I've always dreamed about having "the 1950s dynamic". I've wanted to come out of the office to the smell of dinner cooking, my dog Tony snoozing nearby, and the sense of calm that comes from knowing that everyone and everything is taken care of.

There are some hiccups, though: due to some issues that have recently been resolved, I don't currently drive, though I'm working on getting my license by the end of the year; I don't (and won't) ever want kids - and I'm actually getting a vasectomy in December; and finally, because of some family issues, I'm no longer religious.

If none of these are dealbreakers for you, please read on.

What am I looking for, exactly? My housewife with a modern twist. I don’t want a partner who’s stuck at home, slave to the 9-to-5 grind or chained to a job she hates; I want to make enough that she doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t want to. I want her to be able to choose how to spend her time, whether that’s pursuing a career she’s passionate about, focusing on creative projects, or managing our home together. Ideally, she should be someone who’s fit or at least no stranger to the gym - I go 2-3 times a week and have recently built a little home workout plan for myself during the day at work. I’d love to find someone who shares my passion for cooking - I’ve tried to cook a meal at home every day this week, and my most recent meal was a big bowl of homemade goulash. I’m also a huge nerd: huge enough that I started my own game design company in 2023, and I’m hoping to take it full-time soon. I’d be thrilled if you shared a love for tabletop or story-driven games.

But more than shared hobbies, what truly defines the kind of relationship I want is the dynamic behind it: the way we relate, I lead, and you follow. I’m a Dominant by nature, not just in the bedroom but in the way I live. I find fulfillment in leading, protecting, providing structure, and creating a space where my partner feels safe to let go: to relax, trust, and be her most authentic, feminine, and devoted self. I’m drawn to service-oriented, obedient, or otherwise submissive women who crave direction and consistency. I want to find a woman who feels peace in having clear roles and being cared for with purpose and authority.

My kinks lean toward the domestic and devotional: obedience, service, rituals, praise, structure, and old-fashioned discipline always grounded in love, consent, and emotional safety. I want the kind of D/s dynamic that extends beyond the bedroom, where power exchange is woven into daily life: soft, steady, affectionate, and deeply respectful.

So what do I bring to the table?

Security. I own my own house that I’m working on fixing up, all my bills are paid on time and in full, and I've been working toward being able to retire at 40, 45 at the latest.

Safety. I've always tried my best to listen to my partners and create an environment where we can disagree without those disagreements turning into angry shouting matches. I want to be the person she can rely on, who helps her grow into the best version of herself, and who she can come home to (physically and emotionally) when the world gets too loud.

I don’t want to rush into anything: instead, I want us to build this relationship step by step. Ideally, we’d start with a conversation over Reddit chat for the first few days, then angle for a voice or video call within those first two weeks. From there, if we feel like there's a connection, I'd want to go on a first date that feels easy and genuine like a virtual movie date or, if you're local, a trip to my favorite bookstore followed by ice cream. One date should turn into two, four, more… I want slow, steady growth as we find our rhythm. I’d want to reach a place where we’re spending more time together, feeling like home to one another, before taking bigger steps like moving in or exploring what a D/s dynamic between us might look like.

At the end of the day, I’m not looking for something casual or uncertain. I want a woman who values structure, who finds security and peace in clear roles and strong leadership. I believe in setting the tone for my home: protecting, providing, and leading with both strength and consistency. In return, I want someone who takes pride in her role, who wants to trust, follow, and build something lasting by my side. If the idea of a traditional, power-exchange dynamic built on loyalty, trust, and purpose speaks to you, then you already understand the kind of bond I’m offering.

Since I've been getting a lot of time wasters and spam replies in my inbox, let me know your favorite comfort meal or ideal first date in your first message.

