Do you know your Shibari from your Kinbaku? Or does the idea of tying up your lover leave you tongue tied? Well don’t panic, sit back and read Victoria Blisse’s rope bondage guide and you’ll soon be ready to enjoy the erotic art of Japanese rope tying.

 

Tied up in Knots

Rope bondage is a much-loved BDSM discipline as it doesn’t need lots of fancy equipment. It can be done just about anywhere and can be as kind or as sadistic as you like it to be. It’s enjoying a lot of popularity at the moment with the focus being on the Japanese styles of tying.  

Your first decision is what kind of rope to use. From gentle cotton to scratchy jute you can pick whatever you like but just bear in mind that the thinner it is the more pressure is put on one spot. Which can lead to nerve damage and circulation problems. 8mm is a good width to start with but it isn’t recommended to go thinner than 5mm.The length you need is again a personal decision but 8 metres is a good length and you can always tie on another piece if needed.

Rope needn’t cost an arm and a leg, you can pick some up at your local DIY store. At the other end of the scale, you can buy very expensive, beautifully dyed and treated rope for play. Start out with the cheap stuff and if (or should I say when) you get hooked then you can look to invest in the prettier stuff if you want to. Anyone thinking about indulging in rope bondage needs to have a pair of paramedic scissors. These are to cut the rope if the bunny (the person being tied) is in any kind of distress.  These two items, rope and medical emergency scissors, are all you need to get started.

 

Science is your friend

Before starting you need to do a little research in anatomy. One of the most serious risks in shibari bondage is nerve damage. You need to know where the nerves and pressure points are in the human body so you can avoid resting ropes and knots over these areas. When you are involved in a rope scene be sure to keep communicating. As a bottom (aka bunny) any shooting/sharp pain, tingling or numbness you experience must be reported immediately to the rigger (the person tying). As a top, you should be frequently asking for feedback on pain.

Next, you need to get to grips with knots. The best way to do this is to learn from an experienced rigger. Look for rope events (sometimes called bondage jams) at your local dungeon, most places hold them regularly. If you can’t get to an event, you can find all the knots online too. Youtube will show you how to tie square/reef knots, Lark’s Heads, half hitches and other basic knots and more complex ones too.

Once you have the basic knowledge the world of rope is your playground. There are many ways to tie but there is no one right way to do it. As with anything in the world of BDSM as long as it’s Safe, Sane and Consensual you can be as creative as you like.

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Time to get knotty!

 

Where do shibari and kinbaku come from?

But what do you call it?  Shibari bondage is a term that you’ll hear used a lot but the word ‘shibari’ literally means ‘to tie’. It is often seen as the term for aesthetic art of tying a person. Kinbaku, however, is erotic Japanese rope bondage and describes the sensual connection that comes from the act. Both words can be used to describe Japanese rope bondage and often are interchangeable.

Kinbaku comes from hojojutsu, an ancient method of torturing criminals. Used from the 17th-19th centuries the ties were symbolic to the crimes committed. In the early 20th century this was adapted into highly stylized performances for Kinbaku theatre, the ties became safer and more visually pleasing for those watching to enjoy.  Since then Kinbaku has gone from strength to strength and is popular now in fetish circles all over the world.

There are also western methods of tying too and of course. Suspension which involves hanging your bunny with rope from a suspension point (or several) and involves a whole lot of trust and skill to be done without causing any harm. This is best learnt from an established rigger at your local dungeon/rope event.

 You don’t have to stick to just one type of tying and you don’t even have to think about suspension if you don’t want to.  You can mix and match knots and skills to make the ties that make you happy. Rope has the ability to be relaxing and peaceful as well as being sadistic and painful, its adaptability is a key to its popularity.  So why not give it a go.

 

Got more questions about rope bondage? Find out more from experienced riggers and bunnies in the forum or find them in the chat rooms. Keep your fellow kinksters safe and having a kinky good time and share what you know on our platforms. If you’re new here why knot try out a free membership and see what everyone is talking about?

 

Images from Victoria Blisse & Flickr Creative Commons user hendrikwieduwilt


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Nice to see some info.   I've made it up as I've gone along.   But there's some serious stuff there.   It takes so long to untie if it was urgent without scissors.  Also most porn I've seen they fold the rope in half that seems practical.  Maybe it's the way and nobody ever said.   Ehen I first got rope I used it single due to not having Mitch.   I need tutorials and a bunny to test methods out on.  Cus I get carried away with my girl as we get too horny and the ropes get rushed.   

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