Question of the Day

[Jade-1622]

Can a hypersexual person have a good sex life with someone who’s not hypersexual?

[To****]

Interesting hmmm

[Ka****]

Yes. I believe you can as long as there is a good communication about needs.

[Jane8869]

I am dealing with that right now with my husband I want sex everyday he doesn't care and go weeks and makes me wanna go elsewhere

[To****]

Why do yoj think he doesn’t want to have sex

[To****]

Tired Too old ? Bored ? Wanna fish in a different pond. Idk 🤷🏽

[Deleted Member]

Depends on what they compromise. The issue is how non sexual is the partner is and how they allow each other to cope with the situation. If the non hyper give out more they may feel used, like a piece of meat. If the hyper is denied more they may wander. There needs to be good balance and communication on needs. Toys would be a great avenue to help both parties.

[Pr****]

Yes, it's possible, but it takes good communication and mutual understanding. Both partners need to talk openly about their needs, boundaries, and expectations. Finding compromises that work for both can help build a satisfying and respectful sex life, even with different levels of desire.

One idea that can work in such a relationship is using a “free use” dynamic – but with clear consent. For example, one partner could wear specific clothing or an accessory that signals they’re open to being approached for sex at that time. That way, consent is still clear, and the hypersexual partner doesn’t have to constantly guess or feel rejected. It can be a fun and empowering way to meet each other halfway – as long as both partners agree and feel safe with it.

[Mi****]

Kind of where I’m at now and one of the reasons why we opened out relationship

[To****]

Well said

[xx****]

I'd also say no. If your needs won't get fulfilled you'll reach a certain point where it doesn't match anymore, if these needs are too important. The frustration could kill the dynamic and result in a break up

[Jane8869]

He says sex isn't important and I make him feel like a piece of meat.. now I bring home the bacon I work and pay the bills he stays home coz he doesn't wanna work .. but expects me to pay everything and blah blah.. I think I deserve to get tucked when I wanna get tucked and not keep getting denied 

[ja****]

It's never worked for me I've been single 4 years now that ain't no fun either but I refuse to get back in a relationship like that

[No****]

There’s a compromise. There’s many ways to be genuinely happy together and both get what they want for sure mami.

[VinceF1958]

Could have an open relationship

[ed****]

I don't think so. As a person who isn't hypersexual but tends to attract such people, I'd say no. It never goes well lol.

[Laycette]

I have a friend whose wife is hypersexual and they are happily married. They have an understanding and manage just fine.

[To****]

Womp

[me****]

Honestly communicating is the biggest key here. Letting each other know what's happening and still being attracted to one another is the biggest key and not being together out of obligation will keep the resent away from the relationship. These people here sound selfish and I'm not invalidating anyone because maybe they have been through some things that made them that way. But opening up and making sure you still smile when you think of your partner goes a long way

[Ju****]

Most hypersexuals I know are poly. Other than that IDK

[ka****]

8 hours ago, MissThiccChick said:

Kind of where I’m at now and one of the reasons why we opened out relationship

Same here!

[BW****]

I’m guessing no lol

[po****]

This is where discipline and self control can become exquisite bed fellows. As a hypersexual being one can make their orgasms into a more intense and eventful experience if they practiced a bit of self control

[Eg****]

I’m in a similar situation. My partner can’t get hard due to a combination of issues, and this problem has been getting progressively worse over the years. It’s common to go three months between sex. His lower libido has absolutely affected our D/s lifestyle. We hardly play to the extent I want and it hurts.

I lost about a decade of fun times due to an eating disorder. No period meant no libido, and I went 11 long, miserable years without sex. I’m doing much better now, and I have a sex drive much higher than when I was in my early 20s. There’s a part of me that wants to make up for lost time, but the other part of me is also very devoted to my partner.

We communicate constantly. I masturbate often. We’re always intimate in some way. But the depression and anxiety that stems from the lack of a physical connection is very real for both of us. I wish I could provide advice, but I’m kinda looking for wisdom also. It’s an unfortunate situation.

[my****]

It has not been my experience.