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ABOUT ME:

Warning: I don't reply to low energy chats/messages.

I don't suffer fools gladly. So, if you're going to come at me, have personality, character, rapier wit, a sense of humour and thick skin. If you don’t have all five you'll be lucky to last a minute with me. I'll eat you alive.

Impress me.

Extra points if you're crazy. By crazy I mean Harley Quinn or Drusilla ("Buffy the Vampire Slayer" crazy.

Crazy is linked to genuine and creativity, which is why I naturally gravitate towards it.

Normal is boring. I'm not normal so I'm certainly not looking for normal.

If you're a pretty face with nothing under the hood I won't be interested.

About me: (Vanilla)

I'm a writer and future (hopefully) author.

I define myself as a sapiosexual, demisexual as well as a romantic, in the same vain as the romantic poets (Shelley, Byron, Burns).

I'd even credit Edgar Allan Poe as a romantic. Yes, he's gothic and dark and wistful and bleak, etc, but he's also ethereal and morbidly erotic.

Poe has always had an intrinsic way of quickening my heart and warming my , much in the same way as any of the aforementioned romantic poets.

Words are erotic to me. It doesn't even have to be sexual. It's more about the emotion behind those words.

It's the notion that every passing second of our time is a second that's gone, never to be relived

The idea that someone has spent their precious time, and spent unknown amount of firing neurons in order to communicate with you, and only you, in a private and an intimate manner.... it's highly, highly erotic.

Especially the written word.

It's why I snub instant messaging and exclusively patronise .

In terms of the sapiosexual and demisexual go. Intelligence is erotic to me. And so is forming a spiritual as well as a mental bond, as rare as it is.

There are many types of intelligence: linguistic, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, interpersonal, intrsonal, naturalistic, existential, creative, collaborative, practical intelligence, humour, etc

One of my main passions is cooking. I have a natural love and a flair for
cooking. I spend a large portion of my life in the kitchen.

I briefly trained as a chef. Then I didn't.

Cooking has always been intuitive and really natural to me. I can't bake worth a damn, though.

Baking is too much like chemistry to me. You require exact measurements, etc. With cooking you can riff, you can get creative and t outside the lines.

I'm a deep thinker. I'm spiritual (NOT religious) and believe in the power
of Chi. I believe in Ghosts, Vampires and Werewolves (what's life without whimsy), dimensions, multiverses, etc.

I'm interested in meditation and general self-improvement and self analysis.

Making mistakes, and owning them, is the quickest road to self-improvement.

A person who thinks that they're infallible and always right, will never grow, and they don’t think they have to.

I'm a free-thinker and tend to think independently from the masses. I naturally deviate from convention and tread the path less trodden.

"To thine ownself be true." - Shakespeare

I'm not a people person. I'm misanthropic.

I'm an introvert. I'm private. I don't like being the centre of attention. In fact, I like to keep as far back from people and the spotlight as
possible.

"The darkness is my friend." - Me.

I'm a geek. Always have been, always will be. Back in the 80s and 90s there was more chance of me being in the company of my Amiga, Spectrum, Master System, Mega Drive and Super Nintendo than a human being.

Not much has changed. Well, replace computer technology with books.

People talk about a "misspent youth." I spent my youth with celebrities such
as Sonic the Hedgehog, Mario Brothers, Donkey Kong, Link and Zelda, Ken, Ryu, Guile, etc.

I consider my youth to be spent wonderfully. I am privileged.

I'm deep, introspective, sardonic. pensive, and morose. I feel more at ease and happiest when I'm alone. I barely tolerate people.

As far as relationships go. I'm open to long distance. I'm seeking a forever TPE dynamic.

I don't really care about distance. I mean, let's be honest, the chance
of meeting a compatible soul is improbable as it is, if you use geography and location as obstacles, the "improbable" becomes the
"impossible".

Besides, it's 2025, not 1725. Distances can be bridged with the aid of heavy machinery with wings.

It takes a while to forge a strong relationship: It requires pillars of: respect, trust, honesty, compatibility, and communication. None of those things come easily or without dedication, conviction, and
time.

I'm a sapiosexual as well as a demisexual. I find intelligence very, very hot! Saying that, I'm not necessarily looking for a woman who is in MENSA. Intelligence comes in all shapes and sizes with many gradations and nuances.

There are many types of intelligence: linguistic, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, interpersonal, intrsonal, naturalistic, existential, creative, collaborative, practical intelligence, humour, etc

I require a mental, emotional, and spiritual bond before I can enter a physical relationship.

I'm not a social media person. The only social media platform I'm on is
(I'm not calling it X). I'm solely on there to contact customer
services of various companies.

I'm antisocial socially and antisocial social-medially.

My communication method of choice is s.

With s, you're able to convey mass amounts of information and details
without interruption, therefore making the "getting to know you" process quicker than short burst of texts on IM.

With s you can write chapter upon chapter.

With IM it's all immediate. IM gives you an obligation to reply instantly.

Sorry. Not for me.

I'm not saying that I'm unable to banter. Oh. I banter with the best of the. My banter skills are off the charts.