Kinky Date18 to 46 years ● 75km around USA Mechanicsburg

(I am new here, Idk wtf I am doing, please 🐻 with me)
(No Men, honestly not interested) 🥱



Hey! 😀 🏳️‍🌈
Thank you for clicking on my post, please read through the whole thing if you are contacting me... I would really appreciate that :) Here's a potato for you 🥔

Looking for AFAB, i really have no preference for gender identity and I have nothing against trans folks... I just have weird brain cells that I myself don't understand, it's a weird life. I am sorry if its yucky but I don't know how to explain it. Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I am sorry if I am. I have no preference for body size/shape etc. No preference for Masc/Fem :) Just be a honest person. 🥰

This is for IRL (In Real Life) relationship... If you are in Chicago! Amazing! If you are nearby and willing to meet, amazing! I am not really looking for "online only relationship". 🥰


🍄 # Who the heck is this person? 🍄

So, ummmm... Hi... I am Alex. 32 F.

  • Sapiosexual (Brains and Intellectual connection is important to me) 🧠
  • Demisexusl (Emotional connection is also extremely important to me, I am extremely empathic) 💙
  • Nerdy! I guess that's self explanatory :) 🤓
  • Ambivert? But more of an Introvert. I am shy and quiet untill I get comfortable with you and then you will have to order me to stop talking lol 😆
  • I can spend everyday with you if you are one of my friend / loved ones... But strangers / casual friends... Meeting them drains me out and my social battery depletes really quickly. 😭
  • Love Computers. Honestly, don't wanna brag but I am kinda good at them and everything computers just come to me easily. 🖥️
  • Read a book, have a lazy weekend, spend cozy time, explore the city and earth over parties anyday! (I enjoy spending quality time, making memories, doing meaningful stuff over parties n clubbing... Crowds drain me) 📚
  • Extremely brutally honest, honestly can't lie to save my life. 🤔


    🍄 # Day to day life 🍄

    Masc presenting, cis Female :) (Golden Retriever Masc according to Tiktok lol)

  • Have my head in one or another project all the time.
  • Programming, Art, Science, Maths 😭, Animation, Development...
  • Games, Sports (Wanna join the Boxing club), Music (can't live without it), SPACE, History, Food, Mythology, Chess, Board Games, Books, DIY, Crafts etc.
  • Sleeping 😴


    🍄 # The Kink side of life 🍄

  • Sub :) Identifies as Natural Sub, don't do it for the heck of it and kicks or what not. Need BDSM in my life to be content.
  • Been into it since I was a *** (stumbled on wrong websites lol) actively practicing it since 2017.
  • Into Lifestyle BDSM. It's not a game for me. I love the lifestyle. I take it seriously.
  • Masochist.
  • I have too many kinks and kinks change as per person... Will not write them here as a shopping list. Can be discussed in private.
  • I am willing to try everything once or thrice just to be sure if its for me or not unless it's an absolute hard limit.
  • Limits are extremely important to be respected at all times and must not be broken. Unless discussed otherwise.
  • Safe words and Aftercare is extremely important to me.
  • SSC and everything sane that comes under the umbrella.


    🍄 # What I am looking for :) 🍄

    A Domme / A Mistress (or whichever salutations you prefer :))

  • Honest ❤️
  • Trustworthy ❤️
  • Strict ❤️
  • Soft ❤️
  • Caring ❤️
  • Can be a Friend 😄
  • Open to Dating ❤️
  • An eventual partner ❤️
  • Donut Bonus if there's Attraction 🧲
  • Basically someone who is also looking to be a friend, domme and be a partner ❤️
  • Someone who is NOT an Asshole and resort to ghosting, manipulation, , mind fuck, drama, non-sense dom bullshit etc. (been through that, just leave me alone.) 🤷

    I don't want to be a mindless robot sub/slave/pet/toy/girl etc. The one that you come to when you are bored, have nothing better to do and ignore otherwise. I have been with awful doms and dommes, Sadly, I now know exactly what I have to avoid... Even the ones who look like angels are just spineless demons in disguise. I hate that people take so much advantage on name of submission... Honestly, please spare me if you are gonna do that... Target someone else please. 🤷

