I spent ten years healing from an abusive and traumatic relationship, only to be retraumatized again in January. I refuse to let what was done to me define who I am. It does inform some of my boundaries—and that’s okay. During those ten years, I chose celibacy, and I will not return to it after the most recent attack.
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My boundaries must be respected. If that isn’t something you can honor, then that’s fine—please move along. I’m at a stage in life where I don’t need someone to be happy. I’m already happy. I’m looking for someone who adds to that happiness, not someone who becomes responsible for it.
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I will not be your parent. You are an adult and capable of doing adult things—you managed before me, and you can continue to do so. I am not a maid, a cook, a secretary, a toy, or a doormat. Healthy dynamics are built together; they are not dictated by one person. If you’re looking for control rather than partnership, we are not aligned. Any relationship or dynamic that works requires open communication, honesty, respect, care, and understanding. These are nonnegotiable.
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I’m looking for someone who can hold me up on the days I need it, someone who feels like a safe place and a calm in the storm. If you can’t lead with kindness, compassion, consistency, and inner strength, I genuinely wish you the best.
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If your introduction consists of explicit photos, that already tells me we’re not compatible. I don’t need a face photo, but something that represents who you are would be appreciated. If you can’t take the time to write or maintain a profile, that’s also a pass for me.
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I’m open to making new friends, expanding my circle, and continuing to learn. Feel free to message me—just know I’m not here every day, and sometimes I go a week or two without checking in.
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I’m a fiercely protective mom to a boy, a cat, and my plants—all three are nonnegotiable. I don’t smoke or use ***, and I drink occasionally. I’m 5’6”, have a mom body, and I’m actively working on getting stronger and healthier. If you’d like to join me in that, I’d welcome it. All of my photos are less than a year old and were taken in 2025.
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