Does it make me a slut/ whore

[th****]

Is one considered a whore bc they enjoy sexual activities and want to experience them with new partners? I've been called a whore before, bc of activities I've done and they were less extreme than the experience I want to try now. How can I get the thought of me being a whore out of my mind while engaging with a partner so I can actually enjoy the experience without looking down upon myself?

[Deleted Member]

You’re the fun neighbour every “good father” wants around

[Sw****]

Your right around the corner!

[ea****]

Depends on what definition you go by.

[Am****]

I think you need to embrace what people call you. I totally understand most woman but like being called a whore. But some men love a good whore. I love if the girl I have is into getting it on with other men as long as we’re on the same page. I understand some woman have been called a whore when other are saying it in a negative way.

[Ki****]

I don’t see anything wrong with that as long as your careful and such.

[Deleted Member]

I'd say a whore does get paid for sex. So if you don't, you can't be one..? :)

[Ro****]

Enjoying sex with different partners will never make you a whore if you do It with consent, respect and don't hurt anyone involved.

[Bu****]

Not at all I just thinks it makes u human .

[ma****]

Your not a whore

[Sw****]

If i try to push a thought away in my mind it often becomes louder. now i try to engage that self judgemental part in conversation with me.

[Pa****]

By not judging yourself through a vanilla lens

[Wi****]

No, it makes you a good girl 😈

[se****]

Terms like "whore" have always been used to control the behavior of women by assigning social stigma to a woman's free will. The truth is whore is just a word. It has no power if you accept that. And if someone called you it, they're giving you a societal expectation you've already rejected, and it'll fall off of you like dead leaves from tree. But then that tree grows to what it's supposed to be, and is always more beautiful that way. If you decide to believe you're not a whore, but just a woman with desires, you will never feel degraded by it again. I hope you feel comfortable soon.

[co****]

To hell with what people think or say enjoy your life, you you choose to let 50 guys run a train on you it's nobody's business

[JustASadist82]

People calling you that are likely very vanilla people who are just (unintentionally) kink shaming you because, from their perspective, they don’t understand the lifestyle you’ve chosen.
You’ll always get people like that, with different opinions or perspectives, and that’s fine but sadly not everyone has the decency to repect everyone can make their own choices.
That might not help you deal with those thoughts in your head, but maybe gives you some insight into how others think and their reasoning for saying these hurtful things.
At the end of the day, it’s your life, your choice, so do what you want. You’re not hurting anybody, try to ignore those who are narrow minded to it.

[Mike-9069]

I just took part in a 17 person gamgbang people said the girl was a whore but who cares she said it was the most satisfying sexual experience of her life and would be doing it quite often from now on she said between taking 6 inch penis all the way to 13 inch cocks it was her dream come true she’s scheduling one for next Friday she invited 25 of us it’s super hot and liberating go girl

[Al****]

If you truly enjoy doing somthing,does it really matter what its labeled as? instead of looking at the term "whore" as a bad thing ..try looking at it as experiences where you've learned and grown from...consider it time well spent,because I doubt you regret the experiences(atleast not all if them? ;D lol) having cravings,and being able to fulfill them is powerful I think ;3 Any person who gets the chance to see what you can do is a lucky person indeed.

[pr****]

First, where does the word ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ come from? It is from a patriarchal mindset. It was not necessarily about the action, but they succeeded in making the labeling stick. They successfully made women believe that when they enjoy sex or want it a little more than men would, they are sluts and dirty and should be cast away.

Being sexually free and exploratory is like being hungry and having a meal. You should not be shamed for your appetite or the plate in front of you.

The world has shamed sexually free individuals for so long. You shouldnt shame you too.

Loving sex is not a crime.

[Deleted Member]

Consider the source of the insult being called a slut by a person who wouldn't know a good time if it fell on them or too scared to act how they secretly want brainwashed by religion. Don't let others opinions stop you from being true to yourself. Don't think of yourself that way because society or who or whatever has programmed you to believe it to be a bad thing. Fuck that. Reboot your hard drive

[Re****]

Sammy is correct. I've noticed it as well. Women who will denigrate other women, or men, for having casual sex, generally aren't fun in bed. Enjoying sex is natural. Enjoying human variety is natural, too. I don't feel "dirty", and when I've been cornered into dirty talk that is degrading, it's really difficult to keep going. Conversely, if I can talk with my partner, about anything, and feel supported, it's so relaxing. Getting naked and talking is great, too.

[Deleted Member]

Are the rock stars, actors, or millionaires and billionaires who bang all different sorts of people regularly whores? Sluts? If not, why not? If so, is it a bad thing?

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I've recently become enamored of an alternate spelling of the word: heaux. Something that that presentation makes me think of the phrase, "Put some respect on my name."

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There is the concept of the "sacred whore" who helps to channel a deity to help provide healing and / or peace of mind to worshippers. 

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You want what you want, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's how you go about getting it that's important. As long as there's consent all around, maybe consider how you thought about your play and yourself before the name calling started. How did it make you feel, before you started letting other people's opinions cast a shadow over it?

 

[Re****]

Just realizing that there is nothing wrong with it at all. 8 think anyone who doesn't want it to some extent is being dishonest.

[Ho****]

Societal and religious conditioning are so powerful that you’re apprehensive about simply pursuing what feels natural for you because you’re blocked by a single word.

Since you threw it to the community for reassurance, I’ll start there. Of course you’re not a whore for pursuing your joy. And if you’ve been called a whore, it was probably by people who were frightened of the urges they repress, and jealous that you aren’t constrained by the conventional idea of what is / isn’t ok.

I thought the second half of your question was the more important one. How can you get the thought of being a whore out of your mind? That indicates that you’ve accepted the disparaging definition of whore as simply being someone sexually promiscuous.

One idea might be to take away the word’s power.

You aren’t a s3x worker (nothing wrong with that, btw) and you don’t compromise your principles for access to what you seek, so on the two textbook biblical definitions, you’re not a whore. The devil is in the third definition as someone promiscuous. You may not know that definition dates back only to the puritanical era.

Before that, the word promiscuous meant simply a collection of things taken at random. Does that change things?

I’ve read your profile. You’re vetting what you want. You have a specific idea. Doesn’t seem random - or promiscuous - to me.

When we’re asking how to take away a word’s or an idea’s power to make us feel something negative, that requires some internal work. When / why did I start seeing the word whore as negative? Did someone hurt me or make me feel less than by calling me a whore? Maybe if you can unlock those answers inside of you, you can free yourself from the hold of that word.

And since you closed by talking about looking down upon yourself, there’s a whole cross-section of people in this community who can probably help you flip the script and turn the degrading aspects into an erotic thing. But that wasn’t the question, so…

I thought the basic, “you’re not a whore” was too easy a path for a question that’s really about self image. Which led me down the rabbit hole.

So… sorry for the length. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. 😂

Good luck.

[EN****]

It's called being liberated