I know that it’s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

I’m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who can’t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know she’s there. I would prefer that she’s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didn’t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
I’ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but I’ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise-
/degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, ***d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that I’m sure I’m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our “normal”/conventional romantic relationship if that’s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me what’s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise you’ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if it’s just a long, dirty message; you’ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that you’ll actually feel like you’re there; it’ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but it’s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and I’ll send it over to ya😏😘

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. I’m no runway model but I’m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. I’m not shredded and all veiny or anything but I’m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, it’s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If I’m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing don’t hesitate to message me if you like what you’ve read so far and think we might click; I’m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(I’d like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so don’t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I can’t wait to hear from you!

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Macomb

When reaching out to me if you do not include your age with your location city & state in the message it will be ignored.

I am seeking a male sub/switch who is between the ages of 28-60. Absolutely NO EXCEPTIONS to that age range, so don't even ask.

Looking for someone who can fully to commit to a minimum of 2+ sessions per month and medium online interaction between sessions such as kinky calls and messaging.

Where most people are only vetting for similar kinks and STI free, I'm vetting for compatibility, longevity, and overall satisfaction of the dynamic as well. This means I have an extremely thorough vetting process and do not do casual encounters. If you are looking for immediate play or one time interactions do not respond to this posting.

I’m seeking a cisgender male sub/switch between the age of 28-60 located in the Dallas/Fort Worth Texas area or Honolulu, Oahu, Hawaii. I would prefer someone who is into sensual domination, that also likes impact play and anal play. Must be drama and drug free and have a current full 10 test STI panel within 90 days or less. I’m not looking for a one time use sub/switch, but rather someone who is wanting regular sessions at least 2+ times per month or more. Weekly sessions is ideal. I am willing to take on subs/switches new to Femdom, but l have an extensive protocol regarding that type of interaction. I am open to all body types & ethnicities. Tattoos and body modifications are ok, and I like facial hair.

The expectations I have for my subs is pretty simple:

Transparency and honesty
Commitment to our dynamic
Consent
Respect my limits, consent, privacy, and boundaries

About me:

Kink since 2003. BDSM since 2012. Domme leaning switch since 2019. Currently I am engaging in M/s dynamics only as of late 2024.
What I offer my play partner is the opportunity to engage in a safe and consensual dynamic where their needs are met, their limits are respected, and their consent is required. I want to leave my partners better off than the way I found them.

I offer my partners:

Friendship
Emotional Support
Positive Guidance
Healthy Habits & Routines
Physical Intimacy
Safe Kink Exploration
Aftercare
Transparency & Honesty
Respect
Consent
Commitment
Respecting limits, consent, privacy, and boundaries

BDSM Play Partner28 to 60 years ● 25km around USA Dallas

Here's the situation..

I've been a member for about two years. Yet, in the approximate past two months that I've been back here, I've only met one person that I've had any sort of substantial connection with.

I'm looking mainly for women and possibly couples who are Interested in experimenting in kink & fetish to get to know and hopefully start something monumentally orgasmic with.

I'm highly intelligent, good looking and in good shape for my age. My voice seems to make women squirt like a geyser. I'm quite active in my outreach to others on FET, and I'm very fetish forward.

I have an extremely filthy imagination, and I'm not afraid to use it.

For anyone who's interested.. I also am very into anal and have been told on numerous occasions that I'm quite good at it. I'm also very sensitive and responsive to feedback from my partner and try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for her.

I feel like I've been approaching this the right way, and yet I have found it to be SO VERY DIFFICULT to connect with women here.

I admit, I'm somewhat older (56). Also, my current relationship situation is somewhat non-standard (see my profile intro). But this is FET. If this isn't a place for fostering non-standard connections, I don't know what is.

Considering that I would be happy to put wheels to the asphalt and drive quite a few miles to meet up with a decent person, this experience so far has been underwhelming to say the least.

If you'd like to connect to get to know one another, or if you simply have advice you'd like to share, please get in touch.

If anyone has any constructive thoughts, I'm more than ready to listen.

Hope to hear from you!

Kinky Date19 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Eastford

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