Advice re Orgasms

[sh****]

Lots of foreplay and mutual masturbation before we have sex. Also sometimes it’s a position. I can generally hit the gspot with my partners legs over my shoulder. Usually ends up in squirting

[Country-boi]

Find better partners! Unless you are master bating its ur partner or partners responsibility

[ty****]

Dirty talk, he does it to you!

[jo****]

I’d recommend getting comfortable with your partner and loads of foreplay, but don’t be afraid to assist in letting him know what works and doesn’t for you.

[lo****]

Eye contact will keep you focused , and literally make sure you don’t need to fart. I promise you if you have gas. It won’t wana happen lol . Also go *** before you start . . When you are getting very very stimulated start squeezing your pussy tight , release , tight , release .. and when I’m about to get the big O smacking his dick on your pussy will have your pussy Squirting .. keep having him smack that dick on the opening of your pussy … and y’all both will be wet wet wet 💦💦💦💦💦
Good luck … my first time was with a dildo . My guy was coaching me, while Ilet him tak me threw it… the rest wa history

[ChastitySub4Use]

Sorry to the OP for her issues. 

I can't speak for females as I'm male HOWEVER I also suffer from not easily being able to achieve an orgasm in the normal way.

In part it is because of 40 years of CBT, 20 years in chastity etc plus more recent body mods which mean I no longer have a frenum or foreskin and my glans was modified etc etc resulting in very little sensitivity or feeling in my penis. As a result it is almost impossible for me to orgasm from masturbation/penetrative sex.

I now require my partner to use pretty extreme verbal stuff to take me over the edge OR odd physical stuff such as slapping my balls really hard. I can also orgasm from a guy using my throat too, odd as that sounds but I guess after so many years of doing crazy stuff my brain has 'programmed' itself to hit orgasm under certain scenarios that are not normal (or lets just say not vanilla)

[on****]

There’s something we’re not really addressing here which is that in some cases, being fully in control means not… yielding.

And sometimes orgasm is going to be a yield.

Sometimes we stay on top until what we’ve set out to do in a scene is accomplished. We need our whole attention on the person and the process. I don’t see that as a problem.

When the intensity is down a notch and both people can relax a little into more equal roles… then yield may be both more appropriate and more physically possible.

[al****]

I also have this annoying problem. 30 seconds by myself and it's over, but the minute someone else tries to get me off, it becomes sorcery. And I have only ever had two vaginal orgasms in my life but I couldn't tell you how they happened🤷The times I do cum are usually when I'm on top controlling the clitoral simulation or when it's nice and deep from the back with a bonus finger in the rear...
But in any case I have noticed that it has a lot to do with comfortability with the partner. Like I have one partner that will go down on me for as long as I can stand it, and I always cum because I'm very comfortable in that situation with him. Whereas with another partner of mine, he goes down on me so rarely that when he does, I just can't get into it. And then sometimes (most of the time) it's just about finding the right combination of stimulation. Like I can pretty reliably cum if my nipples are being stimulated at the same time as my clit. Just takes a lil more work, that's all. No lazy lovers allowed! Lol

Idk if any of this helped but I feel your ***! Hope you figure it out!❤️

[pa****]

I think women get off more from thoughts than actual touching/stimulation... so don't try to get out of your head... try to get the right things in your head! Also, I always cum easier from sex after I've already gotten off from playing with my clit!