I'm an educated professional with a fast paced crazy job during the day and a Dungeons and Dragons, Pokemon collecting, video game playing nerd at night!

I'm only looking for friends first. I'm monogamous and don't do casual sex.

What gets my attention is: brains, humor, and heart-those get me every time!

Most common responses to the most common messages:

1) I'm not interested in your genital pics.

2) I'm not looking to come over tonight and have sex with you.

3) I'm doing great thanks!

4) My parents are the ones who did the making me look cute thing.

5) No I don't want to read your weird sex fanfic you randomly sent me a total stranger.

6) I make enough I don't need to be in your camgirl side hustle, paid for sex, feet pics, used underwear and or any other fetish you're trying to pay me for.

7) No I'm not sending you *** either.

8) Great you're a Dom/me that doesn't mean you're mine. Don't act like it or you'll see my final form (insert dragon Ball Z 2 hour montage of getting to level 5000).

Kink wise:
Rough CNC? You got it. A proper bare-bottom spanking followed by rough or sensual sex? I got that covered. Fucking my ass while you're whispering sweet words in my ear? I might have done it once or twice. Spanking my clit, torturing my pussy, flirting ineffectively, or simply watching a good movie together? That's amazing. Making me and you cum multiple times? That's written with bold letters in my resume. Learning your likes and dislikes? Oh yeah!

Totally awesome things I can talk about all day:

Pokemon cards (especially vintage) I'm a total nerd who does have a pretty sweet collection. If you're looking for something for yours hit me up! Maybe I can help. I have extensive cards from base, jungle, fossil, base 2, and team rocket.

Guessing several people screamed and ran but hey if you're still here I'm also into DnD (not the kinky type ... Though hey I do love role-playing) video games ( currently loving Dune: Awakening), horse back riding (hoping to get back into it now that I'm closer to places that have them), and fishing!

I'm stable in my life, own my home, car, good job, mentally not nutters, and know what I want and what I don't.

I get along best with people over 35 normally but sometimes late twenties have the old soul vibe too! Extroverted people who are happy to do most the talking and dominate leaning tendencies to the front please and thank you!

I'm more a quiet reserved introvert who likes to go with the flow. I have to be in charge at work so off the clock I love being around people who naturally enjoy leading so I don't have to.

BDSM Play Partner ● 35 to 65 years ● 150km around USA San Francisco
BDSM Play Partner ● 18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Lake Shore

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A pet is a submissive who enjoys taking on aspects of a domesticated animal. Pets enjoy the freedom of being animal-like. They leave all adult responsibility behind to play like their chosen pet. There are many different levels of pet play. Some pets enjoy dressing up with masks and gloves so that the pet can’t speak or use their hands as humans would. Other’s just like to act like pets without any particular specialist gear. There can be a sexual element to pet play but quite often it is just simply about play and the power dynamic between the Owner and their dearly beloved pet.
An owner enjoys pet play but not by becoming pet-like at all. They are the responsible person who looks after the person playing as a cat, dog, pony or other animal. They are Dominant personalities with a kind, caring side. They take over complete control during pet play. Just as any owner would do with a pet. Owners pair up with pets. They may only ever pick one type of pet, being a dog person or a cat person for example, or they might like the variety of owning different pets. They will perform tasks such as grooming, feeding and putting down water for their pets. They may lock their pet in a cage if it’s appropriate. Dog and Cat Pet play owners will do lots of play and grooming activities with their pets. There may be elements of training, rewarding positive behaviour and punishing bad. An owner may choose to lead their pet around on a lead or have a special collar for them that looks just like that of an animal pet. Pony owners might not focus so much on play. Pony play can come in different forms but will include training the pony to do specific tricks and/or having them pull a carriage of some sort or carry a person on their back. Owners take pride in looking after and showing off their pets. They may own one or more. There is a strong bond between an owner and their pet, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it is a monogamous relationship. There can be a sexual element in an owner and pet’s play but often it is all about the dynamic between the pet and the owner. Owners enjoy taking on the responsibilities so that the pet can lose all human inhibitions and completely become a pet for a period of time.
Slaves are submissives who totally give all control over to their Master/Mistress. The main difference from other submissives is that they hand over control of all their life, 24/7 to their top. There can be pre-agreed exceptions to this rule. For the purposes of work for example but by vast majority a slave hands over all decision making to their Dom. BDSM slaves are happiest when serving a Dominant. They tend to not have limits with their Master/Mistress. This is because their dynamic is very close. The Dominant knows his/her slaves limits and keeps to them. This is a very unique relationship and is one to build up to. Slaves start out as submissives first and after time become a slave. Slaves, even more so than submissives, tend to wear some kind of symbol of their BDSM slave status. This can be a collar or a piece of jewellery that symbolises their belonging to their Dominant. Slaves give complete trust to their Dominant, freeing their minds from worry and responsibility. It is a very unique roll and one that only certain submissives can take on.