Hello Sunshine ☀️💋
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Straight Dom Mommy, 35, Indian in NL — Seeking Local Sub in Hilversum / Utrecht /Almere/ Amsterdam
Dom Mommy — Seeking Local Sub (NL) 💫
Quick Summary ✨
Identity: 35, straight, Indian-origin, affectionate Dominant woman (“Dom Mommy”).
Where: Based in the Netherlands (Hilversum area). Prefer Hilversum / Utrecht / Amsterdam or any place reachable by a single sprinter/intercity ride from Hilversum Station.
Looking for: Monogamous kink FWB (once we click) — not a romantic relationship, not ONS, not serial dating. Your current marital/relationship Status does not matter.
Style: Real-life dynamic only. Slow-build, affectionate dominance, structure + care.
Availability: Busy life/job; want to invest my limited time in one compatible sub.
What I Want (Fit & Format) 🎯
Dynamic: Long-term, monogamous kink FWB once we connect. You can be in a separate long-term relationship; discretion is expected.
Commitment: If we click, it’s you + me in this dynamic. If either of us wants to end it, we communicate it—no drama, no blocking.
In-person only: No online play and no long-distance. Must be local enough for regular, easy meets.
Travel/Hosting:
I don’t host (past stalker situation) and I don’t drive.
If you live beyond my range, you come to Hilversum.
If a day-use hotel is needed, you cover the cost. Paying for a room does not s***d up my pace or change my boundaries.
Health & Safety:
I’m drug-free and STI-free (tested 1 Sept 2025 for 5 major STIs).
You must be drug-free and provide recent negative STI results.
I’ll only kiss after I see your recent negative STI report.
Who I Am (Vibe & Values) 🧭
Personality: Confident, nurturing, affectionate Dominant with firm boundaries and high expectations.
Ethos: Dynamics must be safe, consensual, respectful.
Culture: My Indian background informs my warmth, intensity, loyalty, and presence—in life and in play.
Time Use: I won’t “build a sub army.” I invest deeply in one compatible person.
Kinks & Interests 🔥
Core Dynamic: Emotional dominance, behavioral control, and physical play.
Affectionate Dom Mom Energy: Warm, steady dominance with structure, praise, and gentle but firm correction. Expect routines, check-ins, and nurturing touch—paired with clear rules, consequences, and genuine care.
MDLB (Adult-Only Age Play): Soft, grounding rituals—bedtime check-ins, daily tasks, guided routines, manners, and rewards. It’s about safety, guidance, and growth (strictly between consenting adults).
CFNM (Clothed Female, Nude Male): Power expressed through presence and composure—directives, posture training, inspection, and service while I remain dressed. Emphasis on respect, obedience, and composure.
Breastfeeding (Adult, Consensual): Intimate, calming bonding within negotiated boundaries—comfort, closeness, breath, and stillness. It’s nurturing first; pace is slow and connection-led.
Cuddles & Soothing Contact: Lots of affectionate touch—cuddling, stroking hair, holding, and quiet time. Aftercare is essential: hydration, check-ins, and space to decompress.
I Enjoy: Rituals, protocols, obedience training, tasks, discipline/punishment (when needed), tease & denial, orgasm control, light bondage, CFNM, domestic service, MDLB (adult-only age-play), massage, watching, JOI.
Pegging:
I genuinely love pegging—passion, power, surrender, trust.
Not a first-date (or early-dates) activity. I move very slowly and only when genuine connection builds.
It must feel like a natural, passionate progression, not a checkbox or a purchase. You cannot buy this.
How It Flows: Rituals → service or training → gentle correction/praise → decompression and aftercare. Consent, safewords, and communication guide every step.
What I’m Looking For in a Sub 🌿
Traits: Submissive, affectionate, mature, respectful, communicative, honest.
Self-awareness: Know your limits and soft spots; willing to negotiate and check in.
Presence: We meet in person; strong mutual chemistry matters.
