Does it make me a slut/ whore

[Ja****]

Let that go and enjoy yourself. Doesn't matter what people say anyways. Do you

[Ki****]

I do not know any woman or girl who has not been called that. Nevermind if they were asexual or a nun or married 50 years and only ever had sex when they wanted to get pregnant. It is all about changing your mindset (and hopefully one day the whole society) - why do you want to subscribe to the idea that woman having desire is somehow "bad"? You have desire, and you are a good person! In the mean time, waiting for society to stop being so sexist and puritan you can take those words and turn then into badge of honor. You can not stop others from shaming but you CAN work through your own internalized shame. Rude people will keep tthinking you are x or y - so what? Be happy.

[co****]

The outdated term 'whore' is used to villify and shun those who pursue self exploration, passions and interests in the sexual arena. To ostracise you for being curious and explorative about your sexual and intimate wants, needs and desires. To degrade you to being somehow of less value as a person.

Those that use the term, will typically fall into a few categories:
1) They've been taught that exploration of sexual pursuits is inherently wrong for women (probably a religious value throwback--an ageless and unfortunately normalised gender double standard)
2) They're ***ed that they can't do the same
3) The group that conveniently ignores that it can be recreational, and rather believes that every sexual experience is emotional and therefore makes you a threat to other people's relationship
4) Those that see a normative role where your 'purity' (...f#ckin'...what?😂) is paramount to having a typical nuclear family model, and that promiscuity makes you unable to love someone/your people exclusively
5) Those who'd rather shame anyone that doesn't fit their version of 'Normal' and rather than explore their own pursuits, demand others conform to their world view--to be categorised and stuffed into a box with a label to accommodate their own sexual ignorance

It sounds as though you're on a journey--a pilgrimage if you will, of your own tastes, desires and experiences-- So long as it's between knowing, wilfull, consenting adults--it's not hurting anybody (exception being sexual sadomasochistic inclinations) and it's not destroying relationships, you're discovering more about yourself, and you need no one's permission or approval to discover who you are and what you like in this world!

[Ma****]

Read a book called the ethical slut.

[Na****]

People always put down the things they don’t understand, stand proud knowing that it’s your body and mind and you can do with it as you choose, too many narrow minded people, enjoy every moment and don’t care for others ideals

[ar****]

A whore in the usual meaning is a woman which has sex for *** without the option of a deeper connection. If u are a free minded spirit that enjoys pleasures with ppl u are harmonising with, there is no reason to feel bad for it, no matter what other ppl say or think

[mc****]

Whores get paid
Your just exploring

[Ta****]

Seriously? By 40 you should be comfortable with your sexuality, so I’m assuming this post is about being a slut, not a whore, although there people do use the terms incorrectly. You like sex, you enjoy sex with new and exciting partners, you list yourself as a sub, rope bunny, degradee… I’d say you have a pretty good handle on being comfortable being a useful slut. Actual whores are in it for financial gain or material possessions… is that you? Idk. Not uncommonly, subs enjoy being useful as a service slut that service their dominant partners. Is that you? Idk.

How do you get the thought of you being a whore out of your mind? Unless you’re performing sexual favors for gain other than pleasure, you are not a whore, so I would suggest that the thought may be there to foster your kink, being a slut for partner(s).

If you’re having issues with self image (looking down on yourself), then your Dom will s really not doing his job of nurturing your sexual journey and providing reassuring aftercare and the trust that you need to be able to take his *** during a session and recover to normal, or healthy, functional levels afterwards. This is not uncommon with wannabe Doms, internet educated Doms, or essentially untrained Doms. Yet another reason why I am online and still advocate traditional (OG) apprenticeships for training of all roles in the kink (BDSM) world or lifestyle. A Dom is not a personality trait, it is a role within the kink community. A sub/slave is a different role. Neither can exist without the other. The “gift of submission” is what creates the dynamic which majors one person a Dom and places the “giver” on the opposite side of the D/s dynamic. After 20+ years in the lifestyle, training and education both inside and outside the realm of BDSM, I will tell you that your questions are very common and usually dealt with and resolved with a good Dom in the first few months of dynamic or relationship through good aftercare, trust and reassurance.

