Workout to please partner

[ey****]

 

I guess, a little

I need regular-ish *** tests and my last one in the summer returned that my cholesterol was a little high

Whilst nothing of overly concern I decided I wanted to do something about it, so it wouldn't cause issues further in life.

 

This was my workout motivation. Everyone else who matters is happy enough with my build.

 

I made subtle diet changes. Subtle. Mostly as this coincided with Greggs putting up prices, having cereal on office days when I'd normally have a breakfast sandwich

I also tried, when snacking to switch to something like protein bites

 

Anyway. I started going to a gym and most weeks it's twice. Three on occasion.

My wife, actually, feels she'd rather spend more time with me than me being at the gym, but understands my motivation and encourages it.

 

For some people going to a gym 5-7 days per week is right, or what they want to do - but consider this does eat into relationship and other time.

 

Anyway. So I'm now coming very close to 6 months at the gym

I mostly do classes. In fact in this time there was only two times I went without a class booked, although once I continued a workout after a class cos it didn't feel enough - though more than once if I'm early I will do warm ups using gym gear

 

When I started I struggled in cycle classes

So started on weight/strength classes - GLC for lower body, lift for upper.

I'd occasionally mix in something like HIIT for cardio.

 

With weight/strength I was able to increment up the weights - so from the first classes when I was often using around 5kg, I'm now using 30kg.

I have in recent weeks started to include cycle back in and I'm no longer struggling.

 

A typical week for me now involves 45 minutes cycle and 60 minutes strength/weight training.

 

The net results for me have bee

- noticeable, belly considerably smaller, an extra belt hole needed on my belt, noticeable muscle

- less noticeable, I've not actually lost much weight, but body fat percentage has dropped into a "healthy adult male" range. this is likely due to water retention and muscle mass.

 

For me the motivation was control cholesterol. Doing it for me cos I like food too much and didn't want any form of diet pushed onto me. That my fitness has improved and physique slightly toned is added bonus.

No one cared anyway.

 

Though, one of my friends does say my smaller belly makes me easier to peg. So. There's that.

 

[ot****]

Partner should love you no matter what tbh

[Ba****]

Wait
Work out for yourself, that way you both benefit while you skip the delusion of your partner owing you for taking care of yourself
And wall-sit, sit-up and hip-thrust for your endurance to outlast your “endurance”, push-up and pull-up if you want to start picking people up physically, do that semi-regularly and have some variety and you’ll be fine and after a while you’ll be “fine” too

[ma****]

Pilates, Barre, and yoga are very helpful. Much of what happens in the bedroom requires that your hip flexors be open and pliable. These 3 help with that and prevent ***. With the added benefit of improving health and wellbeing.

[Mo****]

I agree with the other comments already added, but since you do want to make changes I will ask a few questions and open the floor for everyone to toss opinions in.
- What parts of your body are you trying to work on?
- How much time do you have to dedicate to working out? Which days and which hours.
- Do you consider the nutrition benefits before you are consuming food and drinks? Strategically thinking about what you put in your body does make a difference in the long term.
- Do you have any physical activities that you currently do that maybe you can adjust to become a workout?
- Do you have any physical or mental limitations that might eliminate some options? ***s, conditions, injuries, etc.

That is all I have to start, there are so many options for staying in shape. It really depends on your end goals physically and what you can fit into your day to day lifestyle.

[LIC-8098]

Pushups.. 50 pushups a day, keeps the man boobs away. At almost 40, and without seeing the inside of a gym in years, I'm living proof.

[Ba****]

15 hours ago, MoreThanYouExpect said:

I agree with the other comments already added, but since you do want to make changes I will ask a few questions and open the floor for everyone to toss opinions in.
- What parts of your body are you trying to work on?
- How much time do you have to dedicate to working out? Which days and which hours.
- Do you consider the nutrition benefits before you are consuming food and drinks? Strategically thinking about what you put in your body does make a difference in the long term.
- Do you have any physical activities that you currently do that maybe you can adjust to become a workout?
- Do you have any physical or mental limitations that might eliminate some options? ***s, conditions, injuries, etc.

That is all I have to start, there are so many options for staying in shape. It really depends on your end goals physically and what you can fit into your day to day lifestyle.

