We all know there's nothing wrong with having a fetish for pubic hair. But in a world where many people shave their pubes, how do you go about telling a potential partner that you'd like them to keep theirs? This week, Molly helps untangle one member with a pubic hair fetish from his dilemma on how to approach the topic sensitively.
 

Dear Molly, 
I have a pubic hair fetish. There's something so incredibly sexy about it for me. However, all the women I've ever been with had shaved pubes - or at most had a tiny smattering of closely trimmed pubic hair. My issue is that I don't know how to say to a new partner that I'd love for them to have pubic hair, as I don't want to offend or upset. Do you think it's OK to tell someone this and would love it if they had some?
P. Ubes

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Dear P. Ubes,
Thanks so much for getting in touch with this question. How people like to wear their pubic hair is a fascinating subject because, like many things, it seems to be something that has become victim to fashion or trends.

Many people think that women shaving pubes is a modern phenomenon as a result of it becoming the favoured look in mainstream porn. But there's a long history of women shaving pubes (and even plucking them), that dates back to ancient Egyptian and Roman times. But throughout history, removing pubic hair has been a common hygiene practice, especially to combat pubic lice.

Also, in some Middle Eastern cultures, pubic hair removal is considered to be the proper way for a person to be. Of course, fashions and thoughts do change over time. For example, in the 1970s, having a full thick bush of pubic hair for both men and women was the fashion of the day. But let's be clear, no evidence says having pubic hair is unhygienic.
 

Relish your pubic hair fetish

Most people have a preference about how they keep their pubes; however, like the hair on our heads, many people play with different styles and amounts throughout their life. In the last 15 years or so, there has been a move towards keeping pubic hair to a minimum, especially for women. This means that for someone like yourself who finds pubic hair on women hot, it can be challenging to find someone.
 

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As you state, it's a tricky subject to approach with someone without sounding like you're potentially telling them how they should have their pubes - or even worse, shaming them for the way they have it. There's nothing wrong with being turned on by your partner(s) having pubic hair, but how you go about telling someone matters. I think it's good that you've tried to be thoughtful and sensitive about doing so, but that doesn't mean it's not possible!
 

Ways to introduce your pubic hair fetish

One of the ways you could broach the subject is to suggest watching some vintage porn together. That would allow you to voice your opinion on the sexiness of women's pubic hair. However, I'd avoid saying things like, 'It's sexier than shaved' or 'I don't like the shaved look' because it becomes a negative comment about the person's current styling. When raising a conversation like this, try to ensure that you don't frame it negatively or make someone feel uncomfortable or undesirable. Explaining what you find hot and sexy about it will help a partner to see it from your point of view.

Also, compliment how they look now with something like, "I love how sexy you look shaved, but I also think pubic hair on women can be really sexy." Think about how you'd want someone to approach you if they had a preference for how you kept your pubic hair.

Most important of all, never tell someone how they should be. It's a personal choice of how someone likes to have their pubes. There's no right or wrong way apart from what the person prefers.
 

Finding a partner who has pubic hair

You're not alone in finding pubic hair a sexual turn-on. If you look in our forum or on various kink and fetish sites, there are always conversations and discussions and even groups of people who, like you, identify as having a pubic hair fetish. Finding some of those people might help you meet a future partner for whom you'd not need to have this conversation.
 

Changing fashions

One final thought on this subject is that even though it seems that nearly all women are opting to remove their pubic hair, there has been a slight shift in that mindset. As a result, there appears to be an increasing number of women rejecting the shaved look and returning to having some sort of pubic hair again. I suspect that trend will continue and hopefully, you'll find a partner sporting a beautiful bush that you can both enjoy.
Molly x


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qu****

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Simply as in Frozen,

Let it grow,

Let it grow.

Pubic hair never bothered me anyway, 

    🤪😁😋

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Yes, back to the topic, it's a woman's or a man's choice if they want to just let their pubic hair grow au naturel, and other than a discussed limit in a Dom/sub relationship, this decision must be respected,

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14 hours ago, MsWhiteRose said:

 

Yeah, I just realised that he's blocked me. I'd better not say anything that will get me a warning.... but..... minor overreaction? 

Nope I didn’t. Someone else must have your account access 🤔

i don’t block people but just ignore them 

also could you keep up with the topic and open a new thread please in the interest and respect of the op. 
if that request doesn’t offend anyone here of course 

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3 minutes ago, MsWhiteRose said:

 

Seems like a number of Doms around here don't like a woman speaking up for herself or other women. 