    I am an intellectual :) I am an empath... When i give myself to someone, I give myself completely... I don't know how to do things the half way... Its all or nothing. I devote so much of myself to my doms that honestly for the right person it can be amazing. Lemme care for you and make your life easier and make you happy :) Tell you all about space and science and computers and whatever the heck is topic of the day...
    I can make you any art or videos you want :) My phone is full of memes and thoughtful videos... Let's be friends and explore this life together! ❤️

    Be someone who can care for me be my friend but at same time won't hesitate to put me in my place if I am out of line. ❤️

    Let's go on dates :) Lemme cherish you and treat you like royalty :) You know you deserve it ❤️

    Honestly, if we click... It can be amazing ❤️

    Let's take this slow and see if we click and if we like the idea of each other... Who knows... Maybe this can be start of something beautiful ❤️

    NOT looking for poly. Done with that bullshit. Got only
    d in that scenario multiple times. 🤷

    NOT looking for short term. 🤷


    🍄 # Read all that? 🍄

    Well! We are almost done :)
    Somethings to keep in mind...

  • Tired of multiple platforms so, I will ask you to move to Dscrd once I feel comfortable.
  • I will ask you to verify by my personal method (after a while)... All sfw. If you are not okay with verifying... Please don't reach out. Idk about you but I don't wanna be catfished. It's good for both of us to get this out of the way.
  • I will reply to messages as I see them. I might not be able to reply instantly, please be patient.
  • Don't expect me to sub for you in first 11 minutes. Or a week. I am gonna take this slow. If you can't take this slow. Don't bother contacting me.
  • I am not a newbie. Just because you ars a dom doesn't mean you are automatically correct. Just makes you an asshole. If you have "I am a dom only I know better" ideology, please with all due respect fck off.
  • My bullshit radar is actually pretty good. So, honestly don't bother.
  • I was in an awful d/s relationship few months ago... My friends made me realise (after it ended) that it was actually hella bad one... So, I am healing and I might not be at my 100% right now. But I plan to give my all to you as much as I can.


    🍄 # How to reach out :)🍄

    Send a chat request with these things included... So that I know you can give me courtesy of at least agreeing to my tiny request of being Dmed in a certain way... Which just adds to the fact that if you can do this I can also take in account that you might also follow my request to respect my limits...

  • Your favorite planet/celestial body. Why did you choose that planet/celestial body?
  • Your Age, Sex, Location.
  • Why have you decided to message me?
  • A little info about you :) You just read a whole essay about me, I want to know a bit of you too :)

    🍄🍄

    That's all :) Only looking for IRL, or hybrid... As long as you are willing to meet a lot in real life. A LOT.
    Not just online.

    Please be around my age or age can be just a number.

    Have an amazing week!

    p.s. please only contact me if you are serious. 🍄

Kinky Date18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Chicago

Hi I'm Goddess Kitty 🐈‍⬛✨A Dominant Kitten looking for obedient worshipers to serve as my minions in the DC Baltimore Area I don't like my time wasted so let's get straight to the point

I'm looking for Service Oriented Submission from good boys only:

  1. 🐕‍🦺 Guard Dog / Bodyguard ~ Collared, obedient, protective. You’ll follow me everywhere, events, outings, even the bathroom. Always ready, silent unless commanded to bark, keeping me safe and adored.

  2. 🚘 Chauffeur ~ Drive me anywhere I wish, whenever I wish. A Goddess should never have to worry about getting anywhere. An up-to-date clean vehicle is required for this position.

  3. 💇🏾‍♀️ Hair Carebear ~ Wash, detangle, braid, wrap, and style my crown exactly as I command. Massage my scalp until I purr. Treat every strand like silk spun from divinity. This is a weekly devotion.

  4. 💸 *** / Cash Cow / Human ATM ~ Your wallet is my property this week. I drain you until all you have left is enough to pay your bills. You’ll fund my pleasures, my projects, my needs of the week. I’m not stopping until I decide you’re empty.

