What makes a good Daddy dom?

[Deleted Member]

I’ve been reflecting on what truly defines a good Daddy dom. Not just confidence, but also emotional intelligence, patience, and a strong sense of responsibility.

For those who’ve explored this kind of dynamic, what traits make you feel most safe, respected, and desired? What qualities help build trust and connection in that kind of relationship?

[Deleted Member]

For me personally a “good” dd is someone who is going to encourage me to be the best me I can be.

Common goals to work on together to build trust and respect.

As far as feeling desired words of praise and encouragement are always wanted in addition to physical touch.

There’s more obviously but it’s still early for me and I feel like I’m rambling 😂

[Ki****]

What most men miss is the fact that a Dom’s position is first and foremost a caretaking position. If a Dom approaches it from any other angle it’s only about his gratification.

[Deleted Member]

Well me and my Daddy of 8 years split recently. I needed him to grow up. He was a 45 year old grown man that wanted to control my life but coukdnt. Manage a liscense in 8 years. We started out with his lies. I ended up leavjnf cause he just wouldnt be the dom I needed . Like youre supposed to guide me. I shouldn't have to tell you everything im 13 years younger idk. He also wasnt inventive enough but oh well

[Deleted Member]

I completely agree with you. The caregiving and trust-building parts are the foundation of a healthy dynamic. When a submissive gives that level of trust, it’s really the Dom’s responsibility to honor and protect it above everything else.

What I’m curious about is the dominant side of it. How do you recognize when dominance becomes too much or crosses a line? And when it comes to discipline, how do you decide when punishment is actually needed and what form it should take? I feel like that balance between care and authority is what defines a real Daddy Dom dynamic.

[Ot****]

Let’s say, for the sake of argument, that the term Daddy Dom is overloaded. Depending upon how you come at BDSM (or leather) it can mean different things. My experience is that all Dominance styles are caring and nurturing— it doesn’t matter if it’s a Daddy, Dom/me, Master/Mistress, whatever. Pretending like it’s only those who practice Daddy Dom (or Mommy Dom) is disingenuous. Daddy’s can be strict or not. They can focus on pleasure or be sadists.

Then you have the whole question about whether the Daddy is one in a CG/l dynamic which is much different than one who is not.

Because of this it’s nearly impossible to define what makes a good Daddy Dom other than to use the same terms that define a good Dominant of any other stripes— control of themselves before taking control over others, nurturing & guiding, consistent, emotionally mature, clear communicators, understanding the balance between control & authority, focus on consent, etc.

[DY****]

I don’t believe they really exist, not real ones anyway. emotional intelligence is the most important aspect but it’s always a mask that slips. This isn’t just the brat in me, they are poorly raised and deny therapy. No wonder we choose to be celibate