Movies: Fright Night 1 & 2, The Lost Boys, Nosferatu (1922), Interview with the Vampire, Dracula (1931), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Shadow of the Vampire? Barefoot in the park, Breakfast at Tiffany's, My Fair Lady, Casablanca, Jerry Maguire, Serendipity, Say Anything, Almost Famous,
Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's day off, Weird Science, Elvira: Mistress of the dark, Elvira: Haunted Hills, Dirty Dancing, The Big
Sick, Star Wars (The original trilogy), Firefly.

Television: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, It's Always sunny in Philadelphia, Wednesday, Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Sex and the City, The Simpsons, Scrubs. South Park.

Author/Writer: Jane Austen, Edgar Allen Poe, Bram Stoker, The Bronte s, Emily Dickinson.

Music: The Smiths, The Cure, AC/DC, Classical music.

ABOUT ME: (Kink)

(Before I begin, I feel it incumbent upon to me to make a PSA:

If you're a new submissive (or even if you're experienced), of even a new Dominant, I want you to realize that there are a lot of men who use the pretense of being a "Dominant" in order to justify and legitimise their abusive tendencies.

Also, a submissive has as much power as a Dominant. More so, in fact, so don't be bullied and coerced into entering a toxic relationship.

A BDSM dynamic has to be built on mutual respect)

Red flag list:

Moving things too fast, lack of patience e.g wanting to collar you or wanting you to address them as "Master", etc, immediately after meeting them and/or being in contact with them.
Willing to collar you even if there's a lack of compatibility.
Lack of communication. A relationship ought to be based on communication and you can only learn about a person through it.
Someone who doesnt want to hear about hard limits.
Lack of respect e.g someone calling you derogatory names and/or expecting you to submit on their initial contact. Respect has to be earned, and so does disrespect.
Someone who isn't interested in you as a human being.
Someone who isn't willing or interested in connecting in an emotional level.
Easy to anger. Actually, any inclination towards anger is a red flag.
Lack of compatibility)

I want a dynamic that is 24/7.

I'm not into "keeping it in the bedroom/behind closed doors", as that's too much like roleplay with an on and off switch and it's way too low energy for me.

No matter where you are or what you're doing, I want our dynamic to be swimming in your veins. I want the mere thought of me to increase your flow. I want the thought of me to warm your so that there's red lava flowing to and from your heart, a heart that quickens at the thought of me. The thought that I will own you forever. The thought of me being mentor, your guide, your teacher, your protector, your Dominant.

My form of Dominance is one of psychology.

It's my belief that before you can control a body and before you have a right to expect to claim dominion over a body, you must first infiltrate the mind:

I want to know how you think, what you love, what you like, what you
hate, and what you dislike. I want to know about your formative years, your upbringing, your parents, your family, your hobbies, your skills, your triumphs, your failures and your dreams and aspirations.

I want to know about your experience as well as your dream BDSM dynamic. I
want to know what turns you on, what gets your engines roaring, what your limit are, what reviles and disgusts you. I want to know the dirty little secrets inside your locked closet. I want to know what kinky stuff you've done, what sordid activities you'd love to try and I want to know exactly what type of submissive/slave you see yourself as, as well as describing you as you want to be.

I, as your Dominant will make it my responsibility as well as my life goal to mould and to encourage you to flourish into the very best version of yourself that you can possibly be.

This dynamic will be a living, breathing organism. It'll grow and develop and mature. It will be 24/7. It'll be all consuming, and it will be a life choice. A life lived together. Forever.

At work, you will be my submissive. At the supermarket and at the mall and out in public, with your family you will be owned by me. Your every breath will contain my whisper. Every thought will have my fingerprints. And you will live knowing that every facet of your mind, body, life and soul are owned by me.

And you will give them willingly, as it's my responsibility to encourage you to grow and develop. I will nurture you and teach you.

I will adore you.

I'll listen. I'll be your coach. I'll be your teacher, your mentor, your confidant, your protector as well as your best friend.

I can not stress this enough. For a D/s dynamic to work, it has to be built on friendship. There must be unbreakable trust and respect. This
is framed with communication and honesty. Through this, trust and affection will grow.

Every cylinder must be firing. Every molecule must be engaged.

We will be a team. We will listen, talk, laugh, share and learn from the other. Our bond will be stronger than any metal or element known to God or to man.

This isn't an easy connection to develop. It takes honesty, trust,
communication, dedication,compability, faith and time. Come into this half-hearted, and it will not work.

Edgar Allen Poe has always been my muse: A Raven, my spirit .

I would enjoy a walk and a picnic in a cemetery (probably by candlelight)
as much as normal people would would like a walk and picnic in a park.

My kinks are, but not limited to:

Watersports, Vampirism (Hematolagnia)
psychological Dominance, , public , Goth, taboo, skull-fucking, , pukejobs, d puking, rough fucking, anal, free use, CNC, play, bimbofication, food
control, body modification, behaviour modification, body writing, deepthroat, TPE, chains, leather, outfits, heels, DP (with dildos, etc), toys, edging, tasks, cages, collar and leash, CMNF, etc.

Hard limits: Poly and ***.

I am not a soft Dom. As you call tell from my kink list, I do like taboo and extreme kinks. Essentially, though, verything is up for negotiation and discussion.

I will be as extreme as I'm allowed to be.

Very little is off the table.