New Mistress in trouble

[MistressKanade]

1 hour ago, Plagueis_wise said:

The other possibility if you and your husband are open to it are putting reminders based on how often per day or week he needs your attention and if you aren’t in the mood you put that moodiness in the mistress/domme role play and complain and degrade him for his inconvenient neediness and how his needs put demands on you and playfully demand he make your efforts worthwhile in ways you enjoy or that you know he enjoys depending what you feel like. Might be a way to stop him feeling neglected or forgotten and a way for you to remember and also get some carthatic release for going out your comfort zone for him and each other.

I do get what your trying to say here. And maybe that is an option to start working towards, but this is part of my problem. That is a scenario that's out of my comfort zone. I'm not unwilling to, in fact I have had fantasies where to do things like that for him. But when I put it into practice I get self conscious and I don't dominate very well.

[Pl****]

4 hours ago, MistressKanade said:

I do get what your trying to say here. And maybe that is an option to start working towards, but this is part of my problem. That is a scenario that's out of my comfort zone. I'm not unwilling to, in fact I have had fantasies where to do things like that for him. But when I put it into practice I get self conscious and I don't dominate very well.

Ye finding the mentorship if you can to help you find that confidence and other than that practicing exploring that until you find you can become less self conscious and explore those fantasies as you imagine them or decide domination isn’t something you want or can do.

[MistressKanade]

We have considered maybe I just can't do it, but I've shown enough potential and I really want to do this for him. I just need to figure out how to put me in it