Molly's BDSM Tips | Making Sense of an Unusual Poop Fetish

Believing you have an unusual fetish or kink is quite common, especially if you don't fully understand it or have others to explore it with. This week, our BDSM advice guru Molly serves up some practical advice for one FET member looking to understand her kink: a poop fetish.
 

Dear Molly, 
I'm a lesbian, and my biggest turn on is watching people while they sit on the toilet and poop. The part that I like is watching the person and them being embarrassed. While I prefer it to be a girl, I've discovered that gender doesn't always matter. I have tried to find videos of people sitting on the toilet, but since my fetish is very specific and unusual, they can be complicated to find. The problem with all this is that I'm finding I can't orgasm without thinking about my poop fetish and I don't understand my kink. Does this kind of thing have a name, and how can I possibly find someone to share it with me?
A. Watcher
 

Dear A. Watcher,
The fetishization of anything related to fecal matter (poop) is called coprophilia. However, in fetish and kink circles, it's commonly referred to as scat fetish or poop fetish. This fetish relates to any forms of arousal that involve poop or pooping in some way, such as using poo in various sexual acts, seeing poo, or in your case, watching someone while they're defecating. While it may seem like a very niche or unusual fetish, there are quite a community of folks for whom various forms of this kink are a big thing.
 

Poop fetish is definitely a fetish

The definition of a fetish is something you have to have to become aroused/orgasm. We all have various kinks, but for most, those things add to the experience and don't always have to be part of sex for the person to get off. While having a fetish is not a bad thing in itself, it can become an issue if someone is unable to become aroused any other way because it makes their sex life a relatively narrow activity. When it involves a somewhat unusual activity, it can, as you've found, be challenging to find someone to share it with you.
 

Humiliation fetish?

You mention that the part about your kink that turns you on is the other person's embarrassment; that makes me wonder if actually what you have is a humiliation fetish. Being turned on by other people's embarrassment and humiliation is not an uncommon fetish, especially when it comes to kinky relationships.
 

“It might be worth exploring other types of humiliation play to see if they work for you. That way, you would have different types of kink play aside from your poop fetish that could widen your opportunities.”

Being used as furniture (forniphilia), being discussed by people sexually, being called names, are all forms of a humiliation fetish. Therefore I'm wondering if it might be worth exploring other types of humiliation play to see if they work for you. That way, you would have different types of kink play aside from your poop fetish that could widen your opportunities for connections with other kinksters.
 

Exploring kinks with sex workers

One solution when it comes to exploring kinks with another person would be to consider hiring a sex worker. When doing so, it's important to remember that different sex workers provide various services. So it's essential to do your research and be upfront with anyone you find about precisely what you want. If that isn't a service they offer, then you can always politely ask them if they can recommend someone they know who might, but respect their decision.

Poop fetish: would watching someone go turn you on?

Finding like-minded folks

Searching for others is always a challenge when it comes to more unusual kinks, but the truth is, there are other folks out there who like the things you do. You only need to find them. Now you have some names for the things that you like; it should make it easier for you to search online for porn and communities where people gather who enjoy poop fetish and humiliation-related play.

Additionally, if you find there are other aspects of play that involve humiliation, then you can search for those things too. There are groups on Reddit dedicated to scat fetish, and other fetish-focused sites. There's also the scat fetish forum here on Fetish. Remember, search engines are your friend – and hopefully finding those groups will help you to meet kinksters who like the things you do and maybe would be interested in exploring them with you.
Good luck!
Molly x
 

If you have an unusual fetish that you want to understand better, or want to discuss any other kink-related issue, contact Molly via her Fetish profile. Have a poop fetish? Join our forum!

 
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