Note: I am childfree to the point of vasectomy and an atheist. I also cannot date anyone with cats. These are major dealbreakers for me.
I'm a Dom who's always dreamed about having "the 1950s dynamic". I've wanted to come out of the office to the smell of dinner cooking, my dog Tony snoozing nearby, and the sense of calm that comes from knowing that everyone and everything is taken care of.
What am I looking for, exactly? My submissive housewife with a modern twist. I don’t want a partner who’s stuck at home, slave to the 9-to-5 grind or chained to a job she hates; I earn enough that you wouldn't have to work if you don’t want to. I want you to be able to choose how you spend your time, whether that’s pursuing a career you’re passionate about, focusing on creative projects, or managing our home together. Ideally, you should be someone who’s fit or at least able to enjoy a good dog walk - I work out in some capacity most days and would like to meet someone who can match my energy. Bonus points if you also share my passion for cooking and good food!
I usually describe myself as “a nerd’s nerd with a gym membership”: when I’m not working (or working out), I write games (I have my own game design company); I *t miniatures; I 3D print stuff. I’m also partial to a bit of PC gaming: currently, I’m trying to finish The Binding of Isaac and Ready or Not, but I’ve also recently picked up Dispatch.
I’d be thrilled if you shared a love for tabletop, video, or just generally story-driven games.
More than shared hobbies, though, what truly defines the kind of relationship I want is the dynamic behind it: the way we relate, the way I lead, and you follow.
I’m a Dominant by nature, not just in the bedroom but in the way I live. I find fulfillment in leading, protecting, providing structure, and creating a space where my partner feels safe to let go: to relax, trust, and be your most authentic, feminine, and devoted self. I’m drawn to service-oriented, obedient, or otherwise submissive women who crave direction and consistency. I want to find a woman who feels peace in having clear roles and being cared for with purpose and authority.
My kinks lean toward the domestic and devotional: obedience, service, rituals, praise, structure, and old-fashioned discipline (always grounded in love, consent, and emotional safety). I want the kind of D/s dynamic that extends beyond the bedroom, where power exchange is woven into daily life: soft, steady, affectionate, and deeply respectful.
So what do I bring to the table?
Security. I own my own house that I’m working on fixing up, all my bills are paid on time and in full, and I've been working toward being able to retire at 40, 45 at the latest.
Safety.** I have always listened to my partners and will never engage in angry shouting matches. I want to be the person you can rely on, who helps you grow into the best version of yourself, and who you can come home to (physically and emotionally) when the world gets too loud.
I don’t want to rush into anything: instead, I want us to build this relationship step by step and at a pace that works for both of us. Ideally, we’d start with a conversation over chat for the first few days, then progress to voice or video call. From there, if we feel like there's a connection, I'd want to go on a first date that feels easy and genuine like a virtual movie date or, if you're local, a trip out somewhere you enjoy. One date should turn into two, four, more… I want slow, steady growth as we find our rhythm. I’d want to reach a place where we’re spending more time together, feeling like home to one another, before taking bigger steps like moving in or exploring what a D/s dynamic between us might look like.
At the end of the day, I’m not looking for something casual or uncertain. I want a woman who values structure, who finds security and peace in clear roles and strong leadership. I believe in setting the tone for my home: protecting, providing, and leading with both strength and consistency. In return, I want someone who takes pride in her role, who wants to trust, follow, and build something lasting by my side. If the idea of a traditional, power-exchange dynamic built on loyalty, trust, and purpose speaks to you, then you already understand the kind of bond I’m offering.
Since I've been getting a lot of time wasters and spam replies in my inbox, let me know your favorite comfort meal or ideal first date in your first message.
