Hi, lovely to meet you.

I always find introductions a bit awkward, but here we go. I’ve been a submissive for nearly six years now—honestly it’s a little terrifying to write that out loud, and I’ll save the existential crisis that comes with it for another time. What it does mean is that I’ve had enough experience to know myself, what I want, and the kind of connection I’m hoping to build with someone.

Ideally, I’m looking for a female-led relationship—something built on trust, communication, and the kind of dynamic where power exchange enriches rather than replaces the relationship. That said, I’m completely open to exploring one-off play sessions if that’s more what you’re looking for going in. At this point, I’ll be honest: I’m a bit tired of the search. Dating in general can feel exhausting, and trying to find something meaningful as a submissive guy adds an extra layer of difficulty that can be pretty discouraging at times.

I won’t go too deep into kinks right here since that’s definitely a conversation better had in DMs, but my top five are bondage, ***d orgasms, face sitting, marking, and nipple play. These are the areas I naturally gravitate toward and where I feel most at home. I’m also curious about exploring more—like eventually losing my anal virginity at some point, though that’s definitely a discussion for later and not something I’m rushing into. I’m also very interested in trying hypnosis as a kink, particularly the kind that blends relaxation, surrender, and trust. At the end of the day, what I really want is the experience of losing control in a way that feels safe and cared for.

As far as preferences go, I don’t have a huge checklist of requirements. The most important things to me are that the person I’m talking to enjoys the kinds of dynamics and kinks I’m into and is roughly around my age. Chemistry is a two-way street, and it’s nice to know if we tick each other’s boxes.

Outside of kink, I’ve been told I have that “hyperactive golden retriever” energy. I’m passionate—sometimes overwhelmingly so—about the things I love. I recently finished my degree in game design, which has been a huge part of my life for the past few years. I play guitar, and I’m currently bartending while looking for a graduate job. I’m always drawn to people who have creative or nerdy interests of their own. In terms of music, I’m pretty flexible—anything from classic rock like The Beatles to heavier bands like Avenged Sevenfold sits firmly in my library.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who cares, someone confident and commanding, someone who’s excited to take the lead. I’ve been in a few relationships where the dynamic expectations didn’t match, often with partners who were also submissive, and it just didn’t work. I’m hoping to finally find something that fits.

I’ve done plenty of online dynamic work, and I’ve had a couple of professional sessions, so if you’re wondering whether I know how to serve—yes, I do.

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to reach out in dms. I'll try to reply asap.
Have a wonderful day.

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These are a few fantasies I'd be interested in acting out, or at least partially acting out; I wouldn't want to go too far, because I don't enjoy real pa!n or !njury. (And if you'd like to see what I look like, just ask for access to my private photos. My public photos are selfies with clothing added by AI.) All right, here are some of my more recent fantasies:

-- You matter-of-factly explain that since I agreed to meet you in person, you now have the right to use my body in any way you see fit. That I let you buy me like a cheap cut of meat at a grocery store. After you make me strip, maybe you even order me up onto the kitchen counter, grabbing handfuls of my flesh and feeling it for firmness, thwacking my thighs with a meat tenderizer, as if I really am nothing but a piece of meat, before you hop on top of me, or tug me down to the floor, to ride me as you wrap your hands around my throat...

-- You make me work out in nothing but a pair of black boxer briefs...while you periodically glance up and order me to switch to heavier weights, or traipse over and squeeze my biceps or smack my thighs...or you just decide that I've turned in such a lackluster performance that it's time to end the workout early, and you push me down to the floor, on my back, straddling me, and slide your hands around my sweaty neck...

-- A lot of my fantasies tend to involve ch0king. I've done it to women before, but I've never been ch0ked myself. Never even been dominated. Always dated submissive women who wanted me to be dominant in the bedroom. So I'm craving a woman who'll say, maybe mid-conversation, that it's time for me to shut up. Then you order me to lift up my chin, and you curl your hands around my neck, your thumbs pressing down on my throat, as I sputter and ch0ke under you, and you ride me like a horse.

