Where to find women that peg men

[Deleted Member]

I’ve honestly been on this quest for a long time now and just cannot find a woman who wants to fully take control and peg me, any advice ?

[FETMod-HG]

Try creating a kinky ad to draw in ladies in your area.

Some kinksters may have advice about finding them at events, or best ways to find them in here....

[DY****]

Pay a professional?

[ca****]

Same

[MoHawKx]

I agree. Where are these women?

[Do****]

No disrespect to you or our community, but a lot of women look at men who wants to be pegged as a sign of homosexualality or at the very least one being bisexual. I tend to stay away from men I know are into those things. I don't judge people who are, may their batteries never die, but I personally don't want to participate. I know a lot of women in my age group who say the same thing, but a lot more of younger women have no problem with it.

My advice to you would be work on how you approach a potential mate and how you ask for what you want done. Females and some men need to be comfortable before doing some acts. Do things that lead up to other things. I hate when a man doesn't tell me his name or hello, but is in my inbox asking if he can stick it in my rear. Ummmm no 🙅‍♀️ blocked 🚫!!!

[Do****]

The kinky ad is a great idea as well!

[Th****]

12 minutes ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

No disrespect to you or our community, but a lot of women look at men who wants to be pegged as a sign of homosexualality or at the very least one being bisexual. I tend to stay away from men I know are into those things. I don't judge people who are, may their batteries never die, but I personally don't want to participate. I know a lot of women in my age group who say the same thing, but a lot more of younger women have no problem with it.

Yikes on several bikes... whenever anyone feels compelled to say anything starting with "no disrespect, but" or "no offense, but.." it should be a clear indicator to keep your thoughts to yourself because you're about to do exactly that. You're showing your ignorance, homophobia at quite a loud volume here and you're absolutely being quite judgmental. 

[Th****]

Op, the more productive and effective route would be to focus on *being* someone who is appealing as a partner and someone a partner would *want to* do such things with and to. 

 

[Do****]

It's not being homophonic, it's a preference. One way of loving over another. To each their own. They asked and I gave my opinion. I have gay and lesbian friends, whom I am very close with and love, I'm not ignorant because I don't participate in said activities. Talk about someone being judgemental. Maybe we should look within before calling names.

[Th****]

11 minutes ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

It's not being homophonic, it's a preference. One way of loving over another. To each their own. They asked and I gave my opinion. I have gay and lesbian friends, whom I am very close with and love, I'm not ignorant because I don't participate in said activities. Talk about someone being judgemental. Maybe we should look within before calling names.

Just because you know queer people and claim to be their friend doesn't exclude you from potentially still having some homophobia to unpack. A woman pegging a man is in no way an indicator that he's also attracted to men. A man doing solo anal play is not an indicator of sexuality. 

I said nothing about you not wanting to participate. Your ignorance is in your opinion on men enjoying ass play as being any sort of sign of anything else other than they enjoy the physical sensation. It makes logical sense that men might enjoy ass play, they do have a prostate after all. 

[mi****]

2 hours ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

No disrespect to you or our community, but a lot of women look at men who wants to be pegged as a sign of homosexualality or at the very least one being bisexual. I tend to stay away from men I know are into those things. I don't judge people who are, may their batteries never die, but I personally don't want to participate. I know a lot of women in my age group who say the same thing, but a lot more of younger women have no problem with it.

My advice to you would be work on how you approach a potential mate and how you ask for what you want done. Females and some men need to be comfortable before doing some acts. Do things that lead up to other things. I hate when a man doesn't tell me his name or hello, but is in my inbox asking if he can stick it in my rear. Ummmm no 🙅‍♀️ blocked 🚫!!!

Talk on YOUR behalf only. Lot's of women find great joy and pleasure pegging their men. I included. And not once did I feel like they are gay or something.

Does that mean that women who enjoys anal are also gay? Damn woman. You really are basking in ignorance

[mi****]

Have you introduced it to the women you've been with? Some will decline and some might be curious. Add to your profile that you enjoy pegging, create an ad specifically for that purpose. I did my first pegging when I was 22. Before then I had no idea that I'd love it as much as I do.

