Women Seeking Men - Extreme

If “extreme” is the word that fits what pulls you in, you already know this isn’t something you can drop into a standard dating app and expect to land well. 

FET is built for kinksters who want space for the full spectrum of desire, including the darker, deeper, and more demanding edges that don’t translate in vanilla spaces. Here, “extreme” can mean a lot of different things, from heavier BDSM and intense physical play to structured power exchange and dynamics that feel immersive rather than occasional. 

For some, that looks like strict roles, long-term dynamics, or a sense of control that runs deeper than surface-level play. For others, it’s about intensity, curiosity, and pushing into territory that feels more focused, more deliberate, and more real. 

Whatever the pull is for you, it deserves honesty, chemistry, and the right kind of match. 

 

Women Seeking Men For Extreme BDSM 

Women seeking men in the extreme space are usually looking beyond labels and into how someone actually shows up. Intensity on its own is not enough. What matters is how that intensity is handled. 

Extreme BDSM can involve stronger restraint, deeper control, and more psychological depth, which means the dynamic only works when both people are tuned in, communicating clearly, and respecting boundaries from the start. For some, that intensity spills over into primal play, where instinct takes the lead. 

That’s why the right connection stands out quickly. 

On FET, you can connect with men who are: 

 - Into extreme BDSM and deeper power exchange  

 - Confident with domination, submission, and control  

 - Open-minded, respectful, and self-aware  

 - Comfortable with limits, negotiation, and communication  

 - Looking for real chemistry, not fake edgy behavior  

 

Better Place for Extreme Domination and Submission 

Trying to talk about intense desires on a mainstream dating app can quickly go south. 

FET gives you a better place to start. 

This is fetish dating for kinksters who want to freely express their desires with people who get it. You can be clearer about whether you want extreme dominationextreme submission, rough handling, bondage, discipline, high protocol, training, manhandling, obedience, or a deeper kind of power exchange that goes well beyond light play.  

That means less guessing, less awkward explaining, and more room for connections that feel aligned from the first message. 

On FET, you can: 

 - Create a profile that reflects your real desires  

 - Post a free Kinky Ad  

 - Send a Spank to show interest  

 - Chat with local kinksters  

 - Join the Forum and meet people with shared interests  

 

Ready to Meet Men Who Match Your Edge? 

If extreme kink is part of your desire, your curiosity, or the kind of intensity you want more of, FET gives you space to explore it with people who understand the appeal. The live listings on the page include women looking for training, extreme bondage, complete control, stronger domination, and rougher play, so the tone here clearly supports a more intense BDSM audience.  

Women seeking men can browse profiles, post what they’re into, start chatting, and connect with kinksters who bring confidence, awareness, and real chemistry into the mix. 

Sign up today and find men who match your energy, your edge, and your kinky side. 

Keep it kinky. Find your match on FET today. 

I’ve been scouring this site to see people’s views and perceptions of punishments and rewards. And of course, it’s a very subjective matter as there’s limits, preferences, and people’s opinions as well.
So let’s talk about what I consider punishments to be first:
Since I tend to like more extreme things, and have a higher tolerance, I’m going to need something that is more severe- especially since I have bratty tendencies, I’m looking to be corrected. And a punishment can be a NUMBER of things. Ex: infliction, control/restriction of outter communication (eg. family, friends); sensory deprivation, being tied up in a stress position (minutes, hours, days), , water boarding. Quite frankly I could go on. I want that psyche involvement. Make me so scared of you that I don’t want to act out because I know the punishment will be severe. I feel like with a M/s dynamic or most BDSM dynamics, the person who is not in a position of power should feel a sense of toward to person in power as a result of respect being integrated into the person who is not in power within the dynamic.

