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hello, looking for a daddy dom and or kinky dates Kinks: impact play, sensory deprivation, daddy dom, cnc, orgasm control, mutual masturbation , bondage and ropes much more I can’t think off atm 420 friendly
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.
Female (56) Durham, North Carolina
I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give
Female (40) Durham, North Carolina
I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
hirsute full figured queer latina looking for in-person d/s relationship. tested (std/i & covid), sub leaning switch, locals only, must be able to host. **just looking for friends at the moment! not many kinky friends & would love to make more! interested in yapping?¿ inquire within 🖤**
Female (25) Durham, North Carolina
looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
~•°☆ Pet Adoption ☆•°~ 02/03/26 Stray Seeking Disciplined and Firm Handler THE BASICS: 26F | 5'6" | 189lbs | NC, USA Submissive and Intelligent Pet/Prey [Cat, Bunny, Fox, Wolf, Horse, Panda] THE SITUATION: I am a soon-to-be stray currently in a situation where my living space isn't guaranteed or reliable. I am without a job, and have been unable to keep one long term. I also come with my own pet cat (her name is Dolce), and would need to take her with me as well as be provided transportation to you. (I live in Durham, do not have a vehicle). That is why I think it would be best for me and my cat to be in an environment where she can be an indoor/outdoor cat ( needs a yard) and her and I are able to have our own private space/room. ~ I am looking for someone willing to take me in as their adopted pet of choice, and provide their pet with a private room and access to food following the allowed upon diet of your choosing. A supportive Handler whom can provide shelter, food, a private living space for me and my cat and Wi-Fi, all for an indeterminate amount of time. I am willing to relocate (for the right Handler) if they are able to facilitate the transition! I need to be rehomed by the end of this month. I can offer servitude in the forms of cooking, cleaning, physical intimacy, socializing, gaming, participating in training regiments, scening, participating in social events, participating in hypnosis/condtioning sessions, and more in exchange for these things based on your needs and interests, I am also willing to wear any desired uniforms and dress however is preferable to my handler and make myself available at any times specified by my handler. Due to not having my own resources, that is all I can offer in return for your generosity and kindness. ---- I am interested in/into: high-intensity training, coorperate domestic discipline, 24/7, contracts, TPE, collaring, conditioning, uniforms, heavy groping, exercise control, diet control, wardrobe control, orgasm control, cum, mind control, bondage, hypnosis, exhibitionism, brainwashing, ***ing/abduction play, impact play, public play, cnc, primal/prey (prey/hunted), knife play, shibari, free-use, cosplay role-playing, hentai-train,groping, public-groping,hypnotized,tentacle/plant-monster,aheago,creampies,sleep-groping. I am not interested in & do not consent to: bodily refuse, period sex, injuries, ***, illegal acts, uretheral play, anal (giving/receiving), stretching, permanent scars/markings, abandonment, manipulation, ***, ***, strangulation, body alterations/modifications, invasion(s) of privacy, *** of my self/rights. ---- THE DETAILS: I am looking for an enriching and transformative dynamic where I feel and am safe, and my boundaries and privacy are respected and my opinions are acknowledged. I thrive under a trusted hand, and firm, clear expectations and boundaries. I work best with routines and self-discipline. I am willing to let you set my schedules and routines, however I am capable of setting these myself. I am especially interested in en***d exercise routines and spankings for incomplete tasks. Some of my kinks involve hypnosis, I am willing to be the subject for an experience hypnotist, and explore the psychological depths of power exchange. I have also mentioned interest in CNC, generally heavy groping, potentially sleep use if the trust is there, I am open to discussing which ones you have and which ones we share. I use the stoplight system for CNC safety protocols, RED being my safeword. I've also mentioned exhibitionism, this is mostly light-groping in risqué places, wearing certain gear in public and nothing else unless we have the trust and time needed for anything more. If 24/7 is your style, I'm willing to stay in pet mode when in your presence/spaces we share, but I will be returning to standard behavior when I am in my personal space. I expect to have my privacy respected when my door is closed/locked. If you would like to have me write in a journal or notebook that you can read, I expect one to be provided, and that my personal ones will not be handled or viewed in any manner. I expect my belongings to not be searched or invaded in any way. Including but not limited to my phone, bags, folders, books, wallets, storage containers, clothes, and so forth. Im interested in having a "transitional ritual" for pet space. EXPECTATIONS/BOUNDARIES: I expect to be able to bring my cat I expect to have