A sadist is a Dominant who enjoys inflicting pain on a submissive partner or partners. However, it isn’t always that a sadist enjoys inflicting all kinds of pain on others. They may well enjoy specific sadistic tortures. They may prefer using a particular instrument like a whip or a cane or they might enjoy adding a sadistic element to other BDSM activities such as rope and restraints.
Sadists get pleasure from inflicting pain on others. This is always consensual and agreed in advance. They can enjoy the visual evidence of the pain they’ve inflicted in bruises and welts and red skin. They often enjoy the noises a masochist makes while they are inflicting pain on them and enjoy watching the way that masochist moves as they are tortured. They may even enjoy restraining the masochist so they can’t easily move.
Not all sadistic torture leaves marks. Sadists can use electric that inflicts lots of pain on their masochist but doesn’t leave lasting marks. Not all sadism is focused on the physical. Sadists often use fear and control to play with pain without inflicting any physical damage at all. This is called a mind fuck.
Many people often ask what is a sadist? There isn’t one simple answer. Every sadist is different. Sadists are most often Dominants but can be switches. Even masochists and submissives can have a sadistic streak. Enjoying inflicting pain on another person, maybe because they understand the thrill of feeling the pain themselves.
Sadists can become sexually aroused by inflicting painful torture on others, it can also be simply about submission and control. Sadists often spend many hours honing their skills with one particular torture implement to get the most sadistic pleasure out of their implement of choice.
Attracted to intelligence? You may be sapiosexual if intelligence is the top of your list of attractive features to have in a partner. It’s not that a sapiosexual doesn’t find other aspects of a person attractive, it’s just that they value intelligence above all else. They’re turned on by feats of brain, not brawn and look for cleverness in any potential sexual partner. They’re attracted to smart people, and not a smart suit. The word sapiosexual has only existed since 2008 but being attracted to brainy people has been a thing though out history. It’s all about engaging the brain as well as stimulating other body parts. You can find other intellectuals on the forums at fetish.com
Saunas have long had a reputation for being a mainstay of gay sex clubs, but in recent years they've been branching out. Pretty much anyone can enjoy a little playing around in a straight or gay sauna; there's something liberating about the steamy gloom of them, and it's a fantastic spot for exhibitionists and voyeurs alike. Just make sure you've picked the right sauna (your local sex club is one thing; your local swimming pool quite another!) and that you have the consent of all parties involved, including those who are simply bystanders. Make sure you take a few basic safety precautions before having sex in a sauna, too - don't get up to anything too acrobatic, and stay well away from the brazier full of hot coals!