  5. 🏡 Cuck Host ~ Provide me with a kinky safe space to play, create content, and escape vanilla life. Cucks worship from the sidelines and serve upon command. My comfort and creativity cums first.

    I have more holes I- I mean roles to be filled🤭 but this is what I'm looking for at the moment. I'm looking for actual players who want to submit to me👸🏾Not someone who just wants a quick taste. Go waste somebody else's time. I do not respond to just anyone. I only respond to respectful messages of intent. Tribute💵 30

    Not looking for a dominant these are submissive roles

BDSM/Fetish Family21 to 45 years USA Glen Burnie

This is what My conversation style is like so you can assess our call buddy compatibility.

I do tooons of other styles, and in reality its not usually formal (though I warn you: I am a scientific type of person that approaches social things in a spooky,,, unnatural,,, Organized way! (organized does not mean clinical, marriage, for instance: has a literal contract and vows but it feels quite warm if people write and follow the right vows for them lol) , customizing them to the individual, but this is like a trailer despite the fact that I have not met you at time of writing.

Starting the conversation with a simmer, warming both of us up exchanging life or research highlights and establishing a back and forth rhythm until we're in sync.

Chatting about progress or workshopping each others accountability buddy projects

Clearing the air by shaking out any heavy stuff if necessary. Perhaps starting a small rant or asking for advice and active listening with each other
(Starting off gentle as we get to know each other in order to feel out and not overstep boundaries) this isn't intended to be a mopey time, more of a healing and solution oriented one, so that our brains can think about we want to think about in this valuable shared time instead of being stuck on a problem.
I aim for my history: kvetching with a group of fellow silly jester detectives in such a style and mood, my deepest sorrows can only be accurately be described in stand-up, hearty laughter all round, close hugs, genuine and inventive suggestions approaching life like an experience engineer, because truly, even the most difficult things in this life,,, are not that serious.

Or perhaps inatead exchanging infodumping if I've just created a project or made a research breakthrough where I lead you through the epic candlelit internautical deep link cave spelunking

moving onto some practical planning and relationship housekeeping
Meaning:
checking up on our group projects, working on them on call

Asking about your areas of actualization and hobbies if we haven't already,

Planning hangouts, road trips, parties, scenes, altered state or spiritual endeavors

Asking what we've done well together, what we can do better and how, what we want to introduce to our connection, what we probably don't want to do again.
The mood of this is fun and curious, I only intend on entering connection negotiations with people who makr it fun and filled with structured liberty like myself :).

then when I'm feeling light and airy:
Bantering, flirting (platonically or romantically), riffing and nerding out, laughing our cheeks pink till we fall asleep

I am looking for someone I can meet or call 1+ hour a week
So: if you like this sort of thing or have other conversation styles you'd like to propose in my dms...
(I do lots of other cool diverse tricks like I can do full stand-up as an archetype you enjoy not breaking character for hours, you doing the same, I like to do call being read to or reading you my research project as I break the narration for us to put together the pieces (especially if you take notes!!!)

Inquire in my dms and we can get started! I am being so foreal with you I used to run a daily live streaming group ur bro is c o m m i t e d to chatting and vetting chat partners in a manner before unseen and that feels very easy breezy covergirl.

If you think we're kismet for kinship: You know who you are. I am exactly what I sound like, I've met my buddies a thousand times in a thousand summer camps, by now I know how to see the mark the stars gave you before we were sent falling to different parts of this funky little planet, your boy knows how to establish chemistry

(Don't worry: I've gotten to the point in buddism where you realize personality is an illusion (it has truth to it but it is not the whole truth) and everyone's the same so it doesn't feel fake to act in a way I enjoy, just fun and creative)

BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 80 years ● 15km around USA Chicago

As Bella Bunny, I carry a secret confession deep in my heart, one that’s shaped me as a 60-year-old sissy from Mission Viejo, CA. It’s about my neighbor—let’s call him James—a man whose family has been intertwined with ours for years. Our families were close, sharing barbecues, holiday gatherings, and lazy afternoons by the coast, walking the trails I’ve always loved. James was a fixture in my life, a charismatic soul with a laugh that filled the room, and I never imagined he’d awaken something hidden within me.

