Polyamory?

[Ap****]

@RogueLynx Thank you for continuing the coin analogy. But, I believe a polyhedral, or three might have been better used. It really is more a roll of the dice than a flip of a coin. A spectrum between, and beyond, any two points. Your descriptions are spot on, in my opinion, for the sides you mention. There are so many nuances in-between, that I have seen.
Due to some of the people I have known who claimed to be poly, or in open relationships, I have come to prefer "Ethical Non Monogamy". The name is a reminder and an oath, as I see it.

I have not looked enough into the history of poly and kink to say anything about why they appear so intertwined, but your statement looks like a good piece.

[Ro****]

4 hours ago, Apollo_de_Sol said:

@RogueLynx Thank you for continuing the coin analogy. But, I believe a polyhedral, or three might have been better used. It really is more a roll of the dice than a flip of a coin. A spectrum between, and beyond, any two points. Your descriptions are spot on, in my opinion, for the sides you mention. There are so many nuances in-between, that I have seen.
Due to some of the people I have known who claimed to be poly, or in open relationships, I have come to prefer "Ethical Non Monogamy". The name is a reminder and an oath, as I see it.

I have not looked enough into the history of poly and kink to say anything about why they appear so intertwined, but your statement looks like a good piece.

I agree it is a rolling of the dice with each connection.

[pr****]

I feel ya

[Ko****]

In my opinion, more people are just opening up to the idea of trying something absolutely new but still keeping a loyal bond connection that could involve 2 people at the same time.
Imagine one in the relationship gives way too much attention, and as much as you love them, they are too much for you. Now they have 2 to give all that love to.
Now imagine you don't get enough love and attention, but you love your person. Now there are 2 giving you the attention you need.
Without the stress of one leaving you when you have that bond and promise of your own conviction and both like-minded to be able to hold a poly.
It's not for everyone but for those that can get it.

[cl****]

April 9, mssgme8082693439 said:

I feel like as a society we're tired of trying to fix a problem that to a lot of us seems a bit unfixable. I was married 22 years and I can say that it wasn't great for 15 of them. As humans we are complicated beings with ever changing views and ideas. And as time elapses I can say I at least am a completely different person every 5 years. I am kind and loving but my life views change my perception of what I see and feel about nouns, ( people, places, things, events), through my experiences and knowledge intake. Amongst other variables. Look at it this way as a new born you are completely at risk to everything and would die without being cared for, at 5 years old your in kindergarten making friends, potty trained, can feed yourself, ect. At 10 you are in 5th grade you have learned to care about things like favorite sport or team, type of music or favorite bands, maybe noticing the opposite sex for more than just cudies lol. At 15 your in high school and dating, playing sports, focusing on your future with good grades or collage sports, or leaving the nest to travel. At 20 you've left home and are I'm college, or forming your own family or traveling across Europe, at 25 you are deciding or have decided which career to embark upon or to be a stay at home parent, point is I'm 46 and I've been a new me every five years and so was my ex wife. It is very hard for 2 people to grow into the new person they are always becoming in the same direction. I don't know if that makes sense to everyone but that is why I believe relationships don't last forever. We were never meant to in the 1st place. We are just too fluid.

Wow, this sums up my experience as well. I am learning that this dynamic is part of how I thrive in life. Friends and lovers, in multiplicity, with strong connection AND healthy boundaries is necessary for me as a person. I’m firmly cis hetero, as well as a committed ally who is always learning. Sometimes through expansion, sometimes through contraction. This year, it is the year of the snake.🐍 It’s shedding season. I have been shedding possessions, and expectations, and shame, and ***. It has felt tight and messy at times. There has been suffering. My desire is to somehow, finally, eventually, turn this suffering into gold.

It takes courage
To enjoy it
The hardcore,
And the gentle,
Of big
Time
Sensuality
💖🫦

[th****]

For me I like the variety. If I ended up with one person and they had certain characteristics and personalities and looks and interests and opinions that are what I like and others that I don’t I’d also like to be with another person that is the other stuff I want that my first partner isn’t or hasn’t.

That and also I need certain dynamics like one person who can be my sub and another that can play a more dominant role rather than a switch playing both parts I can’t handle that. I just can’t get into it.
For instance I had a partner that I felt was more dominant and I couldn’t just couldn’t be dominant with him no matter how much we both wanted it. It just didn’t feel right so I’d need another partner who feels more subby to me.
Or diff partners to play diff roles.

Another reason for me is that if I meet someone I like and then also another that I really like and they’re both into me and I’m into both I think it’s not fair to have to choose if they’re both really great

[th****]

July 9, 2025, Ken-Loves-Music said:

Monogamy is a jail you enter, usually with marriage. You don't realize it's a jail until you miss several great connections, though. Your partner thinks monogamy is the only option, but you now know it's just a jail, keeping you from fully experiencing life! Then you get a divorce and slowly experience our world, the way it was met to be experienced, with a polyarmorous orientation!

I quite agree. It does seem lame to just tie yourself down to one person who is usually possessive jealous and controlling and it’s very stifling

[42****]

I believe it to be a kink in itself. At least it started that way for me. I have had both and the most honest closest relationships I’ve had came with varying degrees of it the best ones having the most. At this point it’s becoming a preference and I do believe also the world to be changing so maybe a mixture of the kink community being normalized in society

[BlueGrace]

I am poly and I have 4 Doms. I’ve always had the feeling of being able to love more people instead of being monogamous. When I became an adult I set out to explore that feeling. I am closed poly. I love each partner differently. But I do feel complete with them which is why I am not open to dating more. Polyamory isn’t new and it’s been around for centuries around the world.

[th****]

I believe that a healthy relationship has to admit to each other that it's just human nature to see others attractive and the need to lust is only human as well. Good ppl shouldn't hold their ppl to the normal standards of relationships. Poly is becoming more popular for a reason