BDSM Dating in New York

I’m completely new to BDSM and looking for a woman who is interested in building a dom/sub LTR. My goal is to find a monogamous relationship, but I’m also open to have friends with benefits. I’m mostly looking for someone who is a domme or a dom leaning switch. It’s OK if you’re older than me and I don’t mind dating someone who lives in another country or state.