Freeuse, do's and don'ts

[Da****]

I thought I'd open a thread discussing some good and bad freeuse practices? Does anyone have any experience(s) they would like to share of it going well or something that didn't? How did it go badly and how/did you recover in that relationship?

[Ae****]

Well first off it doesn't just work one way, as a default.

[Fe****]

Waking each other up to oral or penetrative sex with prior consent is fucking hot and amazing, especially after a night of partying that causes complete disorientation and lack of awareness on waking 🥵🥵

My last gf did this to me intentionally it took me quite some time to figure out what was going on. I'm not sure if that part was hotter or the realization that she had intentionally given me that experience. Needless to say, I returned the favor a few times and she was all smiles for a good part of the day both times

[Be****]

I’ve only done free use as the one being used for me I know I need a partner a that knows my limits and I trust will not break them. I have a specific collar to signify that this is a time I am open for free use that way I never truly know when it will start which I find exhilarating.

[Ge****]

Waking up to find a d!ck inside of you is 👌🏼 I can't wait to feel safe enough with someone again that free use is not only an option but is a huge turn on 😂 I've always thought it was a simple solution to the morning wood situation 😂

[Deleted Member]

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[fe****]

I love the free use. Miss it. To be standing in the kitchen, minding my business to being bent over the table. Having the panties pulled and a big cock shoved in! Yes please.

[Cr****]

Well my practice is to discuss what CNC, free use, sexual objectification is with the sub.  It's obviously fantastic if it's a situation where as a Master/Dom, you know the sub/slave well enough to push limits without verbalisation. That has worked for me most of the time, but unfortunately, there is always a chance the slave/sub has suppressed trauma, which can be triggered with such activity.  Worse is when they haven't processed past *** trauma.  It happened to me with a sub, who I was training for weeks, and pre-interviewed,  We'd agreed about going without protection when I deemed it was time.  I didn't know she was violated in a class demo of tantric, where the instructor entered her without a condom without permission or warning.  She didn't react at all, and it sat with her.  Having been blindfolded with me, and me whispering that my condom was coming off, triggered her.  I couldn't see her eyes but felt her body freeze.    It took a week of talking before I touched her again.  
So yes, CNC/Free Use is very fun, but since a fair % of people have some sexual *** history, it's vital to be open with information!

[Lilyishere]

Morning woodie inside you is an amazing feeling and submitting to it.

I look forward to find a ltr with a genuine man who enjoys s*x as much as I do. 

[Deleted Member]

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[my****]

Do not use free use as excuse to stop a discussion/argument/fight. With great power comes great responsibility.

[ey****]

there's been a couple of posts on free use recently, and there's been a couple where I've been a bit... "well, technically - that's not 'free use'" - and like pretty much every do and don't is in there...  what do you mean by free use? what do they mean by free use? what do you both expect here? Make sure you are both on the same page.

 

Equally, of course, if you do go via a basis of one person always has to agree... do you really want to proceed if you genuinely believe they're not up for it?

[Jennie-4912]

On 6/4/2025 at 12:14 AM, FedgeNoAgain said:

Waking each other up to oral or penetrative sex with prior consent is fucking hot and amazing, especially after a night of partying that causes complete disorientation and lack of awareness on waking 🥵🥵

My last gf did this to me intentionally it took me quite some time to figure out what was going on. I'm not sure if that part was hotter or the realization that she had intentionally given me that experience. Needless to say, I returned the favor a few times and she was all smiles for a good part of the day both times

You're looking Georges ❤️

[ea****]

Yes mutual sex is good and makes it easier sometimes to just let it out and be in touch with each

[wa****]

Setting boundaries for one