INTRODUCTION - I’m not interested in hook ups, FWB/NSA, casual kink scene play, etc. I’m looking to find a kinky long term relationship. I am a submissive at heart, but a D/s dynamic is just not realistic for me right now, due to chronic *** issues, so it would be T/b kinky bedroom activities. I have absolutely no interest in any poly situation, couples or attached men, nor anyone who wants to have play sessions or scenes with other people outside our relationship. I am looking for a monogamous 1 on 1 LTR. If you live more than 2.5 hrs away from me please dont bother trying to message me for a possible relationship. I have absolutely no interest in pursuing anything long distance, its not something I can mentally or emotionally handle. Also, I NEVER rush to meet anyone, if you cant respect that, then dont bother messaging me. If you are interested in me PLEASE DO NOT send me a sexualized message as your first introduction to me...be more respectful.
ABOUT ME - I am a BBW, 5ft, 230 lbs and have green eyes. I am not just “thicker”. Got a belly (from weight gain and from constant bloating with my IC and IBS). I eat a bland boring limited diet due to my IC & IBS. My teeth aren’t the greatest from acid reflux breaking down my enamel and meds over the years, so that’s a big insecurity of mine as well. I do suffer from chronic neck, upper back and lower back/sacral *** 24-7 (for the past 14 yrs)...if that is something that you are not able to work with me through and work around it, then please look elsewhere. I also deal with chronic migraines, IBS and IC.
I started to explore kinky activities my mid 20s. I have always been sexually submissive but then got into the lifestyle, learning about and exploring as a submissive on and off for around 10 yrs, through casual scene play partners to Doms with short term limited dynamics, along with everything I’ve researched on my own.
The top 2 are absolute must haves for me in a kinky relationship.
MY MAIN KINK INTERESTS
1. Bondage/restraints - Only thing to take into consideration is positioning as to not aggravate my neck or back ***.
2. ***d Orgasms and Edging
3. Impact Play - Thuddy impact like spanking, flogging, paddling
4. Toys - Penetrative toys will now require lots of lube and not used roughly due to my IC.
5. Wax play
MY IDEAL PERSON - I am looking for long term, so I want someone who is looking for long term as well. If you are the type who is just looking for fun but ok if something more happens, then we aren’t a good match. I want a someone who is ready and looking to settle down. If you are submissive or a bottom, we are not a match. I need someone who is dominant in/out of the bedroom. Someone who is caring, nurturing, dominant, has sense of humor, loves cats. If you are married or attached to someone, or you are only looking for FWB or NSA, please look elsewhere. You need to be understanding of and willing to work around my chronic *** issues. Ideally I am into someone within 10+/- yrs of my age. Sorry but if you’re in you’re early 20s, you can be my child and that’s too weird for me for a relationship & if you are in your 60s+ you could be my father and thats too weird for me…both a turn off. I don’t do well with long distance relationships so ideally within 2-2.5 hrs would be best. I am looking to connect with someone on the deepest of levels. I want a loving relationship where we will be devoted to each other. A relationship based and built on trust, honesty, respect, loyalty and open communication. I appreciate an actual greeting from you of “hello how are you”, rather than “hey” or messages that say how are you or what are you doing, rather than “hru” or “wryd”. Communication is extremely important. If you’re going to be busy or going to bed…tell me…don’t just stop talking and leave me hanging. Honesty is extremely important as well. Do not lie. If you start lying to me while we are just getting to know each other, that is not good for a potential relationship. A long term relationship requires commitment to each other- emotionally, mentally, sexually, and every other aspect you can think of. It means sharing everything, good and bad, and supporting each other in every possible way. That is a true partnership. That, is a true relationship.
