What’s my Kink and do you guys have it too?

[La****]

I’m trying to understand my kinks and interests a bit more. I have one specifically that I’m curious if any other women have or if men have the opposite. Something I want to try is masturbating in front of a man or a man talking me through it or teaching me how to. Have any of you women or men tried this?
Do you guys think most guys would also want to try this or find it hot? How would I bring it up?
If other women also have thought about this, do you know why? Has anyone you’ve been with actually liked it?

I don’t feel ready to have PIV sex again and don’t really feel ready to touch a man again either, but I’m single and don’t know how many people would feel happy about this or satisfied by it. Is this better to guys than nothing? Or am I better off not dating unless I want to become more intimate than this?

I’ve heard a lot about women being selfish in bed so in the past I’ve tried to be selfless and I just really don’t feel ready or safe to have the typical sexual that I think most people my age (25) are looking for (foreplay PIV done)

[to****]

I think that’s quite a common kink for subs, especially the instruction part.

[Cravings2024]

I find talking a woman through pleasuring herself, watching, listening to your whimpers and moans, enjoying the smells of your excitement very hot 🔥

[cl****]

I would find it incredibly hot 🤷🏼‍♂️ good thing with this, is that it can be done via camera too.
Also… selfless/selfish… neither is true. It should come down to who you are with and both of you trying to make it as pleasurable for the other.

[TheBookCollector]

Being watched or directed while masturbating is not an uncommon kink.

[MasterTalathian47342]

That is a very common thing just look up JOI.

Most men that i know love having a woman masturbate for them and are often more than willing to watch and talk a woman through it so they can see what they like.

If you find the right people each can be fully satisfied without touching the other though unfortunately many will try to move it to a more physical relationship. You can do as many do and just use video chatting so that there is distance with no chance of touching. Then when you are comfortable you can move it to in person etc.

Just be upfront and honest with those you talk to. Make this discussion pay off your vetting process. Discuss it fully good and bad so the other person knows exactly what to expect. If you don't want anything in person tell them that. Don't lead them on if it's not going to ever move beyond this.

Communication and vetting are two of the most important things you can do to get what you would like and be safe.

Just my 2 cents though.

[Ti****]

That’s hot! Being given instructions is a big turn on for lots of women. And yes, it’s also hot to give instructions. No touching is even kinkier! But you gotta make everything clear and be comfortable with the person you do it with cause thats a very *** position you want to get into. No strangers at that party pls

[Cu****]

Sounds great - I often play long distance and I instruct and control a lovesense vibe - the sub dom dynamic is there and I often just control - I enjoy watching and listening to pleasure

[Bl****]

It’s very popular of course, if you find someone who is into the kink, no it doesn’t have to involve PIV at all, as long as you agree to limits and anything done is consensual and agreed beforehand.

[Da****]

I don't have any experience with it but I do know I'd love this scenario. There are definitely people out there that would love to play this out. As for brining it up, it's all about communication.

[Bl****]

It’s very possible if you find the right person who want it too. It doesn’t have to involve PIV at all. Discuss what you really want and make limits clear from the start. If you prefer, dm me and we can discuss further.

[Slim-7-]

It's way better than nothing it's fun it's sexy it's trusting I wouldn't look at it is a consolation prize I would be honored to do that with you and find it very exciting

[Deleted Member]

I'd find it hot, and be able to understand your situation. Would most probably not but there are a few out there. I would love to have situation where the lady sets a time, puts on a whole show then leaves. Now this is where I would may mess it up. I'd start to buy certain outfits or lingerie I'd like to see you in. Maybe small gifts of appreciation like flowers and cards. I feel at that point its crossing your line🤷‍♂️ so yea idk lol

[Ky****]

Personally I would consider it to be very hot and would greatly enjoy it. You would just have to find a way to strongly establish your boundaries and for you to tell and find a guy that will respect it until you're ready for PIV.