It started five years ago, almost innocently, though looking back, I see the slow burn of his seduction. One evening, after a family cookout with classic rock humming from the stereo, he pulled me aside with a mischievous grin. He showed me photos on his phone—intimate, private shots of his wife pleasing him in ways I’d never considered. My pulse quickened, a mix of shock and curiosity stirring in me. He didn’t push at first, just let those images linger in my mind, planting a seed. Over months, those moments became a ritual—quiet chats where he’d share more, his voice low and teasing, drawing me into his world.

I resisted at first, my life with my wife and family a comfortable shield, but James was patient. He’d catch my eye during our family outings, a knowing look that made my stomach flip. One night, after a few drinks and the kids off playing, he invited me to his garage under the pretense of showing me a car project. There, with the door barely cracked, he guided my hand, and I found myself tasting him for the first time. The rush was overwhelming—guilt tangled with a thrill I couldn’t name. That was just the beginning. Over time, he encouraged me to try on his wife’s silky panties, the fabric hugging me in a way that felt both foreign and right. Each step—oral play, dressing up, surrendering to his lead—unfolded over years, a dance of trust and desire.

The pinnacle came one humid evening, the air thick with secrecy. In his bedroom, with classic rock still a faint echo from a distant speaker, he took me fully, my body yielding as his bottom. It was my first true dive into submission, a moment that birthed Bella Bunny, my sissy self. I learned the power of letting go, the joy of pleasing him, and the ache of keeping it hidden from my wife, who remained oblivious. Our families continued their closeness, oblivious to the intimate bond we’d forged in shadows.

Then, a few months ago, James moved away—new job, new city, a clean break. The void he left is palpable. I miss his laughter at our gatherings, the way he’d brush my arm during a coastal walk, the secret glances that promised more. Without him, I feel adrift, my sissy desires simmering beneath the surface, unfulfilled. I’ve started exploring this side of me here, discreetly, longing to reconnect with that thrill. SoCal’s kink scene calls to me, but my heart still aches for James, the man who opened this door. I hope to find someone new to guide Bella Bunny, but a part of me will always miss him.

BDSM Play Partner5km around USA Irvine

🧲🧲MY BIGGEST TURN ON🧲.🧲
IS A
🧲100% DOM (0%Sub qualities)🧲
🫸👁️If I View Your Profile , the thing I l👁️👁️k for is to "get a picture of your Dominant Nature, unless I see or feel this, well I Move On👁️🫷
I AM A PROUD SUBMISSIVE
and comfortable in my own Skin
My Title holds
As
🔗 🔒 HER STEEL SUBMISSIVE🔒 🔗
Erotic & Exotic Submissive
🫸🫸🔒A DOM IS A DOM FOR A REASON

     ⚡ 🔗 A S S E R T I V E 🔗⚡

❌❌NSA.DOMS ❌❌ BIG NO 🚫 ❌❌
Call Me "the Old Fashioned Type "....whatever you call it.. ONLY ONE DOM in My Life Space ....no hopping b _ h t too.....or ....I AM 🚫 NOT🚫 4 U
Unless, THIS IS PROJECTED BY
YOU
I AM NOT FOR YOU
I seek A DOM who does not 'sit on the Fence'
And who Comes literally to Me, The Forefront
Shows He is A DOM





If you want a status relationship involvement with me...🫸.You are Not in the UK🫷
PUT IN THE PROPER COMMITMENT
YOU WILL NEED TO HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL AND BE AUThENTIC FOR ME
TO CONSIDER YOU AS MY DOM


