Hello fellow kinksters!
Iโm back and dipping my toes into the big bad world of BDSM again after a bit of an absence.
While I am new to the Brisbane scene, I am not new to the world of kink/BDSM. I lived in London for 20 years and had a glorious time finding and exploring my kinky side over there. Spent many a night at various fetish clubs and munches with a truly wonderful bunch of kinky friends and playmates. Several longer-term D/s relationships and one ex-husband later I find myself living in Brisbane, hoping to find some similarly perverted IRL friends, play mates or longer-term D/s relationships.
In terms of a potential LTR-type connection, if you are looking for a tall, thin, super-fit extrovert who loves hiking, running and going to the gym, Iโm probably not the girl for you. If you are looking for a curvy/plus size short arse who is a quirky, curious, experimental, creative dark horseโฆhere I am! For me, the essential aspects in this type of relationship are trust, honesty and having a strong mental connection. The deeper the connection the more I can be challenged. Pushed to my limits. From that starting point, the possibilities are endless...
Kinks
When I first started exploring the big bad world of BDSM I approached it as a switch, and have experienced most aspects kink as both a Domme and sub. But the more I explored and experienced, the more I realised it is the submissive side of things that truly does it for me. As a sub I always aim to please and be a good girl. I am rarely bratty or disobedient, although I can sometimes be a little cheeky when the mood strikes me. I am also quite masochistic and have been described as a total ***slut on more than one occasion!
I enjoy most aspects of BDSM, so it is probably easier to talk about the things Iโm not particularly drawn to. While Iโve enjoyed playing with puppies and kittens in Domme mode in the past, Iโve not felt the desire to be the pet myself. Nor have I felt the urge to try the little/adult baby thing. Gags and hoods seem to set off something deeply unpleasant and upsetting, so I tend to avoid them (although blindfolds are fine- go figure!).
Kink and sex are deeply connected for me. The way my body reacts sexually to BDSM is quite amazing and intense! But this is not something that is immediately or casually offered. It is, however, immensely enjoyable once trust starts to build and a certain level of comfort is there.
A few things to note:
- Iโm not strictly heterosexual, more heteroflexible. Iโm more attracted to personality, intellect and connection rather than sex/gender or outward appearance.
- I can be a little socially awkward/shy at first, and am rubbish at small talk, but if we meet and click in real life I may well end up talking your ear off!
- If your first message to me is โhey,โ โhowโs your eveningโ or something similar Iโm unlikely to reply. Iโm quite open, honest and direct, and appreciate those who are like-minded in their communication. I think the most interesting bits of life and connection with others lie in our quirks, differences, and vulnerabilities, which often leads to quite deep conversations. So, if thatโs not your thing Iโm probably not the girl for you!
- I am a single mum with an 11 year old. Which is awesome, but it means my time is often taken up doing mum stuff, and I canโt always respond immediately to messages. I also run my own business, which can be a bit feast or famine. When going through a busy patch I may not have time to reply or even check messages on here!
- I am a breast cancer survivor (8 years in โremissionโ) and have an auto-immune sleep disorder. This means I experience some fatigue from time-to-time, but Iโm determined to not let it stop me living my best kinky life!