I don't accept random friend requests, at least send me a message to introduce yourself and chat if you want a chance of having your friend request accepted. I'm also not interested in accepting friend requests and DMs from those who think their genitals are a good idea for a pfp on a social media site. It's like receiving an unsolicited dick/genital pic everytime someone with a genital pfp sends a message. Having them in your photo gallery is fine, I just don't wanna be subjected to them without my consent. And no, being on fetish/bdsm websites is not automatically consenting to having genital pics shoved in my face every time I converse with someone. If you don’t read *at least* this basic intro to my profile to learn what I am / am not interested in and how to approach me, I'll know. Everyone who ignores the basics in approaching me will automatically be ignored. No exceptions. Thanks.
Also this is very basic so I can't believe it even has to be said, but I won't accept rudeness & entitlement from anyone, but especially not from anyone claiming to be a Dom/me, irl or online. When it comes to any kind of relationship/dynamic, my behaviour is a direct mirror of yours. You want respect, honesty & transparency, loyalty, love, etc? Then show me the same. You want my submission? Put in the effort to earn it because my submission doesn't come for free. I'm not a kink dispenser so don't treat me like one. Treating me like a kink dispenser is the fastest way to lose my respect and interest. I have a 3 strike rule for less severe violations of my boundaries.
have absolutely no tolerance for liars, mind games, and other bs. If you want/need more than one partner in your life that's ok for you so long as you're honest and upfront about it if you're into ENM/poly, but I'm strictly monogamous for me personally and all my romantic relationships, so I'm not the woman for you for anything more than platonic friendship. If you're a constant flirt who won't respect your partner's boundaries I'm not the woman for you. I'm only interested in one man at a time who is looking for an LTR with the goal of marriage or a lifelong partnership of collaring, who only needs & wants one woman for an LTR/partnership, who is ready to be in a long-term/lifelong D/s relationship. I do not have sex right off the bat and I see and treat people as human beings, not as kinks/fetishes. I need to get to know you as a person, see what you're about, and actually be in a comitted LTR with you before I allow you certain privileges. So if you're looking for casual NSA action or even just short-term, bypass me. I do not bend on this.
**Do not** approach me for anything more than a platonic friendship if:
• You only want sex and want it right away. Demisexual has a *meaning* so look it up and respect that. Every demisexual will be different on how long they need to build a bond before sexual attraction can occur, and the timing can even be different from one partner to the next, but our main need of having an established bond is a requirement and non-negotiable. No, I will not have sex before that bond is formed. No, I do not bend on this. If you want me and everything I have to offer, earn me.
• You think you can pressure me to move faster in a relationship with you than what I'm 100% comfortable with for dating and building trust and a mental/emotional bond. That's *the fastest* way to make me lose interest and I ***will*** pull away or even end the interaction/relationship if I'm not being respected and taken seriously on this. This is ***not*** up for persuasion or debate and if you try to persuade me to move faster by not listening to me and taking me seriously - even in "joking" - I *will* nope out with the quickness immediately after the conversation. I do not budge on this for *anyone,* regardless of who you are. You want to prove to me you're trustworthy? Then **do not** fuck with my autonomy and right to give or take away consent, period.
• You think you can demand my submission outside of a negotiated dynamic and relationship. If you demand or act entitled to my submission outside of that, I *will* treat you as if you've just given me permission to "brat" in the worst possible way. Consider yourself warned.
• You have *any* issues with being vetted, the vetting process and period, and with ***how*** I choose to vet you.
• You "don't believe in" negotiations, safewords, or aftercare. Miss me with that nonconsensual unkinky bs.
• Are an extreme sadist. Sadism is one of my biggest hard limits and if that's something you actually need to have in a dynamic to feel satisfied and fulfilled with the dynamic, then we're simply not compatible for anything beyond platonic friendship, period.
• Need to be raised/mothered. If you wanna act like a boy who can't do basics for yourself, how do you expect to be a Dom for another, let alone a Little/Middle? If you need to be mothered in the basics, then find yourself a Mommy Domme or some other Caregiver Dom/me because I'm not a Domme nor switch and am not interested in switching. I've been around too many vanilla guys even who acted like they wanted/needed a mother more than an actual equal partner - both from platonic friends but especially in the dating scene and potential interests, and never again.
• Looking to do TPE and change my life around. TPE *might only* be considered after you've *proven* you're worthy of my trust, respect, and submission - and even then, IF I'm comfortable enough with you to give it a try, it *won't* be 24/7. IF I feel *safe* enough to let myself go enough to try a TPE, it'll be at the timing and frequency I feel 100% comfortable with, not yours. No, this isn't up for debate. Until I feel I can fully trust you, TPE WILL be completely off the table. I have *extremely good reasons* for this so no, you will NOT be able to change my mind, period. Respect that or bypass me.
• Want a bunch of nude/sexy pics. I don't send personals and I'm not a sex worker so I won't even if you offer me payment for them.
• Are someone who tries to tone-police women's language, especially by pressuring us not to cuss. Yes, I am a woman who casually cusses for humour or to emphasise a point. No, I do not give a fuck what YOUR personal opinions on it are. And anyone who's intimidated by cussing to the point of pearl-clutching and automatically judges everyone who cusses (but especially women) is too psychologically weak for me, and not a person of quality character and intelligence. Btw, cussing is actually correlated with intelligence according to scientific studies and yes you can easily look that up. So cope or move along because I have no time for sexists who believe/say shit like "cussing isn't ladylike" - the whole "ladylike" arguments are nothing more than misogynistic bs ways of trying to nonconsensually control women's behaviours. Fuck off with those sexist double standards especially when you haven't gained anyone's consent to set those kinds of rules.
