Ghosting / Non Response

[st****]

Don’t take it personal I got a few messages left on read and vice versa once Ik your not my type and if u ask me I look pretty good , so everything isn’t abt looks some ppl have their specific image of what they want and that’s fine don’t sweat it keep looking

[Bl****]

It’s just rude, say no interested and that’s fine

[Bl****]

45 minutes ago, Coco_De_Leche said:

This topic has come up many times and I’ll reiterate:
NO ONE OWES ANYONE CONVERSATION !

“Ghosting” is suddenly and without explanation cutting of communication with someone.
If you haven’t started a communication you are not ghosting!

Does the OP really expect people to engage with everyone random person who messages them ?
Consider that messages may be inappropriate,harassing, begging or just downright banal.
When you respond even in the negative, you start an engagement with that person that you never wanted.

IMO having an expectation to receive a reply fits in the “ Some people are just about themselves” category.

The anonymous nature of this online world is people are cautious and yes picky.

Ghosting with reason is rude

[Di****]

I work day night all the time many different jobs .one job takes 3 hours 1 way and 3 back=6 hours that's just walking my othèr jobs I leave at 430 am to get their by 6am

[PrinceCruel]

49 minutes ago, Boooall said:

I personally would prefer to be told why they have lost interest in me. Ghosting doesn't tell a person what went wrong or if its a fixable problem.

The weird thing about ghosting is that it is not personal. Don't take it as an attack on your personality, flaw of character or something you said. It is an opportunity to red flag someone and save time, not bruise your ego.
With online relationships, most see someone through a pinhole, imagine, project your wishes and desires... it is only digital, a preliminary layer to developing an understanding of another person, so be grateful that person saved you some time.

[su****]

No Response Is A Response 🎯💯

[VF****]

Honestly there's too many messages to respond to them all and once you realize the person lives 400 miles away seems ridiculous to keep anything going. So I guess you could say that sometimes these guys don't listen

[VF****]

Could say something *** I mean
As to not full on ghost

P.S. sorry to all the dudes I have ghosted

[ep****]

Ghosting or blocking is rude and sadly too easy to do online. To treat a person as if they no longer exist… in a place where consent is everything… ? Ghosts dont give closure; that’s what I find hardest.
Telling people you want no more contact is easy and usually respected.
Ultimately I count my blessings the shiny knights and 24 carat gold ghosts have left me alone.

[fe****]

People are selfish and they suck. Not all but a lot of people do this especially online because it’s easy to hide behind a keyboard or phone and face no accountability and it also sucks to have to find new people and live this cycle over and over again. I rarely try anymore because of it aside from just being a busier person with everyday life. But whenever people do that to me I cut them off. My time is valuable and so are any of my feelings and emotions and my mental well being

[Mt****]

14 minutes ago, ephemeral_girl said:

Ghosting or blocking is rude and sadly too easy to do online. To treat a person as if they no longer exist… in a place where consent is everything… ? Ghosts dont give closure; that’s what I find hardest.
Telling people you want no more contact is easy and usually respected.
Ultimately I count my blessings the shiny knights and 24 carat gold ghosts have left me alone.

Also the fact everyone is paying for this app and then you need to send gifts to people to even initiate a conversion sometimes is just wild, to then get passed on or they need to get verified or something lol

[Su****]

No one owes you a reply.

[Mt****]

7 minutes ago, SubmissiveSnickers said:

No one owes you a reply.

I agree with this, but I'm just talking about how some conversations on here don't feel real. Honestly IDK that's just my opinion so far, I'm new to the app

[FE****]

6 minutes ago, Mtndan said:

Also the fact everyone is paying for this app and then you need to send gifts to people to even initiate a conversion sometimes is just wild, to then get passed on or they need to get verified or something lol

There are plenty of things that can be done on this app/site that don't require paid membership.  Not everyone is paying, far from it.

Now saying that "There could be any number of reasons for a message filter blocking messages ... the most common is that they have set a limit on which city/cities they want to receive messages from. Check out the message filters and you will see how many options there are. "

 

[DJWolfDaddy]

I have had this happen to me one too many times and I do not tolerate being ghosted or ignored

[DJWolfDaddy]

Ghosting someone is totally disrespectful and you should not even be on this site if you're going to go with people

[Mt****]

6 minutes ago, FETMod-RG said:

There are plenty of things that can be done on this app/site that don't require paid membership.  Not everyone is paying, far from it.