It's a worrying trend I've seen a lot of lately. Not just here either; on the other site I spend much of my time on, some of the grief people get (regardless of gender) for standing up to inappropriate actions/behaviour is downright vile. 

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47 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I think I can still see all of them too... 

 

Seems like a number of Doms around here don't like a woman speaking up for herself or other women. 

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52 minutes ago, quietlysure said:

Errrm, I can still see them, 

 

Yeah, I just realised that he's blocked me. I'd better not say anything that will get me a warning.... but..... minor overreaction? 

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5 minutes ago, quietlysure said:

Errrm, I can still see them, 

I think I can still see all of them too... 

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Errrm, I can still see them, 

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On 2/9/2020 at 7:32 PM, Aranhis said:

In the interests of avoiding miscommunication in future, if you are making a general statement about nobody in particular, you might want to avoid quoting individuals when you make such a statement. That certainly makes it look as though you are directing your comments to them.

 

Either way, when the article itself clearly states you should never tell someone else how they ought to be down there, the comment is in poor taste. Worse if you're directing it generally rather than to just one person.

 

Looks like Severus deleted his comments? 

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Personally I don't keep mine, not for the pleasure of my partner but because its what I prefer (my first ever period I had a incident with what I can only describe as trying to get bubble gum out of hair 😂 I thought to myself nope that's going and haven't had any hair ever since) , lucky for me my Sir likes it smooth that's just what he prefers, I wouldn't say it looks horrible or anything on other women I just don't like it on myself I tried to grow it once and it felt like someone else's vegina was on me 🤷🏻‍♀️ was very strange. On men I like it kept short doesn't have to be completely removed but trimmed (as I hate it when it tickles your nose or you get one in your teeth) others may like this but for me it's a dislike

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2 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

In the interests of avoiding miscommunication in future, if you are making a general statement about nobody in particular, you might want to avoid quoting individuals when you make such a statement. That certainly makes it look as though you are directing your comments about them.

 

Either way, when the article itself clearly states you should never tell someone else how they ought to be down there, the comment is in poor taste. Worse if you're directing it generally rather than to just one person.

You don’t know why I did it so you shouldn’t assume anything and certainly don’t come here on your high horse 

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24 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

Chill out it was just a joke and a general statement not adressed  to you 🤷‍♂️

In the interests of avoiding miscommunication in future, if you are making a general statement about nobody in particular, you might want to avoid quoting individuals when you make such a statement. That certainly makes it look as though you are directing your comments to them.

 

Either way, when the article itself clearly states you should never tell someone else how they ought to be down there, the comment is in poor taste. Worse if you're directing it generally rather than to just one person.

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3 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

Chill out it was just a joke and a general statement not adressed  to you 🤷‍♂️

Please don't tell me to chill out. 

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1 minute ago, white_rose said:

You don't get to make requests. 

Chill out it was just a joke and a general statement not adressed  to you 🤷‍♂️

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On 2/7/2020 at 11:27 PM, FabSeverus said:

🙏 🌳 trimmed pls 

You don't get to make requests. 

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Yes..pubes poking out the underwear is a series of little ropes to lead my mouth in the right direction 

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10 hours ago, quietlysure said:

I don't know there's something Mmmmm on seeing stray hairs poking out from underwear....

Yeah, I like the naughtiness of that. 

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I don't know there's something Mmmmm on seeing stray hairs poking out from underwear....

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2 hours ago, white_rose said:

Well, that's it. The bush is on it's way back. 

🙏 🌳 trimmed pls 

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Well, that's it. The bush is on it's way back. 

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On 2/4/2020 at 11:02 PM, FabSeverus said:

White rose more men like hairy bush than shaved i think...

I don't think so. I think hairy is still considered bit odd/bit gross. 

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I am a man who likes both!!

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White rose more men like hairy bush than shaved i think...

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Mary, Mary, quite contrary, how does your garden grow?
With no sign of wax, nor razor blade,
As every White Rose should be, 🙂🙃🙂

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I know it's beyond me,

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What upsets me is the number of people who react with disgust about pubic hair. Keep it or shave it, but it's not disgusting. Haven't we moved on enough to see that?

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Just say you'd really like a hedge round the garden 😁

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Hot topic for me right now. It's the return of the bush. But how do you tell someone that you want to keep your hair down there?

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Nooo. Leave it. Love a nice bush. A hairy bush is like a dodo nowdays . RIP hair stuck between teeth.

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Not for me ! I like it trimmed, neat or smooth. No 70s overgrown garden 😂😂

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As much as I love women who are natural and just let their pubes grow, it's their decision about whether they let them grow or not, and I respect that choice 😁, who am I to say otherwise,

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