Well not a perfect fit but sort of related
I stopped touching the floor with my heels when walking barefoot at home to add some not really a workout but sort of a exercise adjacent activity a few years ago, now i’m doing it automatically i’m working on bending my knees and dropping my center of mass a enough to have some tension in my core
It’s quite good for strength and muscle endurance but doesn’t do anything for cardio so mine is still fucked
And my roommates are gonna have a heart attack one of these days

Ps for reference i got a new bicycle around last august after over ten years of not having one and i get winded after 10-15min, be wheezing after 30-40min and can ride for 3hours before i get *** in my legs, and that’s mostly my knee joints cause apparently i got old
(actual orthopedics diagnosis: “do some stretches, you’re not young enough to get away with skipping them”) so yeah i’m also looking for a low magic yoga place at the moment

[sw****]

Without an intrinsic motivation it won’t go anywhere. Anything in life you do for someone else without wanting it primarily irrespective is almost as poor a motivation as “health”. And in terms of maintaining how you look as in “I want to look good naked” it’s a combination of resistance training and caloric control/deficit. On top of that mobility work and stretching will allow you to continue to do the first thing. And btw vigorous cardio is key to maintain the thing that gives you a decent erection as well as making you a calmer happier person. Its just a couple things to think about

[Fr****]

Oh buddy, great question. I personally change my entire diet no more fast food processed foods I eat healthy I exercise everyday it's taking a couple months but I've gotten into a decent routine 150 push-ups and 150 good squats every day. I've gained 10 lb lost a bunch of fat all this because my new partner is 20 years my junior and a smoke show. Previous comments are right though if it's not in you it's not going to get done. Personally I'm so happy with the changes I've made in my life and the results that I've gotten I've gotten quite a few more looks from other people as well feels good

[Kz****]

Keep it fun. Football. Freestyle wrestling. It will cost you nothing and just be a joy. I dont know what kind of energy reserve you must have to run/workout. Did it myself and just litterally go crazy from the imbalance of positive-negative ratio in my life because of that. Im not a bitch ass robot. If I have to do something it needs to have point. And btw freestyle wrestling develops your shape AF

[Da****]

I think strength training and yoga have the biggest bang for your buck personally.

[sm****]

Train for what you want to do - what is your end goal? Strength? Flexibility? Weight loss? Stamina?
You have to lick the destination before you can begin the trip.
What is your goal? ( where do you want to go)

[Ag****]

Reframing what I view to be "getting in shape" and "exercise" has gone a long way for me personally.
I used to think it was all about getting to the gym, lifting weights, doing cardio, etc, but due to my disabilities I can no longer do a lot of what I used to do. When I learned to reframe it to "activity" and "being active", it helped a lot because even on my worst days I could still do something. It also showed me just how much I was doing each day that was keeping me "in shape" that I'd previously never considered.

[At****]

That’s a good way to look at things. If you are doing situps to get abs every time you look down and don’t see drastic change you’ll be disappointed. If you do situps because the activity is good for you then you can be happy with your results every time.

[he****]

Personally, stretching and a focus on flexibility and stronger ligaments/joints has really helped with stamina and experiencing less strain when maintaining a specific position or movement that a partner is particularly enjoying! I am much more comfortable these days knowing that when my partner really is enjoying a specific sensation/angle, an awkward to hold position wont be a problem for me these days, since I've been paying special attention to that flexibility and range of motion in my joints :) (This one's prob an esp good recommendation for my hypermobile and/or chronic *** folks out there who want to be more comfortable and confident!)

[on****]

Whatever you do the secret is just be consistent at it thats the key to seeing results.

[At****]

10 hours ago, heybailes said:

Personally, stretching and a focus on flexibility and stronger ligaments/joints has really helped with stamina and experiencing less strain when maintaining a specific position or movement that a partner is particularly enjoying! I am much more comfortable these days knowing that when my partner really is enjoying a specific sensation/angle, an awkward to hold position wont be a problem for me these days, since I've been paying special attention to that flexibility and range of motion in my joints :) (This one's prob an esp good recommendation for my hypermobile and/or chronic *** folks out there who want to be more comfortable and confident!)

Good girl working so hard to please others when you become strained just a bit longer.

[Ta****]

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