Daddy dom sadist

[kr****]

How do u blend the both …or what are best practices ?
I would like some feed back with people with long term experience. Much appreciated

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[HerrNeuGierig]

My little had different sides, the cuddly cosy supersweet "I like to puzzle to relax"-side and the "make me do it" slutty clearly maso- side.
We implemented rituals and spoke clearly about what was needed. Wearing a special collar started a session in which her maso side was treated. Aftercare ended the session.
Sometimes her little time started directly after...
I never showed a glimpse of my sadist side during her little time.
It was a good mix of both sides overall, sometimes with weeks in "little time" sometimes with weeks in "maso mode".
Maybe that gives you a hint?

[in****]

I think communication is obviously key when connecting with a partner when there will be both a sado-masochistic and DDLG element to the dynamic. To connect with a little who has masochistic needs/kinks, then things can flow quite perfectly, regarding you both find you are right for each other overall after the vetting/connection process. I think a DDLG dynamic can be the most amazing thing with sado-masochistic elements, because aftercare with those DDLG connections are heightened so so much and I think that level of care can run a bit deeper as a daddy looking after his little after a session of sadistic activity. If the little in the dynamic has no such real interest or kinks regarding masochism, but is willing to incorporate punishment or other such related sadistic treatment into the dynamic, then there must be extra care taken and lengthy chats about proceedings. After all, If it’s not about her own needs, interests or kinks, and she is effectively indulging in said activity just to please her daddy, then that takes on another extra level of responsibility of care, trust, safety and respect I think. Overall, communication is key, and I think really really connecting in those aftercare moments when the storms of the session pass can make a dynamic involving both aspects have a beautiful balance.

[Pa****]

Persona switching and careful signalling is my technique, with the limits of each defined very carefully. Also going gradual with what you do when you switch so its not too much 'shock and awe'. Reiterating the importance and use of the safeword to halt proceedings anytime

[Se****]

It would depend on what exactly you mean by each “title”.

You can get as many view points from others as you wish but if their thoughts or practices don't align with what YOU deem to be a Daddy/Dom/Sadist then they aren’t (probably) going to help.

I say this as someone who uses the term Daddy in a non traditional sense in this lifestyle x

Edited September 3 by SerendipitousKeeper
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[Be****]

So it totally depends what type of sub/little you are playing with. 

 

There is the type that loves to playfully brat and get punished by their daddy.

 

Or there's the type like me; the thought of my daddy thinking I'm naughty is horrifying, but I'm a p@in slut.

Daddy canes my tits because I've been such a good girl, he spoils me with all the pretty marks he gives me, and I thank him every time. 

 

Aftercare is really important, lots of cuddles and praises afterwards to avoid drop.

 

Just be aware, that with this kind of intense play mixed in with a ddlg dynamic, creates an attachment hard and fast. If you're not prepared for your little to become attached to you then steer clear of this type of play. 

Edited September 3 by BerryBrighton
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[Deleted Member]

Communication. Aftercare. All the acronyms (SSC, RACK, etc).

Then...before there's play make sure your interests align. Have your safe practices, escape words, clicker, do check ins during play. And again AFTERCARE. The more intense the play, the more aftercare is required after. You can still leave marks on the Little, but have the necessary medical treatments on hand after to be that Caregiver.

You can still be a degrader and a supporter.

"You look so beautiful as my cum slut"
"You're Daddy's filthy little one, and you're all mine"
"Look at the mess you made you dirty little princess"

Same with the Sadism.
Caning with admiration, marking with soft attention follow up. You can brutally take them and cuddle them like they're made of porcelain after.

[kr****]

Thank you all … I really got alot of gems …
The sadistc side of me is extreme and the daddy side of me is all about care support trust safety and the glue between them both is communication . I did do weekly assignments and based on how they did Would dictate the level of punishment with purple collar being most extreme … this gave the sub / masochist the choice on the level at the end of the week …..

[Bu****]

I have short-term experience, but I feel I could answer this on behalf of my Dom. Here's what he does in scenes and out of scenes:
1.) He always stays in tune with my body language. For example, I was ordered to spank myself every time he counted, but by the 30th spank, he observed my hesitanation, brusies, and facial emotions. He then ordered me to spank a different area instead.
2.) He uses his words and physical touch to make me feel held by him emotionally. For example, he reassures me by saying everything is okay and that it's okay to cry. He praises me by telling me how proud he his and that I'm doing a good job. He holds my hand and caresses me. When he is unsure that I'm reaching my limit, he asks if I can take more for him.
3.) Don't be a pushover. Anytime I do something without his permission or break a rule, he will give me a warning and or ask me if he allowed me to do that. If I continue making that mistake, I receive a punishment. The punishment may include more *** than the usual, I'm not allowed to cum, or that we won't continue the scene unless I apologize, etc.
4.) Acts of servitude. Set up an aftercare before the scene like water, med kit, ice, and / or blankets and stuffies. If your submissive has a hard time getting to the right space, have some tasks that yall can do together that don't involve s*x. For example, you can bathe your submissive or spoil them with their favorite food. You order them to kneel at your feet without them talking so they can meditate within that moment, bonus points if you a combination of caressing, reassurance, and praising.

[kr****]

Thanks for your insight and sharing your experience …
It’s very helpful .⛓️‍💥🥇⛓️‍💥