Tips for Swingers

[Fl****]

How do you make your partner feel secure after hooking up with someone as a couple?

[Deleted Member]

Aftercare. Being emotional and honest with each other

[ge****]

It depends what you mean by "secure" and also at what stage in the process of meeting someone, and what that meeting involved - but ultimately it comes down to reassurance and aftercare of varying kinds: that they're still your primary concern, that it's ok to have enjoyed the experience you've shared etc etc - and make the reassurance about them and not the other person as such i.e. don't keep on about how wonderful the other person was

[Deleted Member]

I recommend at least a weekly check-in. You just need to make sure your dynamic is working for you. You need to communicate how you feel honestly and be open to discussing it. Make time for each other, too. Talk about it, in an organized manner, I can share a link to a nice guide.

[Deleted Member]

If you're monogamous, good for you, your opinions don't matter here if they're full of judgment.

[Deleted Member]

Most importantly, learn what security means to your partner and talk to them about it.

[Deleted Member]

Hope this helps you:
multiamory*radar

Edited April 15 by Deleted Member
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[ey****]

It's firstly really important to make sure your relationship is solid before you consider opening it up to any degree (which includes swinging)

After the first time, check in.  Talk about what you liked, didn't like - this only needs to be as a couple unless the other person/people will be regular swing/other partners

Make sure you do things as a couple that do not involve other people. 

[La****]

The time for making them or rather showing them yall are secure is before you do anything, not after. Open communication, talking about the what if's, and making sure they are truly comfortable with the idea of this.

[Pa****]

That's not an easy answer. The short answer is no matter how much you do, before or after any event, you can't MAKE your partner secure about anything. They need to have enough confidence in your relationship and more importantly themselves that the idea of you leaving them for another doesn't cross their mind.

[na****]

Open communication for sure!

[az****]

Aftercare is aftercare; everyone needs different things. At a high level, it’s communication, reclaiming each other, and reassuring each other that your relationship is the priority.

[StormyBlueEyes]

21 hours ago, morningstardom said:

Simple I don’t . I never share what’s mine and I don’t expect my sub to share me . Trust is earned not given .

Do you think kink shaming someone asking a question is a helpful thing to do.. on a kink social group?
Being monogamous might be thee flavour that’s great for you, but I would wonder at the urge to yuck somebody else’s yum, eh?

[StormyBlueEyes]

The latest version of the book “the ethical slut” has communication prompts, methods that have worked for others and ways to work through things together as well as individually