-- Maybe one of us bathes the other. But I'm not sure whether it'd be more appropriate for me to bathe you worshipfully by candlelight, massaging soap into your skin and shampoo into your scalp, gently and soothingly...or for you to scrub me clean, as roughly as you can, just scour my body with a brillo pad as if I'm a filthy pet or piece of livestock. Either way, I think the bath needs to end with you mounting and riding me...maybe even holding my head underwater and snickering at the way I sputter and splash around beneath you, as if I'm just a funny bathtime sex toy.

-- The two of us come back to my place after a date, sitting on the sofa, you looking bored, or tired, starting to ignore me...until all of a sudden your eyes light up, and you ask me excitedly, "Hey, would you mind if I strangled you? I bet your body would look soooo good all naked and sprawled out on the floor!" I'm shocked, at first, and I just assume it's a sick joke...but then I realize you're serious, and I start trying to bargain with you. Maybe I offer to let you ch0ke me, just a little, hoping it'll be enough to satisfy you...but, of course, it isn't, and you slowly talk me into letting you throttle me for longer and longer, removing more and more of my clothes, letting you smack me around, inspect my body. "See? You like getting ch0ked, don't you?" -- Until eventually I give in, and you remove the rest of my clothes and mount me...

-- We meet, go out once or twice, and I try to impress you by bragging about my cooking. So I invite you back to my place one evening to make you dinner. We start cooking together, but it doesn't take long before the power dynamic shifts wildly in your favor: you spill your drink on my shirt, seemingly accidentally, so I have to pull it off -- my undershirt, too -- and you look at my chest coldly, impersonally, reach out and poke my pecs...slap my abs, watch my flesh jiggle...offer unsolicited advice about what muscles I need to work on, while I just awkwardly nod, hope you'll let me get back to cooking...and when I do, you watch me intently for a minute, then order me to strip completely naked so you can get a look at the rest of my body.

I demur, tell you we should wait until after dinner to, uh, take our clothes off. "You're the only one taking your clothes off," you tell me, and calmly walk over and pour the rest of your drink onto my pants. I sputter some protest while looking down in shock, start to unzip my jeans, but you grab my chin and jerk it up, lock eyes with me, instructing me to stay still for a minute -- "I'm gonna punish you now. You want to get ch0ked or held underwater? Ten seconds, either way." So I choose to get ch0ked, it seems easier -- and when you release my neck, you tell me I'm allowed to strip out of my jeans now. My underwear, too. And you have me strip naked in the kitchen, commenting on my anatomy as if you're critiquing a drawing or statue or doll, and I hand you my pants and boxers, then hop up on the cold kitchen counter.

By the time dinner is ready, you've informed me that your chairs and table -- all your furniture -- are for people wearing clothing, not for naked or underwear-clad bodies...but that once your dinner's on the table, you'd be happy to dump some food -- maybe crackers, or leftovers -- onto a paper towel on the floor for me to eat. I groan, but I don't bother complaining any longer...and while I try to make conversation with you, crouching down on the floor to scarf down some barely edible food while you devour whatever meal I've cooked for you, you just ignore me while you read or watch or scroll through something on your phone.

After you finish eating, you look at me -- I'm still trying to chew a few last bites of my own awful meal -- and you say, sounding disgusted, "Dude, I don't think this is gonna work out...you're just not my type." You get up, you grab me by the hair or arm, pull me up, retrieve my clothes from wherever you left them, take a few plastic bags, and lead me outside -- I'm feebly struggling, begging you to let me put my clothes back on before we go outside where people can see us -- but you just march me over to the building's trash room, or garbage can in the backyard. You toss my clothes in a bin, order me to get in too -- and I just give in, hoping the night will just end already, climb into the garbage. You finally offer me some praise, pat me on the head, so when you tell me to lift up my head, I happily comply, letting you zip tie a plastic bag around my neck before you lower the dumpster lid, dust off your hands, and walk away.

Or -- even darker ending -- when you finish eating dinner, and I offer to help you put the leftovers in the refrigerator, you wait before answering -- slowly look over my whole body, pause, think for a minute, and finally reply: "No. I wanna save space in the freezer to hold you."

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