Disability in the lifestyle

[Ma****]

I am not a disabled person but have met and interacted with many that are. Disabilities can be many things including things others don't think are. For me the only "disability" that I have is i suffer from severe military related PTSD. It is considered a disability but I do not allow it to affect my life and keep control of it (minus the lack of sleeping).

Disabilities can be mental or physical. Some can be hidden others cannot.

Along with disabilities are infirmaties which are especially leveledas one gets older. Some may be the inability to kneel or to maintain a position for a long period of time. Some may be short term things like a broken bone. Some may be long term like knee or back issues. Some may be the inability to receive *** a you did when younger.

Have you ever dealt with either in yourself or others?

How did you handle it?

What did you do to navigate around it?

Are there certain ones that put you off a person?

[No****]

I’m disabled, have physical disabilities that are considered hidden disabilities. I’ve found the kink community to be more accepting of disability. My Dom works around my conditions. As I live in chronic *** I’m not good with impact play.

[Go****]

I have C-ptsd, arthritis and chronic p@in. I do my best not to let them stop me from doing things I want to, but I also know that I need to be responsible and aware of my limits.

My p@in levels vary daily, and my mobility can be affected somewhat, at times. I’m usually unable to, for example, kneel for extended periods of time.

These are all things that I did and still regularly discuss with my Dominant. He checks in with me to see how I’m doing and where I’m at in terms of *** levels, and whether it is too much for me to be able to handle impact, or anything else that would potentially cause additional p@in.

Mentally, I make sure to share things that have, do or may trigger something, and discuss different signs and coping mechanisms in order for a partner to better respond.

[Sw****]

I have PTSD & Clinical depression. I also have body dysmorphia. I'm currently in therapy for it. I refuse to let my mental health issues stop me from living my life. Along with feeling confident & feeling comfortable within my sensuality.

[De****]

I think when it comes to my disabilities which are hidden, I’m always honest about them, how they may or may not effect play, simply by saying today is a bad day they will know what my limitations are, also making them aware of when I have a good day so they know that maybe they can be a bit rougher, or that day I can handle anal for example.
If my play partner can’t adjust their play to fit my needs then it’s them missing out, not me because I need to put my needs first. I also would not accept someone using the ‘I just thought I’d make sure’ bullshit. At the end of the day if you say you can’t do something whether it’s a medical condition or not if someone goes against that it’s no longer kink play, it’s an ***.
Speaking from personal experience 🤦‍♀️

[De****]

Apologies for the rant 🙄

[Ma****]

1 hour ago, Notti_my_Fault said:

I’m disabled, have physical disabilities that are considered hidden disabilities. I’ve found the kink community to be more accepting of disability. My Dom works around my conditions. As I live in chronic *** I’m not good with impact play.

Communication is important. The community is typically more accepting though the younger crowd often doesn't think of things like this. I am sorry it is this way for you.

[Ma****]

42 minutes ago, GoodGirlBetterBrat said:

I have C-ptsd, arthritis and chronic p@in. I do my best not to let them stop me from doing things I want to, but I also know that I need to be responsible and aware of my limits.

My p@in levels vary daily, and my mobility can be affected somewhat, at times. I’m usually unable to, for example, kneel for extended periods of time.

These are all things that I did and still regularly discuss with my Dominant. He checks in with me to see how I’m doing and where I’m at in terms of *** levels, and whether it is too much for me to be able to handle impact, or anything else that would potentially cause additional p@in.

Mentally, I make sure to share things that have, do or may trigger something, and discuss different signs and coping mechanisms in order for a partner to better respond.

I understand several of yours either by dealing with it myself in one way or another or dealing with it with others. Communication is key especially in this lifestyle. Glad to hear you have that.

[Deleted Member]

I'm disabled. I broke my neck in an automobile accident years ago. As a result I can't stand for long or walk without assistance. And due to that and a combination of other factors, I have mild ptsd, depression, social anxiety, etc, which often feed off one another until I just want to curl up under the bed.

[Ma****]

5 hours ago, Switchymoon said:

I have PTSD & Clinical depression. I also have body dysmorphia. I'm currently in therapy for it. I refuse to let my mental health issues stop me from living my life. Along with feeling confident & feeling comfortable within my sensuality.

As you should. Congratulations on working on it.

[Ma****]

5 hours ago, DemonNess said:

Apologies for the rant 🙄

No problem

[Ma****]

5 hours ago, DemonNess said:

I think when it comes to my disabilities which are hidden, I’m always honest about them, how they may or may not effect play, simply by saying today is a bad day they will know what my limitations are, also making them aware of when I have a good day so they know that maybe they can be a bit rougher, or that day I can handle anal for example.
If my play partner can’t adjust their play to fit my needs then it’s them missing out, not me because I need to put my needs first. I also would not accept someone using the ‘I just thought I’d make sure’ bullshit. At the end of the day if you say you can’t do something whether it’s a medical condition or not if someone goes against that it’s no longer kink play, it’s an ***.
Speaking from personal experience 🤦‍♀️

Honesty is the way we should be especially in this lifestyle but in all things. I agree if the partner can't adjust they are missing out but also they are being detrimental to the dynamic. Just my thoughts though. You are correct it is no longer kink play at that point. Personal experiences are the best educators i believe.