🪝🫸THIS 🪝IS🪝A DYNAMIC 🫷 🪝


⚡🔒🔗⚡🔒🔗⚡🔒🔗⚡🔒🔗
NO SPARKS
NO IGNITION

NO DOM

NO DYNAMIC
⚡🔒⚡🔒🔗⚡🔒⚡🔒🔗⚡🔒🔗



II⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️
🚫I AM N🚫 T A PLAY PARTNER Or want nothing Superficial/fake 🚫
IF I FEEL OR SENSE YOU ARE USING ME
= It's a Definite ❌NO❌
It DOESN'T Matter if you are 100% Dominant and there is a Connection etc
🦴🔒🦴YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRY TOO HARD
FOR MY ATTENTION
JUST GET IT RIGHT
I AM YOURS
SIMPLE 🦴🔒🦴

N🚫 ABANDONMENT
NEVER EVER -
iF that's "your Style"
FORGET ME 4 G👍 👍 D
Cos I am not going down that Route Never Never
➰➰If You can't SHow RESPECT you should not Be A DOM , REAL DOM shows Respect ➰➰

= You will get a Swipe if there is NSA
I CLARIFY I DON'T WANT THiS (meaningless to a Submissive).Just find it elsewhere.
A REAL MAN = A REAL DOM GOES Out and gets what HE NEEDS BEFORE ITS GONE/TOO LATE

⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️


📞🔔 DON'T WASTE MY TIME IF YOU CANT "CHAT"/ ENGAGE DIRECT WITH ME🔔📞⭐⭐NOT INTERESTED⭐ ⭐ IN PEOPLE WHO DON'T
⭐ CHAT⭐ WITH ME📞
If You are RUDE ......it's a Definite🚫 NO🚫
🫸🫸 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐WITHOUT ANY EXISTING ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐PROPER
REAL ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ COMMUNICATION THERE IS NO DEVOTION/COMMITMENT 🫷🫷 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
NO RELATIONSHIP/NO DYNAMIC ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
If I" perceive" NO Genuine Interest or any "Vibe or Energy" /lack of it from the other Side (Dom) / Shows ZERO Positivity Consistently
It's a NO.
If you can't PROVE you are "BEING REAL"
it's a No or if "IT" Doesn't "FEEL REAL"(crucial), it's a NO
🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫"If I FEEL BETRAYAL "by anyone , Even by "Females"/friends/Followers
It's a NO.🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫
If I YOU are "Too Serious (negative vibes )"
It's a NO🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫
A DOM - " It must Not FEEL Cold"
My Gut says NO immediately.
SHOW UP and NEVER DISAPPEAR
💪SHOW THE CONFIDENCE OF A DOM💪
💪SHOW IT💪
✔️✔️✔️
🤜 Y E S 🤛
🫸🫸 YOUR P❤️‍🔥WER DERIVES OUT OF RESPECT AND TRUST FOR ME🫷🫷
🫷And When (every time ) I bow to your Feet THIS is because 🔒YOU 🔒Respect and Love Me 100% 🫷

⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️

📌A Dynamic is "wired, a Live Wire created between a Dom and his Submissive through the utter importance of Mutual Communication.Withoit this "Formula", the "Live Wire is functionless".
Any interested Dom who wants to get to know me and create a relationship must communicate to me and have conversations , anything less is NOT ENOUGH.
📌Too many "Hook up" offers/Not seeking an "NSA Dom"



📌⭐100% Dom Men only⭐ (no Switch Tendencies whatsoever)
📌 FORGET ME IF THERE "ARE OTHERS" , UNLESS YOU CAN PROVE YOU ONLY NEED ME IN YOUR LIFE
🌊 🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊L 👁️ 👁️ k Elsewhere into the 🌊 🌊 🌊 🌊 🌊 sailing away 🌊🌊🌊🌊
📌Time and Presence
REAL LIFE REAL LIFE REAL LIFE
🖥️NO CYBER STUFF 🖥️
I NEED TO S👁️👁️ YOU PHYSICALLY IN WHOLE FORM HEAD TO TOE 💪💪

BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 65 years UK London

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