Can you orgasm with a man giving you oral?

[Sh****]

Also, nowadays I just won't even waste my tine time hooking up with someone unless they've explicitly expressed beforehand that they thoroughly, enthusiastically enjoy eating pussy. 🤭 lmao

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[Ne****]

There IS the element that [generally speaking + Not All blah blah + historical and present patriarchy on and on] Women aren't as safe and comfortable around Men as many would like to think.
This could be due to the overall global systemic *** we know occurs, to a personal issue yet to be uncovered or something in between.

Perhaps it's mechanical differences between how the people involved are approaching the act. Perhaps it's a deep seated preference of Yours yet to be revealed. It could also be that you need more from a man/men when it comes to that act.

I think some internal reflection is demanded here to better know for Yourself. Nothing is as simple as pushing buttons when it comes to these activities, despite there being buttons, and people who are aware of the buttons and go through their sequence of protocols wishing to yield a certain result.

Good luck.

[Twiggy]

I also struggle with this issue - it is incredibly rare for me to orgasm with a partner. And it makes me feel like I’m broken or something, so it is nice to hear I’m not the only one who struggles with this.

[be****]

So I will say, when it comes to oral…I have never gotten any complaints. I made my ex wife squirt for her first time ever from oral as well as having given her multiple o’s from it. Best advice I can give you from a male’s perspective is to communicate with your partner what feels good and what doesn’t feel good and to try different approaches as well as incorporating maybe some nipple play into it or maybe try having your partner use fingers and mouth.

[DAGDA]

So much of a woman's orgazm is dependent on her state of mind. It is interesting that it is not the act but who is doing it.

[Nu****]

1 hour ago, bearded_heathen said:

So I will say, when it comes to oral…I have never gotten any complaints. I made my ex wife squirt for her first time ever from oral as well as having given her multiple o’s from it. Best advice I can give you from a male’s perspective is to communicate with your partner what feels good and what doesn’t feel good and to try different approaches as well as incorporating maybe some nipple play into it or maybe try having your partner use fingers and mouth.

Thanks for the advise. Will try some of that next time for sure.

[yo****]

2 people my whole life

[sp****]

Met the wrong head

[In****]

Honestly. I've never ever orgasmed through oral or sex. At times I feel like im just broken. So many men have gone oh I can do it and nope they can't.
I believe medication over the years hasn't helped matters. But I dont know why I cant otherwise.

[23****]

Its not that you cant...you can but i think its also the situation your in...do you feel comfortable..in the situation..with that person, does that person make u feel something
Then is the oral good, does he/se quit te early ?

All thinks can be related

[23****]

Go for woman then i guess if that works for the best ^^;)

[Mi****]

for a lot of women, orgasm isn’t about technique as much as feeling safe enough to let go. If part of you is monitoring yourself—how you smell, how you look, how you sound, whether you’re “doing it right,” how tired you are—your nervous system stays on guard, and orgasm gets harder.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body needs more safety. With women, many people feel less judged or less “watched,” which makes it easier to relax. With a male partner, it often takes open communication, patience, reassurance, and time, not just knowing what you like.

The work isn’t only learning what turns you on—it’s learning to stop self-judging in the moment and trust that you’re wanted exactly as you are.

[ba****]

6 minutes ago, MidnightFrontDesk said:

for a lot of women, orgasm isn’t about technique as much as feeling safe enough to let go. If part of you is monitoring yourself—how you smell, how you look, how you sound, whether you’re “doing it right,” how tired you are—your nervous system stays on guard, and orgasm gets harder.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body needs more safety. With women, many people feel less judged or less “watched,” which makes it easier to relax. With a male partner, it often takes open communication, patience, reassurance, and time, not just knowing what you like.

The work isn’t only learning what turns you on—it’s learning to stop self-judging in the moment and trust that you’re wanted exactly as you are.

Well said! You hit the head on the nail with this one

[Nu****]

5 hours ago, InkedAngel1991 said:

Honestly. I've never ever orgasmed through oral or sex. At times I feel like im just broken. So many men have gone oh I can do it and nope they can't.
I believe medication over the years hasn't helped matters. But I dont know why I cant otherwise.

That's EXACTLY how I feel. Broken.

[Mi****]

13 minutes ago, Nursebrighteyes said:

That's EXACTLY how I feel. Broken.

You're not broken. Not even a little. A lot of people don't experience orgasm the way movies or porn suggest, and that doesn't mean something is "wrong" with you-it just means your body and wiring are different. That's actually more common than people admit.
If you want to explore it further, there are lots of paths-learning what works for you, different types of stimulation, or even talking with a doctor if you think there could be a medical or hormonal component. There are real options out there.
But please don't label yourself as defective. You're not. You're unique, valid, and whole exactly as you are-and pleasure is not a pass/ fail test of your worth or femininity.

[Nu****]

12 minutes ago, MidnightFrontDesk said:

You're not broken. Not even a little. A lot of people don't experience orgasm the way movies or porn suggest, and that doesn't mean something is "wrong" with you-it just means your body and wiring are different. That's actually more common than people admit.
If you want to explore it further, there are lots of paths-learning what works for you, different types of stimulation, or even talking with a doctor if you think there could be a medical or hormonal component. There are real options out there.
But please don't label yourself as defective. You're not. You're unique, valid, and whole exactly as you are-and pleasure is not a pass/ fail test of your worth or femininity.

I orgasm extremely easy in every other way. Can have multiples and one just role into another. But orally I just can't ever get there. I'm comfortable in that position. I'm relaxed. I'm connected with who I'm with. It just never happens. Insee videos of women enjoying it. And it looks amazing. It's just embarrassing when a man puts in so much effort on my behalf only to have it look like he's not good enough.

[B_****]

What’s I’ve felt from the people I’ve eaten out is that it’s all about the mind and how a guy does it if a guy is less experienced it would be tougher for them to give you one but I’m saying that some experienced guys that give you head may not also be able to give you one if your mind isn’t attracted to it this is my take and it might be the right one but there are ways for a guy to make it happen if they have to learn then they should learn how your body works if they know then they should be able to get you to all in all it’s the mind that has to be in it for you.

[ar****]

I’ve read many good comments here already, the only thing I’d like to add, for it may help someone with a little mental blockade, is to not think about it as if getting an orgasm is the goal of oral, more like oral is merely a way to get you hot and bothered. Over time your partner will also get better and learn what your beaver craves and how it likes to be snuggled. So treat it as mere foreplay without any further expectation.

Or one step further, as I had it work for one partner, for some people whose boat floats that way, it may work to change the direction of the “stress” and to treat oral as if you are specifically NOT allowed to have an orgasm. If you don’t have one by the time his jaw hurts, oral was foreplay as intended and you’ve reached your “goal” of not cumming. If your partner manages to make you cum, it’s just your happy little accident.

[Nu****]

So much great advise. Thanks to everyone. And while I hate to hear someone else has this problem at least now I know I'm not the only one. Will get started on using all this great advise right away. Cheers to happy orgasms 😄