Starting off by saying that you only want him to watch the first few times you get intimate, then expanding it to where you each masturbate together, then to assisting each other until you're ready for preventative sex would be a good build up and incredibly hot.

[fl****]

This is not an uncommon kink. I’ve done this will multiple partners over the years. I do find it hot talking someone through it. Especially in the end when they orgasm, just for me. Love it

My suggestion would be to just be open and honest about it. Especially if you don’t feel ready for direct intimacy. Some people might not want only this sort of mutual masturbation interaction, but if they don’t, then they’re obviously not the right partner for you, not right now at least.

[Bi****]

It all depends if you can find that right person. Personally, I love this kind of thing. I love helping a woman explore herself and coaching her on exactly how she should touch herself. It’s a very fun dom position, it feels very powerful and also so satisfying to help bring that kind of focused pleasure. I can’t speak for “most” guys, but yes, plenty of men would love this.

[ne****]

I think it's something that would feel like a "sidequest" to having sex as a whole, but it's a very intimate and pleasant experience, with the right amount of time and focus it'd probably be even better than a short sex session

[th****]

Nah. That's actually really hot, and I wouldn't mind that being the only thing we did.

[Ja****]

I think it's a normal voyeurism/exhibitionism kink. A lot of people have those and its nothing to be ashamed of.

I've tried mutual masturbation once on a date and it was absolutely thrilling.
We talked about what we want, what kinks we have, what we should try etc and so on. I highly recommend trying it :)

I think it would be a huge turn on for most men.

To the dating part: maybe you could try online dating and try it online without showing face.

But most importantly: just be yourself. You don't want to have PIV, then don't have it. The person who respects your boundaries is most likely very fond of the idea of watching someone masturbate without having sex afterwards

[ja****]

Definitely hot 🔥

[Gee]

I don't know about anyone else but that's my idea of a good time. Not better than nothing, just as good as anything else. I do think there's a lot of pressure for different things to happen but you should only do what your comfortable with, if that's what you want right now then there's nothing wrong with it and I'm sure you'll find plenty of us on here who agree.

[So****]

Whether anyone wants to admit it or not your kink is actually fairly common though it is generally used as a way to build anticipation prior to sex during no touch foreplay its not something to be embarrassed about or to feel awkward about communicating as a preference if whoever you choose to communicate it to has any sense then they'll have no issues experience teaches you that you want fulfill as many of your partners desires as you possibly can while respecting the limitations of both participants plus as I said it does build an overwhelming level of anticipation and desire which often help provide an unforgettable overall experience for both people involved. By the way its ok to be selfish kinks and fetish are created by our own selfish needs whether its a subs selfish want to feel the pleasure of submitting or a doms selfish desire to satisfy they're addictive desire to feel the power that comes from domination sex and intimacy is nothing more than a pleasurable dance between your instinctual urge to be selfish and your evolved higher conscious urge to show compassion, care and understanding through selflessness so find the balance get what you want, need and crave and let them help you by communicating your desires to them while remembering to help them fulfill their own desires in the end youll both be .......exhausted and asleep most likely lol

[Fa****]

I think this is both a voyeurism kink and your desire to be a sub and relinquish control nagging at you. As long as the man you’re talking to understands what you want and your boundaries those are both very reasonable things to seek as you slowly figure out yourself. Just be careful in feeling out the person that will do it for you. My gut tells me that his energy would have to be the right intensity for you. Softer dom control. Just chat with some in here and see if anyone gets your thighs rubbing together and heart beating. Be honest and transparent so you dont misrepresent yourself and find the wrong match. Good luck, hun!

[So****]

Also if you want a easy way approach this try starting off with things like phone sex and have him/her walk you through what they would do if they was there with you, if you want to make it better dont be afraid of a camera, recording a video, or getting on a video call after you communicate that you are uncomfortable with Piv sex and they are understanding of your limitations involving it then you can always try face to face

[kb****]

I like this and got very aroused the more I read this!