Older Soft Dom

[So****]

I'm finding it a little tough getting into this life only because it feels like it's not great for older guys. I want to be more confident. So I'm asking the community to help with advice on being jealous.

[Deleted Member]

Well, what is causing the jealousy?

[Ma****]

Well what I can say is that what you put out there has a lot to do with what you attract. I am 59, and I believe that my profile represents me well, my pics convey a lot too and I hunt and don’t wait for a sub to approach me.

[RedFoxUK]

In my opinion you would be best to go away and teach yourself to be more confident, more authoritative and more in control of yourself BEFORE even attempting to immerse yourself into this lifestyle... assuming you want to portray yourself as a Dom. You need to be somewhat self assured (without being a dick) and be in control of yourself, before you can ever expect someone else to put themselves into your hands.

[Mo****]

Sorry you're struggling with it. It depends on what you desire. If you're the dom you have to be Dom with your approach. If you're sub, guess you gotta wait, sorry I don't know shit about being a sub. I can tell you with 100% certainty, there's nothing wrong with taking the time to find the one that matches your kink level & style. Whole different ballgame when you find a match that enjoys your kink. Being kinky doesn't mean fuck anything that'll let you. It means caring and learning her desires so you can twist your kink so it feeds hers (or whatever you're into i guess). But that's just my view of it.

[li****]

Jealous of what?

[Deleted Member]

Hi

[So****]

6 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

Jealous of what?

That I can't give her what she needs

[ey****]

11 hours ago, SoftDomHardSpanks said:

That I can't give her what she needs

so ask what she needs?  if you can't do it then she's not the sub for you

[TheBookCollector]

Firstly experience counts for a lot, but even then is a 18-25 year old going to want to jump into a relationship with a 55 year old, who at a push is as old as her grandfather, or dad?
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The simple answer is not really, they will have thier eyes set on men 40 and under. So you will struggle in that respect.
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Also women over 40 who have been involved arent always going to want to "train" a newbie.

[So****]

Tuesday at 03:21 PM, liliththedivine said:

Jealous of what?

That I couldn't be the one she needed to fulfill the things she needs.

[Mo****]

Either talk to her in detail about her desires, or move on. Maybe your idea of soft Dom is her idea of submissive bitch. If you're just trying to please one, and only one, find her desires and combine them with yours. She may just want to be dominated instead of indecisive softness.

[li****]

1 hour ago, SoftDomHardSpanks said:

That I couldn't be the one she needed to fulfill the things she needs.

Sounds like a compatibility thing. I'd just move on without taking it personally.