I know that it’s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

I’m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who can’t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know she’s there. I would prefer that she’s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didn’t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
I’ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but I’ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise-
/degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, ***d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that I’m sure I’m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our “normal”/conventional romantic relationship if that’s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me what’s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise you’ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if it’s just a long, dirty message; you’ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that you’ll actually feel like you’re there; it’ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but it’s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and I’ll send it over to ya😏😘

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. I’m no runway model but I’m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. I’m not shredded and all veiny or anything but I’m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, it’s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If I’m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing don’t hesitate to message me if you like what you’ve read so far and think we might click; I’m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(I’d like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so don’t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I can’t wait to hear from you!

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Macomb

keep in mind that i am a primal brat that has a little and pet side.
Just a few things to note before hand: I would like local eventually, but distance is okay for now. If you’re super bossy right out of the gate it’s a no from me. I am a sub but I’m not your sub. im also bisexual and would possibly accept a Mommy/ Domme if she can be strict enough but still loving with me.
I am playful, sassy and sarcastic so a daddy that loves a challenge is ideal would like local at least eventually. And want to find an actual partner not just a dynamic- I am poly with my husband( yes he does know) But my dom wouldn’t be having that kind of relationship with him. I have quite a few kinks just a bit to list here. Also I’m pretty sassy so keep that in mind, and I have some little tendencies… so don’t slide in trying to dom me from the start because you’ll see my bratty side very quickly and she’s ruthless.
I am looking for a Daddy who seeks a sassy brat and kitten with a possible slave side as well. I have a very delicate and sensitive side that neeeeeds lots of attention and love. I need discipline on a daily basis with rules and structure, so I would love to work up to a TPE or 24/7 dynamic. I tend to become bratty because I need to be put in my place and reminded who's in control, other times I just crave Daddy’s attention.
I thrive on pleasing my future Daddy and always want to keep him happy and pleased with me but I can brat out from time to time and until I learn from someone firm enough, I won't know I have disappointed you. humiliating me by reminding me I’m just a baby and a kitten is a good fix too 🤭
my ideal dynamic would include lots of cuddling and affection, doing things together such as movie nights, you gaming and( me reading a book or watching as playing gives me motion sickness but I still enjoy that time aka parallel play), and video/voice calls
also definitelyyyy not interested in someone whose #1 priority is their sexual interests; i’ll be able to weed you out quickly…😊
i do like to “top from the bottom” from time to time but that’s just so i can be put in my place. 😝
P.S. I’m also open to a bit of distance possibly and ages 25-48🥰

BDSM/Fetish Family27 to 48 years ● 500km around USA Hartford City
NSA18 to 64 years ● 260km around USA Fort Collins

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