I value consent, communication, and trust above all in a relationship. As a dom, I lean towards a more strict and controlling dynamic, preferring to express my dominance through firm yet consensual actions such as hair pulling, throat squeezing, spanking, and pinning against the wall, among other things. Equally important to me is the psychological aspect of dominance. Dominating someone’s mind is a powerful way to deepen submission. I consider aftercare an essential practice. It is a time for us to reconnect, reflect on the experience, and make sure we both feel safe and cared for. This balance of control and care, the physical and the psychological, defines my approach to being a dom. If you are to be my sub, I will do my best to care for you. I am flexible and willing to adapt to what you want. I want to make sure you enjoy this and feel comfortable throughout.

To support that safety and comfort, I use the colour system during scenes. Green means you are comfortable, enjoying yourself, and want things to continue or even intensify. Yellow tells me you are approaching a limit, and it is time to slow down, adjust, or check in with you. Red means stop completely. No hesitation, no questions. Everything ends immediately, and we shift focus to care and reassurance. This system is not just a formality for me. It is a clear and trusted way for you to have a voice, even when you are surrendering control. Being a submissive is so much more than just being teased. It is about trust, vulnerability, and finding strength in letting go at the right moments. Submission means choosing to yield, to follow, and to place your trust in someone to lead you. It is about allowing yourself to explore your desires and boundaries in a safe and guided way.

A submissive listens, follows guidance, and embraces the structure or rules set by their dom. Sometimes it means showing obedience or completing tasks that rein*** the dynamic. Other times, it is about being honest and open about your needs and feelings. The teasing might be enjoyable, but it is only one part of submission. The real power of being a submissive lies in your willingness to give yourself fully to the dynamic, knowing you are safe, cared for, and valued.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around Australia Crestmead

I'm an educated professional with a fast paced crazy job during the day and a Dungeons and Dragons, Pokemon collecting, video game playing nerd at night!

I'm only looking for friends first. I'm monogamous and don't do casual sex.

What gets my attention is: brains, humor, and heart-those get me every time!

Most common responses to the most common messages:

1) I'm not interested in your genital pics.

2) I'm not looking to come over tonight and have sex with you.

3) I'm doing great thanks!

4) My parents are the ones who did the making me look cute thing.

5) No I don't want to read your weird sex fanfic you randomly sent me a total stranger.

6) I make enough I don't need to be in your camgirl side hustle, paid for sex, feet pics, used underwear and or any other fetish you're trying to pay me for.

7) No I'm not sending you *** either.

8) Great you're a Dom/me that doesn't mean you're mine. Don't act like it or you'll see my final form (insert dragon Ball Z 2 hour montage of getting to level 5000).

Kink wise:
Rough CNC? You got it. A proper bare-bottom spanking followed by rough or sensual sex? I got that covered. Fucking my ass while you're whispering sweet words in my ear? I might have done it once or twice. Spanking my clit, torturing my pussy, flirting ineffectively, or simply watching a good movie together? That's amazing. Making me and you cum multiple times? That's written with bold letters in my resume. Learning your likes and dislikes? Oh yeah!

Totally awesome things I can talk about all day:

Pokemon cards (especially vintage) I'm a total nerd who does have a pretty sweet collection. If you're looking for something for yours hit me up! Maybe I can help. I have extensive cards from base, jungle, fossil, base 2, and team rocket.

Guessing several people screamed and ran but hey if you're still here I'm also into DnD (not the kinky type ... Though hey I do love role-playing) video games ( currently loving Dune: Awakening), horse back riding (hoping to get back into it now that I'm closer to places that have them), and fishing!

I'm stable in my life, own my home, car, good job, mentally not nutters, and know what I want and what I don't.

I get along best with people over 35 normally but sometimes late twenties have the old soul vibe too! Extroverted people who are happy to do most the talking and dominate leaning tendencies to the front please and thank you!

I'm more a quiet reserved introvert who likes to go with the flow. I have to be in charge at work so off the clock I love being around people who naturally enjoy leading so I don't have to.

BDSM Play Partner35 to 65 years ● 150km around USA San Francisco

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