What makes obedience meaningful to you — the rule itself, or the person who gives it?

[To****]

What makes obedience meaningful to you — the rule itself, or the person who gives it?( for subs)

In D/s dynamics, obedience can look the same from the outside — kneeling, following, yielding.
But the reason behind it is not the same for every submissive.

Some say obedience only matters when the Dominant has earned trust and authority.
Others feel that the act of obeying itself is where they find release, clarity, and purpose.

So I’m curious to hear from submissive women specifically:
• Do you obey because of who he is?
• Or because of how obedience makes you feel?
• And when did you first realise the difference?

No one-liners.
Speak honestly.

[CJ_SilverQueen]

A combination of. I won’t submit to just anyone. It must be for someone I trust and has the ability to lead. Admiration for the person that exhibits these abilities is where my submission lies. My submission isn’t blind. It is meaningful. If I give it, I feel it should also be respected and honored for the gift it is.

[Au****]

Man, that is such a deep question. I think my takeaway is that for a submissive, the real reason they obey is because of how the submission makes them feel. I mean, that relief, clarity, or just the feeling of not having to decide things seems like the biggest reward. In my mind a Sub definitely needs to trust the Dom giving the rule, but the true meaning comes from that internal release. It makes total sense that a rule from a Dom you don't respect would just feel annoying or cause resentment, but that same rule from a Dom you respect leaves you feeling calm and centered. That difference really shows where the true purpose lies.

[hu****]

Neither is greater than the other. In order to fully submit tho there needs to be trust and respect on both sides. I also need to feel there is a certain strength within that person and good values. I get a feeling of freedom from giving up control, for me the best feeling is to be in a position where you're completely at their mercy. All the noise in my head stops and my only focus is on what they're doing and what they may do next an when the next thing is coming. It's freeing

So yes it depends on the person an yes of course it's because of how it makes me feel.

Trust consent and enjoyment
If those 3 things aren't in place you basically in an abusive relationship

[CJ_SilverQueen]

To add to my previous post, my being a sub is truly the combination of. The previous post focused on what I need in a Dom, but once that is done, then the giving up control and being able to focus on the task takes over. How to be the best I can at it, and how to bring the most pleasure from it to my Dom. Being able to please him and expending the effort and dedication for excellence to my task is freeing for my mind. Focusing on what I am doing without outside distractions.

[co****]

Definitely because of who he is. I realised that pretty quickly when I first started experimenting with BDSM online after discovering I'm kinda into it. I was probably 19 and there were a lot of creepy men trying to make me their sub without me even knowing them. That's when I realised I need a connection. I don't just wanna submit for the sake of it, that gives me nothing. I only submit if I'm in love