a private room, acess to food (for me and my cat) and strong wifi I expect to have my privacy respected when my door is closed/locked If you would like to have me write in a journal or notebook that you can read, I expect one to be provided, and that my personal ones will not be handled or viewed in any manner. I expect my belongings to not be searched or invaded in any way. Including but not limited to my phone, bags, folders, books, wallets, storage containers, clothes, and so forth. SAFEWORDS&LIMITS: I use the stoplight system for CNC safety protocols, RED being my safeword. I am not interested in & do not consent to: bodily refuse, period sex, injuries, ***, illegal acts, uretheral play, anal (giving/receiving), stretching, permanent scars/markings, abandonment, manipulation, ***, ***, strangulation, body alterations/modifications, invasion(s) of privacy, *** of my self/rights. --- HOW TO APPLY: Please message me with: • Your Rules: Your non-negotiables for your house, the power dynamics, and my behavior as your pet. • Your Strongsuits: Which mentioned interests/conditions do you work with/like best? • The Vision: How do you plan to facilitate the meeting & transition/move in? • If you are an experienced hypnotist interested in adoption, please state what triggers you wish to install and their function. NEEDS: • Shelter (26F&Fcat) • Sanctuary (safety&protection) • Food (human&cat) • Private room w/ bed • Cat carrier • Transportation assistance ~•°☆ Adopt by 02/21/26 for special thanks! ☆•°~
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (55) Durham, North Carolina
would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party
Female (29) Durham, North Carolina
I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)
Female (42) Durham, North Carolina
i’m looking for a teacher, a daddy i can look up to. very much a sapiosexual + sensualist. i’m new to the lifestyle and am down to explore with the right person/dynamic. digital chemistry & connection are everything. aftercare and intentionality are a must. i just want to be a good girl💘
Female (34) Durham, North Carolina
🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
New to all this. Single again after 20 mostly unsatisfying years. I think I am naturally submissive but haven’t had anyone who knew what to do with that. My ex would try sometimes but it just made me laugh. would love someone with real masculine energy lol. I read a lot and realize there is a whole world out there that I’ve been missing.
Female (45) Durham, North Carolina

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I have a rich daddy fetish. I’m lookin for an EATER!! ….&& make sure I have what I need so I can’t wait to see you soon! In need of spankings, guidance and grace. Tell me something daddy
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
hello, looking for a daddy dom and or kinky dates Kinks: impact play, sensory deprivation, daddy dom, cnc, orgasm control, mutual masturbation , bondage and ropes much more I can’t think off atm 420 friendly
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
I am in a D/s relationship with my fiance, we are also Poly and swingers. He is my Daddy Dom. I am looking for a 2nd partner. I have a lot of love to give
Female (40) Durham, North Carolina
Goddess Domme Mistress - In Durham, NC Do you love feet, especially mines? DO NOT contact me if you can't handle no, no thank you or we are not a good fit. I am over supposed to be grown men throwing tantrums and calling me out my name when I decline. I have choices and preferences just like you do! What?s a FemDom to do???? I have this fantasy? I want a group of male subs! I want them all naked at my feet willing and wanting to please and impress me. I want to direct them to suck and fuck each other while I watch with a drink in my hand. I think I will call it game night. Now I just need a guest list. Let me know if you want to play.
Female (56) Durham, North Carolina
i’m looking for a teacher, a daddy i can look up to. very much a sapiosexual + sensualist. i’m new to the lifestyle and am down to explore with the right person/dynamic. digital chemistry & connection are everything. aftercare and intentionality are a must. i just want to be a good girl💘
Female (34) Durham, North Carolina
~•°☆ Pet Adoption ☆•°~ 02/03/26 Stray Seeking Disciplined and Firm Handler THE BASICS: 26F | 5'6" | 189lbs | NC, USA Submissive and Intelligent Pet/Prey [Cat, Bunny, Fox, Wolf, Horse, Panda] THE SITUATION: I am a soon-to-be stray currently in a situation where my living space isn't guaranteed or reliable. I am without a job, and have been unable to keep one long term. I also come with my own pet cat (her name is Dolce), and would need to take her with me as well as be provided transportation to you. (I live in Durham, do not have a vehicle). That is why I think it would be best for me and my cat to be in an environment where she can be an indoor/outdoor cat ( needs a yard) and her and I are able to have our own private space/room. ~ I am looking for someone willing to take me in as their adopted pet of choice, and provide their pet with a private room and access to food following the allowed upon diet of your choosing. A supportive Handler whom can provide shelter, food, a private living space for me and my cat and