Now saying that "There could be any number of reasons for a message filter blocking messages ... the most common is that they have set a limit on which city/cities they want to receive messages from. Check out the message filters and you will see how many options there are. "

 

Oh I didn't know that

[Yaaaaaaay]

Some people don't know how to politely say thanks but no thanks. I have so much more respect for someone who responds and declines. I will actually thank them for that and let them know its appreciated.
People can ignore someone and put bad vibes out into the world which in turn definitely brings bad vibes back. Or be nice, respectful and cordial. Its really not that hard to do. I personally would love to see a better world then the one we live in and that starts with what we put out. Treat everyone with respect. Do better, be better then you were yesterday and tomorrow will be great.

[Co****]

It certainly does suck, but I just view it as being busy or not being interested. Sometimes it's meant to be disrespectful, but welcome to interacting with people? There have been too many times where I'll express I'm busy to someone then comeback to 12 unread messages a few hours later. As someone that's a "newbie" it's off-putting and I never know how to respond, so I don't reply til much later. Not the greatest reaction but when I want to be considerate and respond in between transitions in the day, which of the 12 messages am I going to reply to?

[Deleted Member]

F*ck those people

Start blocking them and deactivating them

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Bluesbreaker68 said:

It’s just rude, say no interested and that’s fine

I mean, it's not rude

(and the amount of folk who have, at some point, gone "hey, sorry I'm not interested" and it's then turned to abusive, or "but y tho?" or not taking the answer is unreal... as reasonably as you feel you may be - others are not)

But... if you genuinely believe it rude.  Then surely you dodge a bullet, you wouldn't want to be with someone who is rude, no? So it's all the better for you 

[St****]

A lot of people have said this already, but I really don’t think it can be overstated - NO ONE OWES YOU A RESPONSE.

To expect otherwise not only sets yourself up for disappointment but is also an alarmingly entitled attitude, one which has the potential to fester and lead to far more toxic beliefs.

Yes, it can be disheartening when someone you like doesn’t reply. But that’s part and parcel of online dating. You need to make peace with this.

And you could also do with seeing for yourself the sheer volume of messages that women on these apps tend to receive - a huge percentage of which are abusive, repulsive or just plain unimaginative. Virtually every woman I’ve ever chatted to has similar horror stories about the kind of stuff they have to deal with on here.

Can you honestly say that, if the roles were reversed, you would gladly spend your free time responding to hundreds, thousands of people you have no interest in…? That you’d be happy to open up dialogues with them all so that they can continue pestering you, trying to change your mind, demanding reasons for your rejection or just hurling petty insults?

And to clarify, simply not responding to an opening message is absolutely NOT ghosting.

[Mi****]

Hey, you found someone else. Great! Hey, you decided not to pursue this but you appreciate the time/flirt. Great! Hey, you decided that you are not feeling the match anymore, Great! I am sure there are many ways to do it rather than the many listed in 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. Be the person you would have wanted.

[DJWolfDaddy]

Stuart 84 being respectful and being kind to someone goes a long way because as I said before and I believe that I've been in this lifestyle a lot longer that it does show positively towards yourself when you can show respect and just be kind enough to say yes or no and then move on.

[Ba****]

I used to tell people no thanks, with or without reason. I always get a why or a "let me change your mind." A "no thanks" typically results in people becoming more pushy. I put in my profile I don't play online and make it obvious that I always play with my partner (at least until we both feel safe with me playing solo, if that happens), but I constantly get people that push to have my partner not present. It's the reason I don't respond, or "ghost" as some people are defining it. I don't need to put up with unconsented D pics or people constantly digging to get specifics on my fantasies so they can finish themselves off. I shouldn't have to repeat what I will and won't accept, so yes they end up ghosted or blocked.

9/10 times people haven't actually read my profile, they have just checked out the pictures they can see and maybe looked at my kink list. Sometimes I "read" their messages while checking their profile to see if I would even be interested or if we match up. If we don't match or they are ONLY interested in hooking up with women only, I don't respond. My profile specifically states they can speak with my partner if they want to play, especially solo, so why would I give them my time if they can't take the time to see what I want and what my conditions/boundaries are.