**Yes:**
• People who will actually read my profile. Seriously, that will put you leagues above the rest and actually gain my respect.
• Calling me by my actual name (ask for it in DMs) and not pet names outside of a dynamic or without asking for my consent first. And if I don't consent, RESPECT that or gtfo instead of throwing a tantrum over it. If you say you're a Dom then act like it by respecting consent.
• Caregivers/daddy-doms, brat lovers/wranglers, and sensual/pleasure doms who actually respect their sub's consent and autonomy. These are the Dom types that are my most compatible for dynamics.
• Someone strictly monogamous (or flexible enough to be) when it comes to a romantic relationship/dynamic with me and looking for a serious LTR/marriage.
• Platonic friends in the lifestyle, preferably other female (including any female presenting and transwomen) subs close in age, but I'm open to any kind of friend so long as they're genuinely good humans respectful of boundaries.
• Anyone into music (especially all or many different kinds, especially the entire rock and dance umbrellas), gaming, reading, philosophy, science, history, or art and willing to have endless conversations on almost any topic under the sun. Bonus points of you actually enjoy my neurodivergent infodumping. Cheers to all the neurotypicals who genuinely accept and enjoy us neurodivergents - you people are awesome.
• Other left leaning people politically. Independent and centrists are usually ok too, but the overwhelming majority of people I knew/know or have met who were right leaning, in the extreme majority of my personal experiences, have almost always proved to be the most judgmental clowns - moreso than those on the left when it comes to things that can't be controlled and things that aren't harmful to anyone (although yes judgmental clowns exist on the left too, they exist everywhere and I have no qualms calling a spade a spade on any side of the political spectrum). I do not associate with judgmental clowns regardless of their political leanings, and basically anyone generally being a doucherooster to other human beings who are just trying to live their lives without threat and fear of harm for their skin colour, sex/gender, orientations, or personal spiritual/religious beliefs. Just be a decent fucking human being ffs, it's really not as hard as most people like to pretend it is because they just want an excuse to be AHs. I especially don't fuck with ableists who are too mentally lazy to educate themselves on mental illnesses and neurological conditions (or hell even physical illnesses that aren't readily apparent, such as chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia) and actually believe sick people "choose" to be sick or "allow their sicknesses to ruin their lives" - fuck off if you have ableistic beliefs like that and are too proud of your ignorance. This goes for gatekeepers within mental health and neurodivergence communities too. Internalised ableism isn't a kink. ?
• Anyone willing to relocate if they're serious about a committed LTR - and if you're already a citizen of Canada, even better.
**No:**
• Conservatives but especially no right wing extremists (incels, neo-nazis, KKKs and white supremacists in general, other religious extremists, and fascists) for dynamics. I'll be civil and polite to normal conservative types so long as you're doing the same and not being disrespectful to me or others, but beyond that it just won't work, especially the more far right the person is. Any disrespect and you should expect the exact same from me.
• Men under 30 and over 55 for anything more than platonic friendships. I prefer to keep my romantic relationships within a certain range from my current age: no more than 10 years younger than me and no more than 15 years older than me.
• Sexual messages. That is a privilege I give to a committed partner after we've reached that stage of our relationship, not a right. Identifying as a Dom doesn't make you entitled to any type of interactions with me, period.
• Any kind of non-monogamists when it comes to seeking a dynamic/relationship beyond platonic friendships with me. I have friends who are poly/ENMists, it's just not my jam for anything beyond that.
• Pet names ***outside*** of a relationship/dynamic or pet names that are explicitly stated as the type that I'll only allow later in the relationship/dynamic. I've had someone break this rule by crossing my boundaries multiple times in the past by using a pet name I specifically told them was off limits until much later in the relationship. Needless to say they didn't last long with me. This is *not* up for debate and I won't be giving any more chances after the first 2 warnings.
• Asking about my hard limits for the ulterior motive and purpose of negotiating them sooner or later, rather than respecting them. They are ***not*** up for negotiation, period.
• Low effort conversation starters: “hey/hi/what's up/how are you” will ultimately be ignored because it doesn't show any genuine interest in me as a human being - it only tells me you're bored and looking for casual NSA fun.
• Anything NSA based: hookups/casual sex/FWBs, and situationships.
• LDRs with people who aren't serious about meeting in-person and taking the relationship offline to an irl LTR/marriage. Not into wasting time with a relationship that has no foreseeable real life goals in mind. Not into drifting through life without any aim like that.
Now that my boundaries have been established, on to the fun bits!
Middle and Little age regressor (it can fluctuate but my default regression range is 95% of the time around that of a teen & pre-teen middle), nerd/geek, introvert, neurodivergent, friendly, easy-going, fun-loving and adventurous free spirit, open-minded, strong with equal parts sass and softness, and an INFP for you MBTI geeks out there lol. I'm quite shy until I really get to know someone so ice breaking is hard for me, but I'm good at getting along with most people, once I get to know people beyond basic introductions.
Not interested in anything casual so if all you want is the sexy times, move along and save yourself the time of messaging me. Only here for platonic friendships and those who are looking for a serious LTR and are actually about this lifestyle (I'm open to switches too, but if you need another switch then I'm not the one for you, as I don't have any real desire to do switching).
For a romantic dynamic relationship I'm into soft/sensual/pleasure Dom types, especially Caregiver/Daddy-doms. I *can* be a bit of a brat, but it's almost always in a light-hearted, cheeky/teasing manner. I guess you could call that "Brat Lite" lmao.
Anything else you wanna know, feel free to ask. ^^