Wi-Fi, all for an indeterminate amount of time. I am willing to relocate (for the right Handler) if they are able to facilitate the transition! I need to be rehomed by the end of this month. I can offer servitude in the forms of cooking, cleaning, physical intimacy, socializing, gaming, participating in training regiments, scening, participating in social events, participating in hypnosis/condtioning sessions, and more in exchange for these things based on your needs and interests, I am also willing to wear any desired uniforms and dress however is preferable to my handler and make myself available at any times specified by my handler. Due to not having my own resources, that is all I can offer in return for your generosity and kindness. ---- I am interested in/into: high-intensity training, coorperate domestic discipline, 24/7, contracts, TPE, collaring, conditioning, uniforms, heavy groping, exercise control, diet control, wardrobe control, orgasm control, cum, mind control, bondage, hypnosis, exhibitionism, brainwashing, ***ing/abduction play, impact play, public play, cnc, primal/prey (prey/hunted), knife play, shibari, free-use, cosplay role-playing, hentai-train,groping, public-groping,hypnotized,tentacle/plant-monster,aheago,creampies,sleep-groping. I am not interested in & do not consent to: bodily refuse, period sex, injuries, ***, illegal acts, uretheral play, anal (giving/receiving), stretching, permanent scars/markings, abandonment, manipulation, ***, ***, strangulation, body alterations/modifications, invasion(s) of privacy, *** of my self/rights. ---- THE DETAILS: I am looking for an enriching and transformative dynamic where I feel and am safe, and my boundaries and privacy are respected and my opinions are acknowledged. I thrive under a trusted hand, and firm, clear expectations and boundaries. I work best with routines and self-discipline. I am willing to let you set my schedules and routines, however I am capable of setting these myself. I am especially interested in en***d exercise routines and spankings for incomplete tasks. Some of my kinks involve hypnosis, I am willing to be the subject for an experience hypnotist, and explore the psychological depths of power exchange. I have also mentioned interest in CNC, generally heavy groping, potentially sleep use if the trust is there, I am open to discussing which ones you have and which ones we share. I use the stoplight system for CNC safety protocols, RED being my safeword. I've also mentioned exhibitionism, this is mostly light-groping in risqué places, wearing certain gear in public and nothing else unless we have the trust and time needed for anything more. If 24/7 is your style, I'm willing to stay in pet mode when in your presence/spaces we share, but I will be returning to standard behavior when I am in my personal space. I expect to have my privacy respected when my door is closed/locked. If you would like to have me write in a journal or notebook that you can read, I expect one to be provided, and that my personal ones will not be handled or viewed in any manner. I expect my belongings to not be searched or invaded in any way. Including but not limited to my phone, bags, folders, books, wallets, storage containers, clothes, and so forth. Im interested in having a "transitional ritual" for pet space. EXPECTATIONS/BOUNDARIES: I expect to be able to bring my cat I expect to have a private room, acess to food (for me and my cat) and strong wifi I expect to have my privacy respected when my door is closed/locked If you would like to have me write in a journal or notebook that you can read, I expect one to be provided, and that my personal ones will not be handled or viewed in any manner. I expect my belongings to not be searched or invaded in any way. Including but not limited to my phone, bags, folders, books, wallets, storage containers, clothes, and so forth. SAFEWORDS&LIMITS: I use the stoplight system for CNC safety protocols, RED being my safeword. I am not interested in & do not consent to: bodily refuse, period sex, injuries, ***, illegal acts, uretheral play, anal (giving/receiving), stretching, permanent scars/markings, abandonment, manipulation, ***, ***, strangulation, body alterations/modifications, invasion(s) of privacy, *** of my self/rights. --- HOW TO APPLY: Please message me with: • Your Rules: Your non-negotiables for your house, the power dynamics, and my behavior as your pet. • Your Strongsuits: Which mentioned interests/conditions do you work with/like best? • The Vision: How do you plan to facilitate the meeting & transition/move in? • If you are an experienced hypnotist interested in adoption, please state what triggers you wish to install and their function. NEEDS: • Shelter (26F&Fcat) • Sanctuary (safety&protection) • Food (human&cat) • Private room w/ bed • Cat carrier • Transportation assistance ~•°☆ Adopt by 02/21/26 for special thanks! ☆•°~
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
New to all this. Single again after 20 mostly unsatisfying years. I think I am naturally submissive but haven’t had anyone who knew what to do with that. My ex would try sometimes but it just made me laugh. would love someone with real masculine energy lol. I read a lot and realize there is a whole world out there that I’ve been missing.
