Munch Notes/Agenda - BDSM Dating – Safety is Sexy – 20th August 2020

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Munch Notes/Agenda - BDSM Dating – Safety is Sexy – 20th August 2020

*Another backdated munch please feel free to pose any questions or leave any comments*

Host: @PixieDust

Content Contributors: @Bounty@PixieDust @lil-monster

 

1.Who is responsible for safety? Are you both equally responsible?

 

2.Do you know what SSC, RACK & PRICK mean?

 

 

3.What about Before Care? Do we need to be ok mentally before we engage in dating and play?

 

4.What are the legal issues if any?

 

5.What personal info do you divulge?

 

 

6.How soon should you show personal info online?

 

7.How soon should you share private photos? 

 

 

8.If chatting online, how do you establish the person is who they claim to be?

 

9.Should you ask for proof that the person you are agreeing to meet is of legal and consenting age?

 

 

10.If planning a meet in IRL, how soon should you meet?

 

 

11.Have you told a friend you are meeting someone for the first time? Do you have a safety plan in place if something happens? Do they know where you are going and when you are expected to be home by?  

 

12.When planning a meet in IRL, where do you meet, should it be somewhere public? 

 

 

13.Should you take precautions when leaving place of agreed meet? Especially if it is a first meet, making sure you’re not followed home for example?

 

 

14.What about meeting in the privacy of your own home? Is that dangerous?

 

 

15.Should it just be a social meet first? How do you meet socially?

 

 

16.Could you/should you ask for references?

 

17.What red flags should you look out for?

 

18.Have either of you had experience?

 

19.Have you agreed/discussed safe words?

 

20.Have you established limits and boundaries?

 

21.Are there any potential triggers you both need to be aware of?

 

22.Have you discussed fantasies?

 

23.Have you discussed aftercare? 

 

24.Do you trust each? How soon should you trust each other?

 

25.Do you have everything you need for a scene to hand? Safety scissors for rope play for example

 

26.Will you practice Safe sex? Who is responsible?

 

 

27.Do you need to make sure you are both healthy? Disease free? Do you need proof? 

 

 

28.What about parents? When is it safe to introduce a new partner to your children?

 

29.What other safety measures do you think need to be considered when dating?

 

 

30.Any other thoughts?