[Lu****]

I love to embrace terms like that! Try to change your mindset to reclaim them imo😊 of course it's not going to happen right away, it also depends on the scenario. For instance if someone was to call me that in a way to "hurt" me, I turn around and say "yes I am a whore/slut, what of it? If liking sex and being proud of that makes me a slut then I'll happily take that title". As someone that grew up being bullied for their weight you learn all bullies are the same. They just want a certain type of reaction and if you don't give them what they want they kinda short circuit. Now if we're talking about being called those words in play that's entirely up to you and should be discussed with your partner, I like when my Master calls me a slut/whore because a) I know he doesn't mean it in a negative connotation and b) I know he likes it that I'm so open about being sexual and knowing it turns him on turns me on too~
I hope you can find some peace of mind and know that you aren't a bad person for liking sex🖤 blast some music, dress in your sluttiest fit and just feel yourself in the moment, look at yourself in your mirror and own that 💩!

[ma****]

There are no whores. Even the professionals, bless them for what they do, have earned no judgment of character.

[Li****]

It doesn't to answer the basic and initial question. People just like to put out there that women are, for doing the same thing every man is. He isn't a whole but enjoys sex, a woman enjoying sex? Whore/slut shamed immediately.

My definition of the word would be entirely different- someone who knowingly sleeps/tries to sleep with a married/taken person or tries to sleep with another when already taken/married without their knowledge/consent.

I don't think it should matter at all about body counts. That's crazy, biased and judgemental. Realistically, we like people without knowing this about them and does it really matter if they choose you? If you enjoy them?

I'd say embrace the fact you are sex positive and that they care so much about you/your life to give such strong opinions. You should not feel bad for enjoying sex. It's natural, part of life and pretty primal. You enjoy what you enjoy and keep doing you. You won't be the last, there's plenty of us here!😉💁🏼‍♀️

[pi****]

No it doesn't

[re****]

Definitely not. Remember you're the neighborhood MILF. That brings jealousy from those who just don't have that confidence.

[Deleted Member]

Here is how I see it now. I struggled with it when I was younger but i realized as I got older that people die all the time unhappy. You could never sleep with anyone and it won’t change the fact you will only live so long. So my opinion is do what makes you happy. Never heard anybody, be honest to yourself and others. Enjoy life to the fullest.

[Le****]

About 20 years ago I've heard a quote that I'll never forget:

"Whores are only the women that don't wanna fu€k me"

[Pa****]

There will always be haters no matter what you do. What pleases you will Please some others as well. Women like you are needed for us men

[gorgodd]

i guess we are all whores? lol you be you

[La****]

The concept of shaming someone for their sexual tastes or promiscuity is all messed up. It may help you dispel your own shame for your sexual preferences by internalizing that nobody deserves to be shamed for that. You're not any more or less of a "whore" than anyone else, and it's alright to give yourself the same grace that you would give others.

[Se****]

You're only just you, not the idea of how other people see you. And, if you decide to own it, be a whore. Fully embrace it, then no one can hold it against you. What do you want more, to fulfill your desires, or live in the fantasy that people aren't caddy and judgmental?

[Deleted Member]

Yeah, it does. Why ya even ask when ya already know

[Kr****]

Embrace the whore within your soul and own it with all your heart ❤️

[pl****]

My opinion a whore is someone that chooses sale there body for making living mostly for *** or fast cash they don't enjoy it they just use it to get what they want... We only get one life goes by so fastly do what makes you happy 😊 be safe be careful who you put your trust in and enjoy yourself and your life.

[BigJohn-4222]

Life is short, enjoy it to your fullest and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. I wouldn't over think it, embrace your wild side

[Deamonswitch]

From what I've heard, there's been a movement to reclaim the word slut. And frankly if you are a slut, that's fine! I sure as hell know I am many times and so is my partner. And that's ok! There's no shame in being who you are, and being attracted to the various people's and activities you want to do. As long as its not putting you or anyone else in danger, then just be you and embrace it! So many others do and have learned to live healthily and happily with it! Explore what makes you happy and helps fulfilled and embrace it with open arms! :)

[in****]

It’s very sexy when a woman owns her sluttyness and being a slut isn’t a bad or derogatory term often I use that in an endearing way