Female (45) Durham, North Carolina
42 y/o female submissive - been heavy into the lifestyle for 3 years and am very experienced. Not looking for hookups, not looking for FWB. - Sapiosexual - Demisexual - INFP-T, 4w5 Just recently started getting into predator/prey, Hunter/stalker Here are more of my interests: Exchange (D/s) • Impact Play • Masochism (Submissive) • Bottom (Submissive) • Edge Play (Breath Play, CNC, *** Play, *** Play, knife play, etc.) • Bondage and Restraints (Rope, Bondage Cuffs, Tape, Handcuffs, Collars, Predicament, etc.) • Toy and Equipment Utilization (Spreader Bars, St. Andrew’s Cross, Whips/Floggers/Paddles/Crops)
Female (42) Durham, North Carolina
looking for events to attend!! I am Eros, Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Philautia I desire Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, Serotonin 🥂 to cliches & a dark past for the cishet men reading: clothed, plugged, caged, gagged, unfinished, ignored, and silent is the only option for you. 😏
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
I like reading, mostly dark romance I’m a very independent women, I don’t like wasting my time I like interesting people
Female (20) Durham, North Carolina
I've been out of the lifestyle for a while and wanting to get back. I've recently moved to NC from TX. I love nature, cooking, most movies, & kareoke.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
looking for a dominant man who is willing to be patient in my exploring of the kink world. looking for a deep and meaningful dynamic that goes beyond the kink, if that’s not you then keep it moving xoxo
Female (27) Durham, North Carolina
🥰Hey there, lovely souls! I’m diving back into this thrilling BDSM world and ready to connect with fellow kinksters who appreciate a little spice in their lives. *** I’m no stranger to the scene, having immersed myself as a playful sub and a true brat 🤪, but now I’m excited to explore my newly embraced dominant side. 💫 But hen the moment calls for it, I can seamlessly transition from taking charge—making you submit on your knees—to embracing my softer side as a “good girl” for Daddy. 😏 As a confident BBW, I’m all about celebrating 🎉 my curves and owning my sensuality! With the guidance of some incredible Dom mentors, I’ve discovered that my dominant style aligns beautifully with the nurturing energy of a Mommy Dom 🧑‍🧒🥰 style—a sweet blend of nurturing and playful dominance that brings out the best in my partners. If you’re ready for a connection filled with fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of mischief, let’s chat! Whether you’re looking for playful banter or something deeper, I’m here to create magic in the moment. 💖✨ 🗒️: I'm very interested in connecting with couples in the BDSM community who have an open relationship or marriage. I'm looking for friendships and learning experiences. I'm also open to meeting anyone who can help me explore experiences outside of conventional norms. currently looking for long term relationship - to build on
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
hirsute full figured queer latina looking for in-person d/s relationship. tested (std/i & covid), sub leaning switch, locals only, must be able to host. **just looking for friends at the moment! not many kinky friends & would love to make more! interested in yapping?¿ inquire within 🖤**
Female (25) Durham, North Carolina
would love to be your little pet for the night, an entertainment prop for your group of friends or the perfect caged centerpiece for your swinger party
Female (29) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. I would like to try Domme or mistress role I maybe flirting with diving into the switchyness. I would like to try. That may not stick. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (55) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (38) Durham, North Carolina
Hi! I'm new and a bit shy about all this still! I'm mostly looking for friends and to learn the ropes ;). If anyone has any event or reading suggestions, I'd love to hear them! Thank you all for making this such a great app / community!
Female (26) Durham, North Carolina
Seeking a dedicated, obedience-focused submissive for a couple-led dynamic (possible live-in) About us Married, stable, and experienced in consensual power exchange. We value trust, clarity, and follow-through. We’re down-to-earth, have a dry sense of humor, and are professional, direct, and attentive. We’re not interested in brat dynamics. If obedience isn’t your thing, we’re not a match. About him Warm, grounded, and straightforward. He says what he means and follows through. Prioritizes structure, aftercare, and clear communication. He’s been in the lifestyle for years with 20+ years as a Dominant and mentor. About me Nurse for 14+ years; grounded, caring, and calm under pressure. Homebody at heart who loves festivals in small doses, bowling, beach days, movies, restaurants, and wineries. Also into writing and ***ting. Bisexual; with women I’m affectionate and tactile—softness, kissing, cuddling. I tend to be more giving, and appreciate reciprocity. Kink: definite masochist. Impact and wax are favorites for the release and the pretty marks. Also into restraints, light electro, blindfolds, and clamps. Curious switchiness with women; I’m learning to top under his mentorship. In the lifestyle since 18. What started as kink curiosity has grown into a deeper, mental/structure-focused submission. With my current Dom, I’m in the most aligned dynamic I’ve had. What we’re looking for A true submissive who shows consistency, effort, and respect for protocol. Open to a couple-led dynamic; chemistry and compatibility come first. Live-in is a possibility if everything aligns over time. You know what you want, you communicate it, and you follow house rules once agreed. Our approach and experience Consent, safety, and aftercare are non-negotiable. Safewords honored, boundaries respected. Skilled in training/mentorship, structure, and building sustainable dynamics. We enjoy D/s with elements of bondage, impact, sensation, and role play—negotiated and tailored to the partner. Boundaries and limits No face striking. No bodily fluids. Full stop. Everything is pre-negotiated with safewords and shared limits. Our limits will align with yours; we don’t “push” past negotiated boundaries. Communication If we reach out, a brief reply (even if it’s a “no, thank you”) is appreciated. We’re here with intention—clear communication and punctuality go a long way.
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina

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