Practicality: Check NS connections to Hilversum—aim for 1 hour commute and consistent availability.
What I Offer / My Style 🤝
Structure + Care: Rules, rituals, guidance, discipline—with warmth and stability.
Consistency: Respect, routines, check-ins, protocols.
Safety: Consent and safewords; emotional and physical safety are non-negotiable.
Investment: I bring experience and focus for someone who matches with honesty, effort, and dedication.
Mutual Expectations & Boundaries 🛡️
Open Communication: Likes, curiosities, limits/hard limits. If something’s uncomfortable, we stop.
Respect: For each other’s time, privacy, and space.
Pacing: We talk, meet, and build trust before anything intense.
No Pressure: New or experienced—maturity and respect matter more than a résumé.
Marital/Vanilla Relationship Status & Discretion 🤐
Your existing relationship status doesn’t disqualify you. If you’re in a long-term vanilla relationship or marriage, that’s fine. It does not matter to me, But Respect and authenticity towards our connection matters.
This is a monogamous kink FWB dynamic once we click—discreet, focused, and separate from romance.
Discretion can be arranged: clear boundaries, agreed communication windows, neutral meet locations, and privacy norms.
No drama, no overlap: we respect all lives involved—honesty with me, confidentiality from me.
Safety : I do not want to be a reason for a shit storm in your life. So make sure you are able to keep this open/discreet from people who should or should not know this.
Public Behavior Code 🕶️
We meet in closed/private spaces at agreed times/places.
If we bump into each other in public/work/friends, we act like strangers. Discretion is part of the dynamic.
Hard Passes (Not a Match If You…) ❌
Want a romantic relationship/marriage or ONS.
Are a serial dater, booty caller, or constantly looking for new mommies.
Are emotionally distant, non-communicative, or want a couple of wild escape dates.
Are a celebrity/politician/VIP/well known family. I don't mind being discreet, but I do not wish to bear the weight of your popularity and privacy concerns.
Block people instead of communicating.
Green Flags (You Likely Fit If You…) ✅
Want a long-term, monogamous (once we click) kink FWB.
Are very communicative—especially early on; share mundane updates, check-ins, selfies.
Are authentic, respectful, and affectionate.
Marital status is not a barrier, but discretion and consistency are essential.
Hard Limits 🚫
No minors, age play is adult-only. If I doubt your age, I’ll ask for ID.
No non-consensual themes or CNC.
No ***, ***, or play under the influence.
No unsafe or barrier-free play; recent negative STI proof is required before any kissing or intimacy.
No breathplay, choking, ***, needles, cutting, ***, or vomit.
No *** or *** based on identity (race, culture, body, religion, sexuality, etc.).
No recording, photos, or sharing details.
No financial domination, tributes, or pay-for-play.
No switching—I remain the Dominant.
No third parties, swinging, or group scenes in this dynamic.
No online-only dynamics or long-distance play.
No rushing my pace—I determine everything what, when, how. pegging or any advanced play only after a genuine connection over multiple dates.
No boundary testing or manipulative behavior (silent treatment, guilt-trips, blocking instead of communicating).
Safewords and aftercare are mandatory (non-negotiable norms, not “limits”).
How to Reach Out (Message Template) 📬
Please include:
About you: Age, location, sexuality, gender, BDSM/submission experience, what draws you to submit?
What are the specific kinks that you are very much into? And what are the ones you are curious about ?
Hopes: What you want from this dynamic (rules, service, rituals, discipline, growth, etc.) ?
Limits: Boundaries and hard limits ?
Hosting: Can you host, If yes where ? What is your living situation ?
Privacy needs: Any special privacy requirements ?
Logistics: How often you can meet in person + travel time to Hilversum ?
Final Note 💌
I’m excited to connect with someone ready for something real, grounded, slow-burn, and meaningful. If that resonates, I look forward to hearing from you.
— Dom Mommy
