NOT LOOKING FOR PLAY PARTNERS
ABOUT ME:
I’m a BBW with a variety of kinky interests my tastes and needs are somewhat fluid and contrasting at times, both rough and the gentle. In general I’m easy to talk to, understanding and have a great, if sometimes inappropriate, sense of humour.
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I’m relatively new to the kink scene, out of a 25 year vanilla relationship/marriage since February 2023 and since had 2 long distance relationships that were not easy and I don’t want to do long distance again. and I have been enjoying exploring. I’ve no interest in one off hookups, the friends part of FWB is important and realistically I will ultimately want a relationship so prefer to only talk to people open to a relationship at some point.
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MY KINKY SIDE:
I am submissive sexually with men, more sensual/kinky with women but open to some D/s fun. I am not very submissive at all in my day to day life, so my submission is very much kink/sex based. My submissive side reflects a desire to let go in a safe environment so building trust is important to me. I’m not much of a masochist and don’t have a big threshold for *** physically or emotionally but I’m open to trying things at my pace, start slow and build up the submission with trust.
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I also have a sensual/hedonistic side. I like a balance, my preference is that not every sexual encounter be hardcore/rough play. I’m quite *** and tactile with a wicked oral fixation so I adore kissing, cuddles and affection. I like going on dates / hanging out outside of play (I pay my own way, as should you) because some sort of friendship/relationship outside of play is important to me.
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As a sub I am highly motivated by reward, pleasure and praise. As a hopeless perfectionist I don’t like to say “no” and prefer to avoid having to safe word during play unless something is really wrong so I negotiate limits and potential play in advance.
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I’m not a bratty sub, I enjoy doing a good job and as such I don’t respond well to criticism/punishment (especially orgasm denial), I’d rather be rewarded with something others might deem a punishment, like spanking or other bdsm play for doing a good job. If I feel I’ve “failed” or get a punishment for an arbitrary or fabricated reason just to assert dominance I tend to withdraw so I avoid this type of play. I will always do my best to comply with my Dom’s request so if I say I can’t do something there’s a good reason and it may upset me not to be able to do it.
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Generally I like being restrained so pinned down or with actual restraints, light rough stuff like slapping/spanking, spitting, grabbing throat (not choking) or pulling hair, I like toys, etc and wax play too. One area I’d like to explore more is threesomes/multiple partners at once. It’s of interest but requires a lot of trust so I’m waiting for the right scenario.
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I believe pleasure should be reciprocal, I adore giving pleasure but I do expect that enthusiasm to be a two way street. I’ll match my play partner’s energy for pleasing me.
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It’s disheartening to see the number of so called “dom’s” who seem to think the role of a dom is simply to be rude and demand pictures or pleasure without taking responsibility for and fulfilling the physical and emotional needs of their sub, including aftercare and respecting limits.
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I like to be treated well and have a weakness for someone who understands when to spoil me and when to play rough and when to be kind and caring. As a woman I get periods, shocking I know, if you’re the type who thinks that means it’s the fun stops that week, please don’t waste my time.
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DM’s:
So if after all that you still want to chat to me please introduce yourself and get to know me a little. Please use the codeword **STAR** in your DM subject to show you’ve read this. Everyone else is getting ignored or blocked because I’m tired of copy and paste intros.
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It should go without saying don’t aggressively DM assuming you have my submission or that it’s ok to be be disrespectful/demanding, I will just ignore you. My submission, trust and respect needs to be earned, show me you are a decent human first. If you can do that, I’m open to meeting new people.
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I only talk to people who are willing to share a face pic (privately is fine) it’s important I know who I’m talking to, Dublin, and indeed Ireland, is small after all. I will of course share a picture of my face privately too.
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Please don’t message me if you have a blank profile or a gallery of memes/pics of someone else if you’re not willing to share one of your face when you introduce yourself and some sense of who you are. I get an overwhelming amount of messages so please be cognisant of that when you message that I may not always respond quickly or at all if you haven’t bothered to read this and use the code word above.
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