Collars

[TG****]

fire will still damage it, its more about the ceremony than the physics

[he****]

I would sell it. Like a wedding ring someone else could use it and take the *** to splurge on yourself

[Ma****]

18 minutes ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

We are no contact & i refuse to give him the chance to spill yet more lies to me

Mail it back to him so he can reflect on his mistake!

[Sweetestsadist]

Send it to the depths of a body of water in an envelope with your letter. Best wishes for you to find closure.

[Ta****]

25 minutes ago, sultrysinner said:

I'm in the same boat! I have his bracelet (the key) and my collar still in a drawer. I've been wanting to do something similar, but it also was expensive af. I just don't think anyone would want to buy a custom, previously worn collar ya know? Thinking of doing a little goodbye/karmic ceremony and burying them with the ashes of the other items.

& i wouldnt want someone else wearing it because of what it meant if that makes sense

[Ta****]

25 minutes ago, TGDW said:

fire will still damage it, its more about the ceremony than the physics

Thank you i didnt know if it would

[Ta****]

3 minutes ago, Sweetestsadist said:

Send it to the depths of a body of water in an envelope with your letter. Best wishes for you to find closure.

Now thats a great idea thank you

[Ma****]

37 minutes ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

Its silver

I'd recommend returning it via mail or UPS. It's a clear message and then he needs to either look at it and recall the mistake or dispose of it

[TimberTara]

Life is full of ups and downs. The best thing to do is to move on live fabulously and make the person who left you jealous

[Ta****]

58 minutes ago, MasterB0659 said:

Mail it back to him so he can reflect on his mistake!

Hes a dismissive avoidant

[Ba****]

When my last dynamic ended (I use that term loosely, he had many narcissistic tendencies and was quite abusive near the end) he ***d me to give the collar back. It was his and for him to give out to someone else (ew). I’m very glad for that years later. I think, were it still with me, I’d bury it to give myself the closure he refused to.
Your idea is fantastic though and if it is what you feel drawn to do, then that’s the correct thing to do.

[TG****]

1 hour ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

Its silver

I thought I posted this earlier ...Its not about destroying it. Its about the ceremony what it meant.

[Mr****]

1 hour ago, BackRubsNBruises said:

When my last dynamic ended (I use that term loosely, he had many narcissistic tendencies and was quite abusive near the end) he ***d me to give the collar back. It was his and for him to give out to someone else (ew). I’m very glad for that years later. I think, were it still with me, I’d bury it to give myself the closure he refused to.
Your idea is fantastic though and if it is what you feel drawn to do, then that’s the correct thing to do.

I’m sorry, but, he did what to get the collar back? I can’t figure out a 3 letter combo for that…

[Ba****]

6 minutes ago, Mr***shot said:

I’m sorry, but, he did what to get the collar back? I can’t figure out a 3 letter combo for that…

F
O
R
C
E
D

It wasn’t 3 letters, that’s the app’s standard edit

[TG****]

1 hour ago, TGDWizardry said:

I thought I posted this earlier ...Its not about destroying it. Its about the ceremony what it meant.

👍 got it
Silver to you, symbolism to me.

[Ne****]

I am sorry for your unwanted *** and the damage caused you. 🩵

I myself do not want to keep the reminder (and I keep everything, classic AuDHD hoarding tendencies.. ooo an empty box!! mine mine mine!)
I will not wear or place on another any collar that is not bought/constructed/given to more than one person. Therefore, if the dynamic/relationship ends, the collar also needs to cease to exist.
My desire is to throw them into Fire.
Even if I traveled across the world to gather exotic materials and had the finest, most sought-after leathermaker grant me audience and we all designed it together with so much reverance, love and care

FIRE.

[CJ_SilverQueen]

You could always go to a silversmith and have it melted down. You could make something new for yourself to symbolize your freedom from him and live for yourself instead. Then every time you see it, it will symbolize you as a survivor not a victim of him. Give it a symbol of wings or a phoenix to symbolize you and only you.

[do****]

Burn it and burn away all the weight, ***, disappointment, etc., etc , that came along with it

[Ph****]

I had a relationship that was so amazing.At first. And it broke my heart , and it put me in a very dark place.. it took a lot for me to get out of it..
But when I was able to stand on my own feet and be strong for myself.. i took all collar ceremony pictures .. the collar.. wedding dress.. letters. And anything that reminded me of him..
I called a bunch of my friends.