[pi****]

Agreed. Following for tips (no pun intended lol) the women who like to top are becoming rare, as a pan guy, yes i could try to find a guy, but there is a dynamic difference there, ya know?

[Deleted Member]

When you say you can't find a woman to do this - at what point do you mention it? Do you think a woman might feel that it's the only thing that interests you?

[ey****]

The mistake guys tend to make, not just in pegging but in other searches.

The approach always feels like the activity (pegging) is more important than the person.    That is something of low interest to most women.  Most who are into pegging have no interest in arranging hook ups with random strangers.

Like, the beautiful thing about sites like this is you can see what people are into from their profile, so you don't need to be like "hey, you're into pegging - peg me!" you can focus on what else you have in common to see if it goes anyway. Like personality and interests,  not more kink 

[Ha****]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

The mistake guys tend to make, not just in pegging but in other searches.

The approach always feels like the activity (pegging) is more important than the person.    That is something of low interest to most women.  Most who are into pegging have no interest in arranging hook ups with random strangers.

Like, the beautiful thing about sites like this is you can see what people are into from their profile, so you don't need to be like "hey, you're into pegging - peg me!" you can focus on what else you have in common to see if it goes anyway. Like personality and interests,  not more kink 

It would be if people actually filled out their profiles, but 95% don't bother, so finding a profile by kink is pretty futile.

[Lo****]

(No pun intended) hard to find. 😂

[ey****]

6 hours ago, HatfieldMaster said:

It would be if people actually filled out their profiles, but 95% don't bother, so finding a profile by kink is pretty futile.

this in itself takes things another way.  

typically when women see a poor/incomplete profile (or are messaged from one) they're less likely to respond

when men see a poor/incomplete profile - they message anyway.    And it always hurts chances because - of how men message in general.   It's then even more likely they'll lead with fetishes.

So it again comes back to - well - finding other common interests.  And then of course the "genuine connection" guys get annoyed they've hit it off with someone but she's not into their kink - meaning it was never about a connection anyway.

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, HatfieldMaster said:

It would be if people actually filled out their profiles, but 95% don't bother, so finding a profile by kink is pretty futile.

Eyem is accurate - you're missing the point. You might only be interested in someone because they will do the thing you like - but I don't want to only be wanted because of that. I'm a person not a kink dispenser.

[Ha****]

4 hours ago, fififufu said:

Eyem is accurate - you're missing the point. You might only be interested in someone because they will do the thing you like - but I don't want to only be wanted because of that. I'm a person not a kink dispenser.

Not at all, i actually agree with most of what he wrote - I just took exception to the line "Like, the beautiful thing about sites like this is you can see what people are into from their profile"  as it is misleading guff for the reason that I pointed out.

[Deleted Member]

49 minutes ago, HatfieldMaster said:

Not at all, i actually agree with most of what he wrote - I just took exception to the line "Like, the beautiful thing about sites like this is you can see what people are into from their profile"  as it is misleading guff for the reason that I pointed out.

I was responding to "finding a profile by kink is pretty futile" because I think that people (well, men) are overly preoccupied with finding someone who will do the thing vs finding connection or whatever we call it.

[Xa****]

I found one who said it would be easy to find someone to peg men and yet that’s still an impossible search. Not too sure either I figured this site would be better to find that too but it’s like 90% women who want a dom or daddy.

[Ha****]

8 minutes ago, fififufu said:

I was responding to "finding a profile by kink is pretty futile" because I think that people (well, men) are overly preoccupied with finding someone who will do the thing vs finding connection or whatever we call it.

Yeah, I completely agree with that sentiment.

[po****]

Being a man that enjoys being pegged has nothing to do with being attracted to men. Women enjoy their ass played with and fucked. Why is it homosexual if a man wants a woman and NOT a man to do this? The anus is one of the few body parts men and women can enjoy very similar. I had a GF in HS who wanted me to fuck her ass but not till she fucked mine so I would know what I was like and wouldn't rip her apart. It was sound logic and still is.