed to due to two perfectly working legs, city buses, and greyhound before moving out of the city.
I keep busy, but have alternate communication.
Hobbies and down time:
* Poker lover, though not a gambler.
* PS4 gamer (survival genrea lately).
* Reading, across the board except horror.
* Music junkie, from Vivaldi and Beethoven to NuBreed and Ani Difranco, Dory Previn, Portishead, Bush, Kenny Wayne Shepherd Band, Cage the Elephant and Tech9 (truly all over the board).
*Fishing and fire pits, with interests in camping, hiking, rock climbing, horseback riding, gardening, and swimming.
*Great food, red wine, coffee, tobacco smoker.
Values, ethics, and intelligence matter most to me. You take nothing but who you are from this life, and I believe that is what people should cultivate.
I'm primarily a sapiophile. Intelligence matters to me.
Drug, disease, 420, etc free. Social or very occasional drinker, tobacco smoker.
No content selling, no dramatic emergencies, no plastic, no filters, etc. I was a freelance model for 11 years, my photos are all just typical make-up and natural light via a phone camera. Direct and open, unapologetically blunt, and not a party favor. I hope you get my gist here.
Looking For:
Long Term
Emotional Connection
Romance
Attentive
Friends
MUTUAL Quality, Authenticity and Honesty Communication
Respect
Attraction
Discretion
Flexible Schedule
Leadership
Independence
Freedom
Individuality
More than a fling, less than a ring.
I am not "marriage and kids" minded. I've been there and done that twice.
All Ethnicities
RESPONSIBLE Open Relationship
True Love? It'll be what it'll be.
My prior relationships were emotionally connected, mutually invested, years-long, wonderful experiences, not NSA casual. I am not what is typical for the environment here.
Intelligence and engaging conversation with depth and substance matter to me. I'm primarily a sapiophile, and I won't meet someone I don't already actually LIKE.
I do request 2 things prior to a more physical progression:
1. Verification of identity, background, etc. Why? Because I'm not prey or stupid. This is the internet and God knows who some of you really are.
2. Current, dated, valid health check.
* I look for character above professional success.
* I look at the internal above the external.
* I prioritize compatibility above physical attraction.
* I'm attracted to intelligence and depth above silly, funny, party, and dry chatter.
* Emotional intelligence, wisdom, personal accountability, etc is worth more to me than your education.
* I respect maturity, responsibility, integrity, and leadership, not fun, funny, or "hot".
* Quality is key here.
Your professional, sexual, and physical qualities don't give you an auto-pass, and your "lack of" these qualities are not automatically disqualifiers.
Exit Immediately if you're one of the following, and Terms:
- Conservative religious.
- Anti any race, religion, etc. Respect everyone or you're no-one.
- "Patriarchal" MAGA. Being a gentleman is fine. Being a misogynistic bully is absolutely NOT.
- Die hard vegan. Sorry, humans have canine teeth for a reason, the end, and no you won't convert me.
- Seeking NSA hookups. NEXT me. Seriously. Understand, I am highly selective in who I spend my time with, and how, and why. If you're looking for typical, I'm not the one for you. I value balanced depth and independence, and connection.
- Fad boy? A box of plastic and no depth? Having fun as just a bedroom spice? Next.
* MUTUAL QUALITY is mandatory.
Incompatibility:
A simple "I don't think we'll be compatible" is sufficient for loss of interest, on both ends, without hard feelings or explanation.
I understand what this place tends to focus on. However, there is a mindset I'm seeking, not nothing more than a bedroom scene.
All good? Then drop a line to say hello. I do NOT respond to everyone.