We all went to a kink event.. i had an impact session.. And I wore the dress.. my top cut it off of me.. and had an amazing session , and I cried , and I broke down , and it felt great afterward. And then I took all of my friends and we went outside and I screamed to the top of my lungs and said everything I wanted to say to him and I burned everything..

Now I didn't want any drama from the kink community.. because I didn't want it getting back to him.. so I kept it very discreet because this was about me , not him...

But I will say , this do what makes you feel good because at the end of the day , you are what is important.

[Se****]

As a Dom I had been asked that question from someone else about past collars. One I told her to encased as a memory of a past but don’t touch it. Another one told me it was bad relationship so it was released into the ocean at night. You can not go with the last feeling but the entire time and make a decision based on that.

[my****]

You should have returned it when you were released. Unless you were abandoned. I agree you shouldn’t ever wear it again as that was a symbol between the two of you, not you and someone else in the future. At this point it might be nice to bury it, or burn it. It’s too late to give it back now.

[Ta****]

26 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

You should have returned it when you were released. Unless you were abandoned. I agree you shouldn’t ever wear it again as that was a symbol between the two of you, not you and someone else in the future. At this point it might be nice to bury it, or burn it. It’s too late to give it back now.

We are no contact with no alternative, i'd rather not go into details for personal reasons to myself & others involved also affected unknowingly at the time.

[Ta****]

4 hours ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

I had a relationship that was so amazing.At first. And it broke my heart , and it put me in a very dark place.. it took a lot for me to get out of it..
But when I was able to stand on my own feet and be strong for myself.. i took all collar ceremony pictures .. the collar.. wedding dress.. letters. And anything that reminded me of him..
I called a bunch of my friends.

We all went to a kink event.. i had an impact session.. And I wore the dress.. my top cut it off of me.. and had an amazing session , and I cried , and I broke down , and it felt great afterward. And then I took all of my friends and we went outside and I screamed to the top of my lungs and said everything I wanted to say to him and I burned everything..

Now I didn't want any drama from the kink community.. because I didn't want it getting back to him.. so I kept it very discreet because this was about me , not him...

But I will say , this do what makes you feel good because at the end of the day , you are what is important.

Im happy you found your strength & peace x

[Ph****]

28 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

You should have returned it when you were released. Unless you were abandoned. I agree you shouldn’t ever wear it again as that was a symbol between the two of you, not you and someone else in the future. At this point it might be nice to bury it, or burn it. It’s too late to give it back now.

I disagree with returning it.. it doesn't matter if it's was abandoned or not.. this from a submissive side opinion... regardless of who is in the wrong, it should be the submissive to decide.. I know a lot would disagree with me, and I am ok with that..
But one if she takes the responsibility of doing what she wants with a collar.I don't have to worry about it going around someone else neck ..
I have seen this too many times. Old collars going around another submissive neck After it's been on someone else's neck..

I understand the concept of that was that Dom's collar for that submissive...
But sometimes we have to step back and take a breather. And has nothing to do with power as to do with what is right.
The collar is very emotional for the submissive.I'm not saying it's not emotional for the Dom.
But just for a second , take the dom out of the equation , we're not disrespecting the Dom , we're just saying , hey , when we take our power back , we should have a little say so too..

P.S. i hope that helps understand from a submissive side , a point of view.

[my****]

13 minutes ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

I disagree with returning it.. it doesn't matter if it's was abandoned or not.. this from a submissive side opinion... regardless of who is in the wrong, it should be the submissive to decide.. I know a lot would disagree with me, and I am ok with that..
But one if she takes the responsibility of doing what she wants with a collar.I don't have to worry about it going around someone else neck ..
I have seen this too many times. Old collars going around another submissive neck After it's been on someone else's neck..

I understand the concept of that was that Dom's collar for that submissive...
But sometimes we have to step back and take a breather. And has nothing to do with power as to do with what is right.
The collar is very emotional for the submissive.I'm not saying it's not emotional for the Dom.
But just for a second , take the dom out of the equation , we're not disrespecting the Dom , we're just saying , hey , when we take our power back , we should have a little say so too..

P.S. i hope that helps understand from a submissive side , a point of view.

I have no problem with you having a different opinion. I see it as a wedding ring. Some people will return those and others keep them. From my pov the collar is mine, I give it to a sub (I’ve never given it to one because I’ve never had that relationship) if she asks for release that comes back to me. It’s her final act while being mine. I would dispose of it. Giving it to another girl would be very tacky. I don’t think there is a wrong opinion either way, just different points of view.