Now for rewards! Yay!:
Rewards are generally subjective to the sub/slave/pet/etc. personally, I love being rewarded with praise, cuddles and direct attention, taking care of any bruises or cuts you inflicted on me, princess treatment, less time in a stress position, allowing me to see my friends or go do something special, etc.
rewards shouldn’t be over given - as this sets the scene for greed and a sense of being spoiled, then the brattiness will never be corrected. But rewards are necessary because I need to know when I’m doing good, and you approve of those certain actions or you’re pleased with how I am.

But i definitely want to hear other peoples opinions, and what type of rewards/punishments you give or receive.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around Canada Calgary
BDSM Play Partner50 to 70 years ● 50km around USA Florence
BDSM Play Partner50 to 70 years ● 50km around USA Florence

Ok so here goes…, I am 46 and searching for my soulmate.

I like to wear the trousers and control things generally, I like the kind of D/s slave setup but I do not want to be a mistress that just plays with you and fulfills all your desires, i have desires too,

I want to be surprised sometimes and treated like a goddess a princess. Loyalty and honesty are extremely important to me.

I want a man who knows he’s a man, a man who loves and appreciates women and intimacy and love and kink, a man who appreciates women in lace and in fetish clothing or even in comfy clothes, I am NOT into sissies or Crossdressers and I’m not interested in tying men up and doing them with strap ons, or keeping them in chastity. I want a man who tries to please me and gets joy from doing so.

So what am I interested in? A 24/7 TPE relationship where I actually come first, not a situation where it is a guise to only get your secret kinks.

I am a natural leader and control freak, I love men looking like men and acting like men but under my authority, I am kinky but I also want love, deep conversation and to build something so special. I like to take care of and to be taken care of, I suppose my ideal relationship would be what would look like a normal relationship from the outside but i have D/s control, I love the idea of moulding a man to be everything I desire, choosing his clothes, hairstyle and free time.
I love the idea of creating asthetics and atmosphere to explore dynamics on all levels. I want to be able to experiment with my submissive switch side but whilst knowing I can return to my natural tendency of dominance.

I am looking for someone who is more dominant in life but can be submissive to me in a non pathetic way, honest, loyal, fun and intelligent, emotional, empathic and sentimental, has a sense of humour, someone who is patient and kind and calm but can be a little cheeky or play a little bit hard to get or even be a bit dominant sometimes and not just be weak.Yes I guess I’m looking for a submissive Dominant, where the submission and dominance have to be in the right places. I love to chase, i love tease and build up especially mentally.

I have had experiences with men who are liars or destructive and I do not want that in my life, I need someone who values trust and honesty, who can be strong and there for me when I need it. I can be a bit dramatic and need patience, if I get it then I have a lot to offer. Deep conversation is very important to me I am pretty dark minded but I am also very caring and loving and playful and creative. I love being a woman but I am also quite boyish in my interests.

I love gaming, god of war, resident evil, Elden ring, assassins creed, magic the gathering, playing pool, a few beers, occasionally cocktails. I love poker and metal detecting, binge watching tv series and reality tv, I Love eating out and shopping, wandering around markets, escape rooms, BBQ’s jacuzzis, creating themed parties, I love thinking outside of the box, coming up with grand ideas. I love celebrations, like birthdays or summer parties. I love a good massage and I love entrepreneurship. People who are loyal to me I will treat them well and go above and beyond for.

I currently live with 2 D/s slaves/friends. They are platonic relationships. So whoever my soulmate is must be ok with that poly setup and a rather unusual household.

I also have adult sons who I run a property development company with, my goal is to make millions and to be able to create a cool life filled with fun, I want to buy land, a big house, would love to run fetish clubs,and find someone to grow old with when our bodies are too old. Ideally I’m looking for someone involved in the building trade who could come onboard our company.

I am not religious, I edge more towards pagan beliefs, I am very interested in quantum physics and the idea consciousness creates your reality and and I am a bit of a conspiracy theorist.

I love all different types of music, imagine dragons, the weeknd, 80’s, billie eilish, avici, mood and atmospheric

Tv I like Vikings, Dexter, breaking bad, dragons den, apprentice masterchef, survivor, crime, downtown abbey, Spartacus, Clarksons farm, basically decent reality tv and series are my thing, a good movie if it’s well produced.