[Ma****]

44 minutes ago, WoofieInPC said:

I'm disabled. I broke my neck in an automobile accident years ago. As a result I can't stand for long or walk without assistance. And due to that and a combination of other factors, I have mild ptsd, depression, social anxiety, etc, which often feed off one another until I just want to curl up under the bed.

I am sorry to hear. How do you work around that when it comes to the lifestyle?

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, MasterTalathian47342 said:

I am sorry to hear. How do you work around that when it comes to the lifestyle?

It was not too much of an issue until I had a botched surgery just about 8 years ago. I managed with a cane, always informed potential playmate etc. Then I got married, drifted away, all prior to the surgery. Now I am only just trying to get involved again after several years away. Short answer is, I will let you know when I figure it out. 😁 Wish me luck, friend!

[Ma****]

10 hours ago, WoofieInPC said:

It was not too much of an issue until I had a botched surgery just about 8 years ago. I managed with a cane, always informed potential playmate etc. Then I got married, drifted away, all prior to the surgery. Now I am only just trying to get involved again after several years away. Short answer is, I will let you know when I figure it out. 😁 Wish me luck, friend!

I understand. I look forward to your answer. Good luck. Sorry to hear about the bad surgery.

[Po****]

I’m disabled—Aspergers, C-PTSD, and Epilepsy had brain surgery for the latter with hope of a resection (Simpsons moment)

I’ve found the kink community to be accepting of these more than the regular dating community who look at me with an off-putting bias.

[Ge****]

I have ADHD, undiagnosed autism and varying levels of joint p@in. Despite my response times and spotty attention online, I have been accepted by the kink community in the past, and I hope the future. 🤞🏼 my past partners have had a big convo about every kind of limit and understood that they needed to be mindful of those esp when in play. Occasionally I get overstimulated (not the good kind) and need to take a break from everything for a minute.

For the record tho I don't think it should be a one way street, I think both parties need to be honest, communicating, and willing to adjust to *each other* when possible/needed without injuring yourself.

[Shadowpetecho29]

I have epidermyolsis bullosa skin disorder. Im new to the scence not much experiance so far no issues.

[ho****]

Sadly not a lot of people are willing to give the disabled a chance

[Ma****]

Yesterday at 01:47 AM, PoutyPet said:

I’m disabled—Aspergers, C-PTSD, and Epilepsy had brain surgery for the latter with hope of a resection (Simpsons moment)

I’ve found the kink community to be accepting of these more than the regular dating community who look at me with an off-putting bias.

I am sorry for what you are going through but it is good to hear how welcoming this community can be.

[Ma****]

5 hours ago, hornydad707 said:

Sadly not a lot of people are willing to give the disabled a chance

That can be true but as many here are staying to this community is more accepting than vanilla

[Ma****]

20 hours ago, Gewelzz said:

I have ADHD, undiagnosed autism and varying levels of joint p@in. Despite my response times and spotty attention online, I have been accepted by the kink community in the past, and I hope the future. 🤞🏼 my past partners have had a big convo about every kind of limit and understood that they needed to be mindful of those esp when in play. Occasionally I get overstimulated (not the good kind) and need to take a break from everything for a minute.

For the record tho I don't think it should be a one way street, I think both parties need to be honest, communicating, and willing to adjust to *each other* when possible/needed without injuring yourself.

Exactly the tops of did I look forward to hearing on questions like this. You are correct or does need to be a two way street

[Ma****]

14 hours ago, Shadowpetecho29 said:

I have epidermyolsis bullosa skin disorder. Im new to the scence not much experiance so far no issues.

Well welcome and it's good to hear no issues thus far.

[Sl****]

I and one of my past partners were physically disabled. We could not sustain certain positions for long periods of time, so communication and *** checks, water breaks, and stretching/*** management were very important for us.

It was sometimes difficult to deal with, but honestly the fact that we were both disabled helped a lot since we didn't have to worry about the other judging or not understanding that some things just weren't possible.


My current partner is not disabled but is very understanding. And it has led to us exploring entirely new kinks that involve less physical demands.

[un****]

I have many physical limitations due to mobility and now that I have an ongoing medical issue that requires medical equipment I worry that my partners may see me as incapable. I have had some say "I could have waited until you were healed" as if this very permanent situation is going away.

My current partner is very understanding & doesn't judge me in what I need to do to give and receive pleasure as well as remain comfortable etc. I have found that communication is 1000% necessary. There is no reason that a physical or mental issue should completely limit you from enjoying life. In all aspects, not just in the bedroom.