My negative qualities, I smoke, talk a lot, I’m very possessive. I can sometimes be a bit narcissistic, If you embark on a relationship with me you enter my world and sign up for supporting my life and goals.

My kink interests are :

Roleplay, (I have a big thing for roleplay) Slavery, TPE, collars, D/s control, choosing clothing, monitoring activity, eye restrictions, financial control, being served,, medical, asylum, age play, pet play, kidnap, era play like Victorian schools or slavery or Roman slavery
Flogging, queening, foot worship, tease, cages, latex, straitjackets, there is a lot more I’d do and some more private things but those are my main interests.

If you like my profile, drop me a message and tell me a bit about yourself.

Age
Location
Current living and work situation, skills, any commitments etc.
And more about you in general.

Short messages like hi will be ignored, as will crude or rude messages….yes I know I want a lot, as least I’m honest, if you don’t like my profile you can ignore it. :)

BDSM/Fetish Family25 to 48 years ● 25km around UK Plymouth

BDSM Dating - Fetish Personals

Women Seeking Men - Extreme

If “extreme” is the word that fits what pulls you in, you already know this isn’t something you can drop into a standard dating app and expect to land well. 

FET is built for kinksters who want space for the full spectrum of desire, including the darker, deeper, and more demanding edges that don’t translate in vanilla spaces. Here, “extreme” can mean a lot of different things, from heavier BDSM and intense physical play to structured power exchange and dynamics that feel immersive rather than occasional. 

For some, that looks like strict roles, long-term dynamics, or a sense of control that runs deeper than surface-level play. For others, it’s about intensity, curiosity, and pushing into territory that feels more focused, more deliberate, and more real. 

Whatever the pull is for you, it deserves honesty, chemistry, and the right kind of match. 

 

Women Seeking Men For Extreme BDSM 

Women seeking men in the extreme space are usually looking beyond labels and into how someone actually shows up. Intensity on its own is not enough. What matters is how that intensity is handled. 

Extreme BDSM can involve stronger restraint, deeper control, and more psychological depth, which means the dynamic only works when both people are tuned in, communicating clearly, and respecting boundaries from the start. For some, that intensity spills over into primal play, where instinct takes the lead. 

That’s why the right connection stands out quickly. 

On FET, you can connect with men who are: 

 - Into extreme BDSM and deeper power exchange  

 - Confident with domination, submission, and control  

 - Open-minded, respectful, and self-aware  

 - Comfortable with limits, negotiation, and communication  

 - Looking for real chemistry, not fake edgy behavior  

 

Better Place for Extreme Domination and Submission 

Trying to talk about intense desires on a mainstream dating app can quickly go south. 

FET gives you a better place to start. 

This is fetish dating for kinksters who want to freely express their desires with people who get it. You can be clearer about whether you want extreme dominationextreme submission, rough handling, bondage, discipline, high protocol, training, manhandling, obedience, or a deeper kind of power exchange that goes well beyond light play.  

That means less guessing, less awkward explaining, and more room for connections that feel aligned from the first message. 

On FET, you can: 

 - Create a profile that reflects your real desires  

 - Post a free Kinky Ad  

 - Send a Spank to show interest  

 - Chat with local kinksters  

 - Join the Forum and meet people with shared interests  

 

Ready to Meet Men Who Match Your Edge? 

If extreme kink is part of your desire, your curiosity, or the kind of intensity you want more of, FET gives you space to explore it with people who understand the appeal. The live listings on the page include women looking for training, extreme bondage, complete control, stronger domination, and rougher play, so the tone here clearly supports a more intense BDSM audience.  

Women seeking men can browse profiles, post what they’re into, start chatting, and connect with kinksters who bring confidence, awareness, and real chemistry into the mix. 

Sign up today and find men who match your energy, your edge, and your kinky side. 

Keep it kinky. Find your match on FET today.